Most people have romantic fantasies about holiday travel, hoping that every bit of spending time with their sweetheart in a different place can be turned into precious memories.
However, travel often backfires, and travel becomes a painful catalyst, allowing problems and contradictions to be ruthlessly magnified.
The small problem of hiding the ears and stealing the bell in daily life will become extremely dazzling in dense interactions.
No wonder someone said, "If you don't have even a short trip, you're doomed to be unfit." "
For example, one of my best friends, Xiaoyu, has been talking to her boyfriend Xiao Ming for four years.
The two traveled to Thailand together last year, which was supposed to be a sweet and romantic seven-day event, but after Xiaoyu came back, they learned from the pain and broke up.
We were all puzzled, and then she told her why.
It turns out that Xiao Ming is a game fan, but Xiao Yu likes outdoor activities.
When they were in China, the two of them could go their separate ways, but when they arrived in a foreign country, Xiao Ming played games all day long in the hotel, and he was not emotional about the seaside activities arranged by Xiaoyu.
Of course, Xiaoyu is also at fault, she is too complacent to arrange her itinerary and does not consider her boyfriend's preferences at all.
In the end, the two of them said a word to me in Thailand, turned against each other and broke up unhappily after returning home.
Clever as you are, you must have guessed my point.
When traveling, the run-in between the two is unprecedentedly tight, and all the incompatible places will be exposed without concealment.
The so-called "the world is chaotic and difficult to see people", now on the other hand, it is the most real to see people on the journey.
For example:
Do you value each other's feelings?
For example, on the road, do you patiently wait for the other party to take pictures and listen to the other party tell what you have seen and heard during the journey?
Or do you often perfunctory and indifferent to what the other person says?
The details are there.
Do you respect each other's personalities and preferences?
Traveling is for vacation relaxation, and any restraint and imposition on others is to dwarf the other party.
Of course, don't let it go, it's all up to one person's preference.
A good way to do this is to be considerate of each other and make reasonable compromises.
Is it appropriate to discuss ways to solve the problem?
People are not sages, and there will always be setbacks and misunderstandings during the journey, the key is whether the two of them meet each other sincerely and discuss rationally, or hurt each other in an offensive and sarcastic way?
The former is a wise man, and the latter can only die without a disease.
Is it tolerant and knows how to remedy the damage?
It is inevitable that anyone will lose their words or do something wrong, and a good partner will be considerate and forgiving, rather than complaining and holding grudges.
A humorous way to remedy the damage is even better.
The above is just the tip of the iceberg, and the relationship between the two during the journey reveals the truth all the time.
Those pretentious and hard-to-maintain relationships will be self-defeating when they get along intensively in different places.
In this case, it is better to be neat, why let the trip down?
Why don't we take this opportunity to see if the other person is a good match for our ideal partner?
If it is appropriate, of course, go down together; If it's not suitable, don't force it, just divide it, after all, "if the fake drama is really real, it's better to be real".
Only by being worthy of your own heart can you be happy.
That being said, I'm not advocating a rash breakup.
Moderation is the most reasonable, all in control.
As the old saying goes: "Even if the small is not rebellious, it should be followed; Although the great is not rebellious, it must also be feared.
"If you are together, you can break up calmly, this is the attitude of a wise man.
Finally, I would like to share a little story with you.
Last year, my fiancé and I were traveling around Southeast Asia and accidentally dropped our passport in the Mekong River one day in Laos.
At that time, we were both very anxious, but instead of reproaching me, he comforted me and said, "It's okay, as long as we are together, any difficulties can be overcome."
It was these words that resolved my self-blame and pain, and gave me great courage and hope.
Life will inevitably encounter setbacks, the key is to have someone by your side who will always support you.
So friends, stop clinging to the old hypocritical romances, and let them just go with the wind.
If you feel that this person is indeed suitable after traveling together, then take advantage of each other and cherish the fate you have now; If it is not suitable, break up happily, the world is so vast, you will be able to find the one who has a soul match with you.
Let it go and look for it, and have a great trip!