8-16 year old children procrastinate and are not self-disciplined, introductive and unconfident, want to do but do not execute, and have no motivation to cope with learning...... If you want to "cure the roots", the root is in the internal drive and mental energy (click)!
I am an internal drive coach, the main creator of the "five senses internal drive" method, the biggest feature is "landing", eliminating the common problem of "knowing but not doing", so that children are self-disciplined and self-confident. Numerous Parents Testimony Effective!(Acquisition: Nurturing Program)
I have 4 mantras and 5 "meaty words", they all have their own "nutrition", as long as you are willing to say it and often tell your child, it can 100% improve your child's internal motivation.
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Boost motivation 4 mantras
If your child is not motivated to learn, you should remember the following 4 mantras, say them three times a day, and your child will transform in a month.
【Sentence 1】"Baby, help me, what should I do? I can't figure it out, come on, my head is big, I need you to help my parents."
Parents show weakness, children become stronger, mothers who can do everything, can only raise waste children, everything is right, will definitely make children become obedient and stupid! Always let children feel that they are needed, useful, and even a savior, not saved, this is to cultivate children's sense of value.
[Sentence 2] "Baby, you still have to make the decision, you can order today's dishes, and you can arrange where to travel on the weekend."
This is to exercise the child's choice and decision-making ability, the child's life can not be his own decision, sooner or later will be rebellious, let him make choices and make decisions he has a sense of responsibility and achievement. And you have to help him do it perfectly, and then you will find that your child has a light in his eyes, a smile on his face, and a child's enlightenment.
【Sentence 3】"Baby, what are your plans for today?"
Repeatedly, children will form their own plans, and only with plans can children have internal drive, a sense of responsibility, and a sense of autonomy.
【Sentence 4】"Baby, mom is thirsty, mom wants to drink water"
This sentence seems too ordinary, but it contains the secret of children's sensibility.
"Mom's thirst" is to express feelings, so that children can feel their mother's feelings, and children will be more conscientious and sensible. "Mommy wants to drink water" is to express your needs, and your child will meet your needs from the heart. Always remember: expressing feelings and giving invitations, rather than asking or ordering children to do something, is an external drive. Long-term external drive, children will be rebellious sooner or later.
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Good children are affirmed by parents
Good children are not forced out, they are "routines" of parents! The following five sentences, adults may be numb when they listen to them, but as soon as you praise the child, he will take the initiative to be obedient.
Because all these words convey the same thing - a sense of accomplishment and a sense of worth, which is the psychological nutrition of the child's motivation.
[Sentence 1] "Wow, the layout of this assignment is so neat and tidy, alas, it seems that you are writing so seriously today", this is a boast of attitude.
[Sentence 2] "Oh, you have a point, go on, I want to hear it", this sentence can make the child become confident, make him very close to you, and no longer be introverted and timid.
[Sentence 3] "It's really comfortable to look at the bookcase you organized, it's better than what I organized, can you teach me how to store it", this is to praise his ability, so that the child can develop the habit of doing things in an orderly manner from an early age, and at the same time, it is also cultivating his sense of worth.
【Sentence 4】"It's so good, you didn't give up on this difficult thing, in fact, I know that many classmates didn't persevere, so my mother thinks you're very good", this is praising his perseverance and character.
[Sentence 5] "Thank you for so many years, study so hard, my mother has saved a lot of tutoring money, compared to many other people's children, you have saved thousands a year, baby thank you."
4 mantras and 5 "meaty words" are finished, as long as you can say them, they will be effective. But you can't necessarily say it (especially if you say it with feelings), because you are caught up in some subconscious thoughts, and you need to discover it and adjust it, otherwise you will definitely not be able to land.
I found that almost all failed education is because children have no internal drive, no learning and no grades, parents are in a hurry, you have emotions, use external drive, and finally the child becomes rebellious!
For more ways to implement internal motivation, please read the following article to help you "educate the landing" and "do" (not just "know")
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1. Three steps to cultivate internal drive, I am a "person who has come over": After contacting more than 2,000 children, I have summed up a set of methods to ensure that the children's internal drive is improved!
2. "Five Senses Internal Drive" Landing Solution: I use the "Five Senses" method to help you solve the problem of internal drive, so that children are self-disciplined and motivated
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