Everyone hopes that their relatives can grow old together and rely on each other. However, when a conflict of interest arises, it is often difficult for family affection to resist the temptation of money. In recent years, there have been cases of children fighting over their parents' property. The mother in this article faces a similar dilemma.
The 59-year-old Granny Lin had planned to enjoy her old age at a leisurely pace after her retirement. Unexpectedly, her husband died in a car accident, and her son's business failed, so he came to ask for compensation; The daughter was planning to buy a house, but the son took it for herself. For a while, Granny Lin was in a dilemma and was in a dilemma. It all stems from his son's greed and vexatiousness.
The son was supposed to be self-reliant, but Granny Lin was soft-hearted and helped him pay off his debts, which resulted in more demands. Faced with the conflict of interests between her children, Granny Lin tried to protect her daughter's rights and interests, but she was worried about her son's livelihood. This ambivalence tormented her, but her son turned a blind eye and only blindly asked for money.
Family affection is supposed to be higher than money, but when the family is only left with a monetary relationship, it becomes especially difficult to maintain a relationship. What the son did was tantamount to emptying his mother's pension, but he didn't take into account Granny Lin's feelings at all. This is beyond the scope of the obligations of a normal child.
In fact, in mainland China, children are not obligated to bear the debts of their parents. According to the Marriage Law of the People's Republic of China, children should care for the elderly, but the debts of parents should not be borne by children. The son's forcible demand that Granny Lin pay his debts has constituted mental abuse of his mother.
The reason for this situation is not unrelated to the lack of legal protection for the rights and interests of the elderly on the mainland. Although the Law of the People's Republic of China on the Protection of the Rights and Interests of the Elderly has been promulgated for many years, its specific operation is still lacking. In many places, there is a practice of focusing only on results rather than procedures, and the wishes of the elderly are often ignored. Just like the predicament faced by Granny Lin, she was deprived of her choice and could only be at the mercy of her children.
In fact, in developed countries, the rights and interests of older persons are more protected by law. The U.S. Senior Citizens Act not only protects the basic needs of the elderly, but also includes mental health rights. Germany's Law on Ageing emphasizes respecting the wishes of the elderly and guaranteeing their right to participate in decision-making. The mainland urgently needs to learn from the successful experience of other countries, further improve relevant laws, and earnestly safeguard the legitimate rights and interests of the elderly.
On the other hand, the concept of family also needs to be renewed. With the progress of society, people should no longer rely on traditional customs to restrict children's behavior, but also need to build an equal consensus. Children should learn to be self-reliant and respect their parents, rather than treating them as an inexhaustible resource. At the same time, the elderly should also take the initiative to communicate with their children and protect their rights.
This change in the traditional concept of family requires a process. However, only by reconstructing family relationships and making them more equal and rational can we avoid the predicament encountered by Granny Lin. Family members should be both attached to each other and should remain sane. Only by caring for each other and respecting each other can family affection flow without drying up.
Granny Lin's situation is sympathetic. An ordinary elderly person is powerless in the face of benefit distribution, which is no longer acceptable in today's society. To solve this problem, legal safeguards and conceptual renewal must go hand in hand.
To provide for and enjoy the elderly, we need the joint efforts of all sectors of society. No matter how close the blood relationship, family affection should not be based solely on material foundations. Only by returning to the essence of the family and rebuilding the relationship can we resolve the difficulties faced by Granny Lin and other elderly people, so that they can truly feel the love and respect of their children.
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