Both parents and children are often reluctant to admit the gap in thinking skills, preferring to attribute it to a lack of effort. Many blue-collar workers often lament that the gap between themselves and doctors, teachers, and civil servants is only because they didn't work hard enough. They have forgotten that the fundamental reason why they are unwilling to learn is because they can't learn and don't understand, and they don't want to eat the hard work of expanding their thinking, not that they are very smart, but that they just don't work hard.
The hard work of the brain needs to take the initiative to eat, whether it is study or work, and the hard work of life is the hard work of not wanting to eat the hard work of the brain and having to eat. The so-called learning effort is the need to constantly break through the thinking ability, rather than simply the accumulation of time.
But with the passage of time, many people have forgotten the lack of learning and thinking ability, and just think that they are not sensible and unwilling to work hard, and do not want to let this regret continue in their children, and ignore the lack of people and people's thinking ability.
In the eyes of outsiders, some parents can't fly, but simply ask their offspring to fly, which seems incredible, but parents in it often have their own filters and halos, not only for themselves, but also for their own children who are affected by their genes, they were very smart but didn't work hard, and their children must be the same.
Such parents and children will be very tired, parents are detached from actual expectations, goal setting beyond the child's ability, cognitive limitations that are rewarded when they invest, and too much downplay the gap in talent. In the eyes of parents, other people's children are only better than they work harder, and their children can't reach that height because they don't work hard enough.
On the contrary, the stronger the learning ability, the more parents understand the difficulty of learning, and they do not simply put pressure on their children, but try their best to give their children thinking guidance.