If you have experienced the impermanence of fate, then you must read Yu Hua's "Alive".
Fugui, the protagonist of "Alive", is the only son of the landlord's family and a veritable broad boy. He "wandered in his youth, wanted to dig in his middle age, and became a monk in his old age".
Fugui experienced a process from prosperity to decline, from joy to sorrow in his life, and sold all his family property to pay off his debts due to gambling debts, and fell from a large landlord to a poor man overnight.
experienced the death of his father, the illness of his mother, the capture of a strong man by the Kuomintang troops, the capture of the People's Liberation Army, the deaf and dumb daughter, the death of the son due to excessive blood drawing, and finally the death of his wife, daughter, son-in-law, and grandson one after another.
His life was full of despair and pain, but he was not defeated by fate, and always believed that "as long as he lived, he must dare to take responsibility".
Fugui's life, except suffering or suffering, nothing else, but from Fugui's own point of view, his suffering experience is full of happiness and joy, he believes that his wife, son, daughter, son-in-law, grandson are the best relatives in the world, and the old scalper who has always accompanied him called "Fugui", friends who have lived together, are all happy and happy.
Yu Hua said: "Life belongs to everyone's own feelings, not to anyone else's opinions. ”
Man does not live to cater to others, but to live for himself. Let go of other people's eyes and live your true self. Don't be disturbed by external objects, don't be trapped by the outside world, live your own light, live freely, live unhurriedly, live calmly and contentmently.
No matter how hard life is, there will always be a time to pass. When life encounters difficulties and troughs, we must be like Fugui, no matter how big the disaster is, we must insist on living, only by living can we have hope and a turnaround.
Some people have thoughts of suicide because of changes in their lives. But there is only one life, as Mai Jia said in "The Sea of Life":
"In the sea of life, daring to die is not called courage, but courage is needed to live. ”
Fugui in "Alive", the "seven deaths" in his life, and the "Colonel" in "The Sea of Life" have experienced pain and tribulation in their lives, they have all experienced life and death, and in the face of the impermanence of the world, they have all survived and survived.
In today's society, it is common to hear about college students, middle school students, and even elementary school students jumping off buildings, which is embarrassing.
According to the China Youth Suicide Report, about 100,000 adolescents die by suicide every year, and every minute 2 children die by suicide and 8 children attempt suicide.
There are many reasons for the tragedy, such as the discipline of parents, the strictness of teachers, and the social family. Causing the loss of life and the withering of the flower season make people sigh.
But there is something wrong with social, family, and school education. Today's children are born to grow up in the greenhouse, did not withstand the wind and rain, did not suffer the tempering of life, set thousands of pampered "little princesses" and "little emperors", parents have high expectations for them, they all want them to become dragons and phoenixes, do not recognize the children's abilities and strengths, do not accept the mediocrity of children, and want every child to take the 985 test and go to a prestigious school.
Failure to pay attention to children's personality differences, blindly pursuing scores, blindly pursuing academic performance, ignoring students' mental health problems, and finally leading children to the road of no return.
As a parent, we should accompany our children more, understand their children's hearts, understand and treat their children's psychological problems in a timely manner, accept their children's imperfections, actively guide them out of the trough and confusion of life, change their own education methods, and accompany their children to grow up healthily.
As a parent, you must guide them to read Yu Hua's "Alive". When facing the difficulties and hardships of life, we must face them bravely, even if life is hard and tired, and the road ahead is difficult and bumpy, we must live strongly.
Only by living can people live their own values, realize their beautiful wishes, and create their own wonderful lives.
Qin Yi, once called "China's most beautiful woman" by Premier Zhou, is the only Chinese actress who has been awarded the national honorary title of "People's Artist".
She lived to be 100 years old beautifully and gracefully, but her life was full of ups and downs, experiencing two unhappy marriages, domestic violence by her ex-husband, cheating on her husband, illness on her son, and cancer herself.
In her later years, Qin Yi's closest people around her left her one after another, "after ups and downs, only loneliness was left as a companion". But she still guards the film career she loves, and she is still optimistic and open-minded.
In 2014, at the age of more than 90, she also wrote and acted in a movie "Qinghai Lakeside", and climbed to the 4,300-meter Qinghai-Tibet Plateau for filming.
For her, this is not only the process of fulfilling a dream, but also the awe of life and the love of performing arts, and she has dedicated her life to the Chinese film industry.
In the face of the Wenchuan and Yushu earthquake disasters, she extended a helping hand and donated more than hundreds of thousands of yuan for disaster relief. For the sake of public welfare, she even auctioned her late son's paintings, and transferred all the proceeds to the foundation, warming more people in need with great love.
With her talent and love, she has influenced countless people and become the "most beautiful struggler" and "people's artist" in people's hearts.
Life is impermanent, and when you open your eyes, you don't know what unhappy and unsatisfactory things you will encounter one day, and you don't know if the road ahead is bumpy and thorny.
But instead of letting yourself live in pain forever, it is better to live every day happily and live up to this great time. Life is finite, but only a hundred years.
Why bother with fame and fortune, success and failure, prosperity and loneliness. Everything is a passing cloud, and everything will be cleared. Life must learn to live transparently, and it doesn't matter what you gain or lose.
Life is your own, the road is to walk by yourself, let yourself live freely, live happily, is the most important thing.
We must learn to overcome joys and sorrows, know our own warmth and coldness, learn to empty ourselves and reconcile with ourselves, and learn to face them calmly and calmly.
There was once such a story:
There was an old man who was dying when he saw a man walking over with a box in his hand.
Curious, he asked, "What is in the box?" and the man replied, "All that is in it are your relics." ”
He asked, "What is it, is it the wealth I once had?"
The man replied, "No, all the riches do not belong to you, but to this world." ”
Then he asked, "Is it all about my memory?" and the man said, "No, because your memory belongs to time." ”
The old man said, "Then it should be my body." ”
But the man said, "No, because your body is dust." ”
When the man opened the box, it was empty.
The old man said, "I have worked all my life, and I have never had anything." ”
The man finally said, "Every moment of your life belongs to you." ”
Therefore, everything in this world does not belong to you, it belongs to yourself, just every moment of being alive.
People live a lifetime, they have too many desires, they always want to have too much wealth and fame, and in the end all this will not belong to you.
You are happy to come, you go empty-handed, and the only thing that belongs to you is every moment of your life.
To be alive is the best gift in the world to us, and it is also a gift we give ourselves to ourselves.
Mr. Yang Jiang said:
"The world is our own, and it has nothing to do with others. ”
Only by living well can there be hope in life, and only by living hard can life be abundant. To live is to cherish the present, cherish every day of life, cherish the time spent with loved ones, cherish the flowers blooming and falling clouds, and cherish the happiness and beauty in front of you.
In the American folk song "Old Black Slave", it is sang:
"The world kisses me with pain, and I return it with a song. The old black slave sung in the song, like Fugui, has experienced a lifetime of hardships, and his family has left one after another, but he still calmly faces the suffering, seeks a new life in the suffering, and finds his own way of living.
Yu Hua wrote in the preface to "Alive":
"There is nothing happier than being alive, and nothing is harder than being alive. ”
At dusk, Fugui drove the old cow home, the glow sprinkled on their bodies, and the song of hope floated outside the field, what a picture of harmony and serenity.
It's hard to live, but there's always joy. Life is hard, and it's not easy to live.
We must learn to let go of troubles, let go of joys and sorrows, look down on life and death, and see the world clearly.
Embrace life with a good heart, cherish happiness and embrace hope, live in the present, face it calmly, accept reality, and keep your heart warm.