"The gap between people is as far away as China and Africa. ”
Wu Jihong's sentence, whether it is to describe the high-spirited self 23 years ago, or the embarrassed self now, seems to be completely inconsistent.
It is said that knowledge changes fate, when the aura of "a high-talent student" is the same as "marrying a bachelor and giving birth to 6 children", "low-income households", and "not sober minds".
At the same time, focusing on Wu Jihong, the confusion may be far greater than the shock.
From the golden phoenix flying out of the grass nest to the fertility machine in the poor countryside, what has Wu Jihong's life experienced?
01 A talented woman from a poor family, all the way
In 1974, Wu Jihong was born in a small mountain village in Ganzhou, Jiangsu.
Of the four children in the family, she is the second.
In families with many children, usually the eldest is the most valued by the parents, and the eldest is the most favored by the parents.
The children caught in the middle have the lowest sense of presence and are often not welcomed.
But Wu Jihong is an exception.
Because he has been smart and clever since he was a child, his academic performance has always been at the top of his class.
In my sister's words: "She is very good at reading, and everyone in the village likes her very much."
Therefore, Wu Jihong was deeply loved by his father and became the only one of the four children who did not have to do farm work and could devote himself to "full-time study".
In the 80s, there were not many rural families who could attach so much importance to reading, let alone girls.
Wu Jihong's father is the village party secretary, and he firmly believes in "reading to change fate".
Although Wu Jihong is a girl, her talent in learning seems to make her father see the hope of the whole family.
With the support of her father, Wu Jihong devoted herself to her studies and ignored what was going on outside the window.
In 1994, Wu Jihong took the college entrance examination, and she "played extraordinarily" and got the admission letter of the School of Archives of Chinese University with a high score of 712 points.
The college entrance examination in that era can be described as thousands of troops crossing a single-plank bridge, and Wu Jihong was not only admitted to university.
And he was admitted to a 985 college, in the words of the villagers, that is, a golden phoenix flew out of the ravine!
In the eyes of the villagers, Wu Jihong's admission to university means that his life is locked in the "iron rice bowl" in advance.
After graduation, you don't have to worry about a good job, and you may even lead your family to get rid of poverty and become rich, which is really enviable.
When she entered the school, Wu Jihong took a photo at the gate of the National People's University of China.
Burdened with the expectation of the glorious lintel, Wu Jihong did not dare to slack off.
After going to university, she still maintained the momentum of studying hard, others were relaxing and having fun, and she still studied against time.
Even in a prestigious university full of talents, Wu Jihong still has outstanding academic achievements.
She won the "Lantai Scholarship" set up by the National Archives for students of the Department of Archives with excellent results, and she is a well-deserved scholar.
At that time, Wu Jihong was full of hope for the future, and if everything went well, she should become a talent in archives management.
Recalling the high-spirited campus days back then, Wu Jihong said: "Those were the days I was closest to success. ”
In 1996, when Wu Jihong was a sophomore, the state issued a policy that had a profound impact on the employment of college students - the "Interim Measures for the State to Choose Jobs for College Graduates or Above".
This policy marks the end of the once highly sought-after "package distribution" system for college students, which means that college students need to choose their own jobs and face more severe employment challenges.
A grain of sand of the times fell on everyone's heads, heavy as a mountain.
Graduation means entering the test of choosing a career, and Wu Jihong must continue to work hard to climb mountains and mountains.
However, Wu Jihong never thought that fate would play a joke on her one after another.
02 Reality pierces the heart, and he has been defeated repeatedly
In May 1998, the summer when Wu Jihong was about to graduate and leave school, his father who was far away from his hometown was critically ill.
In order not to affect Wu Jihong, who was fighting for the civil service exam, the father insisted that the family hide the illness from his daughter.
She didn't know until her father left.
Wu Jihong did well in the written test of the civil service examination, but she was eliminated in the second round of interviews.
At that time, it had been two years since the policy of canceling the "iron rice bowl" was issued, and the competition for independent employment was extremely "miserable".
Some netizens who graduated at the same time recalled that their college classmates who graduated from the law department interviewed 29 law firms and still did not find a job.
Once, Wu Jihong received an interview notice from the Haidian District Archives in Beijing, asking her to prepare materials for the interview as soon as possible.
But the next day, the other party told her that she didn't use it because someone else had already been admitted.
Wu Jihong, who was helpless, continued to travel to Tianjin, Guangdong and other places to find a job, but he suffered setbacks one after another and still did not find a job.
Later, recalling the past, she said that she was like standing at the "mouth of a cliff" at that time, panicked.
Eventually, she landed a job as an archivist for 3,000 yuan in Guangdong.
At this time, she breathed a sigh of relief before she dared to tell her family about the recent situation.
To Ms. Wu's shock, her sister told her that her father had died a month earlier. Wu Jihong's mind was blank after hearing the news, and he was silent for a long time, and he couldn't cry.
Sister Wu Jihua thought back on this incident and felt that her sister might have been stimulated at that time, and there was a psychological problem.
Wu Jihong's first job didn't last long.
Because of the unsatisfactory interpersonal relationship, she resigned and went to a company that made greeting cards, doing work that was not related to her profession, and her salary was only 1,000 yuan.
A month later, Wu Jihong resigned again.
I went to the garment factory and did the manual work of sewing buttons and cutting clothes.
But this kind of work is obviously not what Wu Jihong is good at, and it didn't take long for her to resign again.
At this time, Wu Jihong seemed to have lost the momentum she had when she graduated, and she was confused and didn't know where she was going.
Her first husband, Guo Changhua, said that he happened to meet Wu Jihong, who had "nothing to do", while wandering around the mall.
Because they were fellow countrymen, the two naturally chatted about the topic.
Guo Changhua recalled that Wu Jihong said that she had no job and was willing to go with him.
Guo Changhua's family is poor, and he has no choice but to go out to work, he didn't dare to think that he could be favored by Wu Jihong, who was highly educated.
In 2000, Wu Jihong and Guo Changhua returned to his hometown of Xiahang Village.
At first, Guo Changhua was very content, after all, he was lucky to marry Wu Jihong on his terms.
However, after living together, he found that Wu Jihong couldn't do any work except for his high education.
Wu Jihong gave birth to a daughter, but she doesn't do housework or take care of children, she likes to go to the video studio to watch videos, and often talks to herself like a demon.
Her state made Guo Changhua feel puzzled and disgusted.
Guo Changhua once took Wu Jihong to the local hospital for examination, but all the drugs prescribed by the doctor to treat "depression" were thrown away by her.
In 2005, Guo Changhua and Wu Jihong ended their 5-year marriage, and Guo Changhua said that "I can't go on".
Soon after Wu Jihong was sent back to her parents' home, she found out that she was pregnant, and she returned to Xiushui in the hope of getting back together with Guo Changhua, but was ruthlessly rejected.
Even so, the desperate Wu Jihong did not return to her parents' home, she was introduced and married into a poor family in a neighboring village, Shishifang Village.
Her second husband, Deng Gaohua, gladly accepted Wu Jihong, who "fled" to his house, and he didn't even know about her "brilliant" experience.
In the 11 years since marrying into the Deng family, Wu Jihong has given birth to 5 children one after another, and the originally poor family is even more stretched.
As for why she had another baby, Wu Jihong's in-laws explained that she had a problem with her mind and was not in good health, so she was not suitable for birth control surgery.
Wu Jihong's life seems to have fallen into a cycle of childbirth, but other than that, she doesn't seem to have any other thoughts.
If it weren't for being glimpsed by the god of fate in targeted poverty alleviation, Wu Jihong's "gray" days don't know how long it would take.
03 See the light at the trough and restart your life
In May 2017, Wu Meihua, a poverty alleviation cadre, visited poor households.
I found this haggard peasant woman in front of me, who had a family of four walls, gave birth to five children, and had a difficult life.
He is an outstanding graduate of the Chinese People's University.
After she wrote an article on Wu Jihong's experience, it quickly sparked heated discussions on the Internet.
The villagers found that the poor household Deng Gaohua's family began to have a group of people to interview.
Everyone is talking about Wu Jihong, who "fled" to the Deng family back then, although I don't know why, but I can guess that their family is going to live a good life.
Wu Jihong's husband Deng Gaohua was the most surprised.
In any case, he never expected that his wife, who had lived together for 11 years and looked no different from an ordinary peasant woman, would be a famous college student.
Compared with her husband's enthusiasm for visiting reporters, Wu Jihong is more cramped and uneasy.
When she saw the reporter, Wu Jihong, who was tall and thin, with half white hair, looked very shy, and she was holding a new mobile phone tightly in her hand, a little overwhelmed.
She has not been in contact with the outside world for more than ten years, and this new mobile phone was just bought by her alumni association after hearing the news.
Wu Jihong found out the job resumes of the graduates of the National People's Congress that year.
It shows that she once served as a class cadre, learned computer programming, and won the "Lantai Scholarship" from the National Archives Administration.
When the reporter asked about the hobbies recorded above, Wu Jihong's eyes suddenly lit up, and she said that she was very fond of aerobics when she was in college.
When she counted the honors of the year, her eyes showed brilliance from time to time, but soon they became dim again.
Deng Gaohua on the side looked at his wife with a little more reverence.
Since coming to Deng's house, Wu Jihong not only does not leave the house and does not deal with the villagers, but even his own family has no contact.
She said she had only made a few phone calls to her mother in the past 11 years.
Deng Gaohua said that Wu Jihong's family did not come when they got married and held wine.
As for why he didn't come and go for 11 years, Wu Jihong said that the road was too far and there was no money.
And the village where she is located is only 5 hours away from her mother's home Ganzhou, and the fare is 70 yuan.
After many contacts with local township cadres, Wu Jihong's family finally came to visit from Ganzhou.
Wu Jihong was very calm when she saw her sister Wu Jihua, but her sister was a little choked, and her sister said that her mother was not in good health and could not come, but she brought 1,000 yuan to Wu Jihong.
Looking at the photo of her mother in her sister's mobile phone, Wu Jihong wondered why her mother was much older than she remembered.
Perhaps, she is really in a trance, their mother and daughter have not seen each other for 11 years, and their mother is in her prime.
Time has really changed so many things.
Regarding what happened to her sister, Wu Jihua believes that "her personality hurt her, she doesn't like to express it, and she takes everything to heart." ”
In her opinion, her father's departure hit Wu Jihong very hard, her faith collapsed, and her psychology also had problems.
Coupled with the failure of his work and his first marriage, he chose to escape and closed himself in a small mountain village.
But when asked why he hadn't come to visit her and cared about her for so many years, Wu Jihua was silent.
Wu Jihong's in-laws and sister all thought she had mental problems.
However, after a long talk with Wu Jihong, Zhang Wenfeng, vice president of Xiushui County Maternal and Child Health Hospital, concluded that he was mentally normal, but there were psychological problems.
Zhang Wenfeng explained that Wu Jihong's emotional indifference has a lot to do with the lack of long-term family affection.
Different from the nervousness and shyness when facing reporters, the appearance of the "mother's family" of the Chinese People's University made Wu Jihong both excited and emotional.
When An Qingfu, the head teacher of the year, saw Wu Jihong's news on the Internet, he was shocked and even more heartbroken.
He and the school representatives went to visit Wu Jihong as a "mother's family", gave her support, and said that they would "bring her back to the team".
When he walked into Wu Jihong's home, it was a dilapidated house isolated at the foot of the mountain.
The house seemed to have not been cleaned up for a long time, and it was messy as far as the eye could see, and An Qingfu also had a trace of surprise.
Recalling his time at school, Wu Jihong smiled rarely.
For An Qingfu to encourage her to regain her professionalism and self-confidence, she said "I must work hard".
But she knew in her heart that she was no longer the same as her classmates.
After becoming "famous", Wu Jihong became the key poverty alleviation target of Xiushui County, and the family finally moved from a dilapidated house to a new two-story house.
The alumni association of the "mother's backer" Renmin University is also very helpful, donating money to buy furniture and household appliances for her, sending books and computers, and promising to sponsor her children to go to school in the next 10 years.
With the help of many parties, Wu Jihong was able to be placed to work in the local archives administration, and her husband also had a kitchen job with a monthly salary of 3,000 yuan.
After 11 years of marriage, the couple experienced a promising day for the first time.
Maybe Wu Jihong didn't expect that graduating from a prestigious school could not help her go on a smooth road from now on, but the effect of a famous school finally redeemed a village woman on the verge of despair.
Wu Jihong's embarrassing experience has both social and personal factors.
Every major choice she makes is an accident of time and the inevitability of her character.
And the high expectations in the original family and the long-term lack of love made her even worse when she encountered setbacks.
Write at the end:
Wu Jihong's life is a bit heavy.
The script of her fate has the ruthlessness and indifference of reality, and it also reflects too many people's misunderstanding of knowledge, success and failure and life in reality.
What kind of life do you want to live? There is no standard answer to this question.
Some people do their best to pursue that glimmer of hope and dream, while others are at ease with what comes their way and understand the true meaning of life in the ordinary.
In the face of life's uncertainties and challenges, although we can't control everything, we can at least control ourselves and live a positive and optimistic life.
Live well, this is true for Wu Jihong, and it is the same for everyone.
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