Hello dear readers and friends~
In a relationship, many times we always want to take out our hearts and show them to each other, hoping that the other person can also love with all our heart like us. But sometimes, this expression can backfire.
I have a friend whose first love was like a fiery flame but eventually burned herself out. She originally had many advantages, but she lost a lot in love. She always gives wholeheartedly, but the other party seems to be indifferent.
At first, she chose him because she liked his maturity and stability. But as time went by, she fell deeper and deeper and began to care too much about the other party's words and deeds. She did many things for him, even at the expense of her feelings, but in the end she found herself in an endless quagmire.
She thought that the more she showed her love, the more the other person would love her. But in fact, love is a game that requires both parties to participate together. When she shows her love excessively, it makes the other person feel a kind of pressure and discomfort.
Falling in love is like raising flowers, which require moderate watering and pruning. If you blindly show your own sense of need and emotional dependence, it will be like overwatering, making the other person feel bored and avoided.
Another friend of mine had a similar experience. The person she liked was very obedient to her, but it made her feel stressed. Eventually, her feelings for him diminished because she felt that her love was no longer cherished.
So, no matter how much you love someone, remember to maintain a moderate level of distance and independence. Don't let the other person feel that your love is too heavy, otherwise he will only feel evasive and bored.
Love needs to be balanced, and it requires the joint efforts and dedication of both parties. Only in this way can the relationship go further.
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