My name is Wang Daming, I am 58 years old and I am a retired worker. The character is a little stubborn, but he loves his family very much. Since childhood, his family has been poor, and he knows that it is not easy to support his family, so he works hard and takes care of his children in every way.
My heart pounded. Since I beat up their brothers and sisters, my wife and I have been raising them since they were children, and now that they have started a family, I still regard my children as the root of my life, how can I see them suffer a little grievance? After hanging up the phone, I said to my wife: "The children have not had a good time lately, let's give them some living expenses every month." "
"The children have been raised by the two of us desperately since they were young, and now they have their own families, and life is tight, so let's give more help to these old people. I patted the back of my wife's hand and said earnestly.
My wife nodded, her eyes full of kindness: "Yes, they are all our hearts, watching them endure hardships, we two old people can't stand it." "
My heart was warm, and I reached out and hugged my wife. Although our family is ordinary, as long as our children are healthy, we are content.
The second daughter also thanked her repeatedly: "Dad, you and Mom are so considerate of us, we will definitely work harder." "
Even the youngest son, who usually doesn't talk much, said a lot of words of thanks to our old couple.
When we listened to this, it was too late to be happy in our hearts, and we were moved to tears by the deep bowing of our three children one by one. Looking at their deferential appearance, my heart was completely filled with warmth.
However, the good times were short-lived. At first, I only gave each of them about 1,000 yuan a month for living expenses, but gradually, this amount could not meet their needs.
My second daughter and youngest son also told me about their recent life difficulties.
I understand the plight of my children, but we don't have much money left in our pensions. I had to repeatedly tell them to be diligent and thrifty, and at the same time raised the living expenses to 2,000 yuan per person.
Since then, I have been giving 7,500 yuan a month to my three children, which is a lot of money for us seniors, but as long as I can see them living a good life, I am relieved.
The eldest son works in a factory, and although his income is average, he can barely make ends meet. The second daughter works as a clerk in a company, and her salary is only three or four thousand yuan. The youngest son works as a waiter in a restaurant, and in addition to his salary, he also earns tips.
Once, I overheard my eldest son talking to his friend, and he said, "My younger siblings and I have really not had any stress lately, thanks to my parents' monthly payments. "
"Yes, your parents are really good people, and I don't have such good things in my family. My friend praised it from the bottom of his heart.
The eldest son responded, and his tone was full of happiness: "Yes, we have to be filial to our parents and repay them for their nurturing kindness." "
I nodded secretly, and when I saw that my children were well, my heart was completely relieved.
Gradually, however, I began to reflect on whether my actions were reasonable. I have to give most of my monthly pension to my children, and my wife and I are starting to struggle to make ends meet.
I started to feel a little guilty and guilty, perhaps because of my stubbornness, which led me to act passively. I began to think calmly that maybe it was time to give my children some better guidance.
I sat alone at home, watching the sun go down the window, and my heart was full of mixed feelings. Should I have a direct showdown with my children? But I really can't be ruthless, and I hesitate at the thought that they might be trapped in life.
I hesitated for a while, until one day, my three children called again, and their voices were full of grievances and dissatisfaction.
"Dad, why do you give us so little money? Look at it, now that the price is so high and the rent has risen again, how can 7,500 yuan be enough?" The eldest son complained.
"That's right, Dad, you shouldn't be so stingy, right? The second daughter also chimed in.
I was provoked by their words, and my anger came to the ground: "What are you talking about? I'm going to give you all my pension! If it weren't for your lack of greed, wouldn't 7,500 yuan be enough to spend?"
"Okay, okay, if you want money, if you want to run away from home, run away!" I yelled and slammed the phone on the table.
For the next month, we were in this state of cold war. My children never called again, and I felt that they were too unproductive, and gradually developed a sense of revenge.
Finally, one day, all three children came to our house, all with gloomy faces.
"Dad, is that what you think of us, just because we're a little more demanding, and you're angry with us like that?" The eldest son spoke first.
"Yes, Dad, are you no longer treating us as your own children?" The second daughter also complained.
Angered by their words, I stood up and shouted: "You white-eyed wolf cubs, eat inside and out! Have you forgotten all the kindness I have given you for so many years?"
"Shut up, get out of here! From today on, you three don't bother me anymore!" I roared loudly and pointed out the door.
When my three children saw that I was going crazy, they had no choice but to leave. My wife tugged at my sleeve, tears streaming down my face, but she couldn't say a word of dissuasion.
In this way, I was kicked out of the house and began a life of wandering.
The night my children kicked out of my home, I wandered the streets aimlessly, full of anger and helplessness. My heart was filled with resentment and disappointment towards my children, and I felt that all the years of parenting had been forgotten.
Just as I was feeling mixed feelings, a passerby suddenly tapped me on the shoulder. I subconsciously turned my head and saw an old man with gray hair looking at me with concern.
"What's wrong with you, old man, why are you alone here in a daze?" He asked kindly.
I was a little wary, but looking at his kind gaze, my heart relaxed for no apparent reason. So, I told the story of how I was kicked out of my home by my children.
The old man listened quietly, nodding from time to time. When I had finished speaking, he suddenly spoke: "Old man, you are such a good father. But have you ever wondered if it's because you spoil your children so much that they slowly become vexatious?"
"You see, parents love their children the most, but if they are too spoiled, they will harm their children. The old man said earnestly, "You should give them some proper guidance and restraint, instead of unprincipled indulgence." "
I looked through my memories of the past, carefully recalling each stage of my child's growth from childhood to adulthood. Did I pamper them too much from the very beginning? As long as they were coquettish, I would agree to all their requests.
When it was getting dark, I finally made up my mind. I want to correct my ways and guide my children in the right way, instead of being led by the nose. I want to use my actions to win the respect and love of my children again.
When he came to his eldest son's house, he was still wary at first. But seeing my sincere expression, his expression gradually softened.
"Kid, I'm sorry, it's all Dad's fault. I lowered my head and said sincerely, "Dad dotes on you too much, that's why you slowly become vexatious." However, that doesn't mean Dad doesn't love you anymore. "
I patted him on the back and was so relieved. It seems that as long as there is sincere communication, all barriers can be eliminated.
Next, I visited my second daughter and my youngest son. They were wary at first, but with my sincere apologies, they finally accepted me again.
"Dad, you are the best dad, we are too willful. The second daughter hugged me, her eyes full of apologies.
"Yes, Dad, you just love us so much, but we get carried away. The youngest son also lowered his head, looking very remorseful.
Seeing my three children surround me again, my heart was completely filled with happiness. Yes, family affection is so precious, it can dissolve all barriers and mustards.
My life has changed dramatically since then. I no longer give to my children unilaterally, but communicate with them on an equal footing and understand each other's situation.
When my eldest son has difficulties at work, I will take the initiative to help him. When my second daughter has emotional problems, I will give thoughtful advice; My youngest son wants to start a business, and I encourage him to pursue his dreams.
And my children are more filial to me and my wife. They would visit us regularly and help with household chores. On holidays, they cook and prepare delicious meals for us.
Once, I accidentally sprained my back, and my three children immediately rushed to take care of me. My eldest son gave me a sports massage, my second daughter carefully cooked nutritious meals for me, and my younger son took care of my daily life considerately. Looking at their courteous appearance, my heart was completely wrapped in warmth.
Yes, family affection is so beautiful. It is not a one-sided effort, but mutual care and understanding. As long as we cherish it in the right way, it will always warm our hearts.
In this way, with the love of my children, my life became happy and peaceful again. My home is filled with laughter and laughter, and my heart is always filled with happiness.
Every weekend, my three children would accompany my old couple to play chess, go for walks, and do exercises. Sometimes, they bring their children to stay at home for a few days. At that time, the house was lively and full of laughter.