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The persistence and dilemma of older leftover women: brave or stubborn?
Our country is a country with a heavy tradition, and we pay attention to "men should get married, and women should get married". The following incident of the older single woman may touch the heartstrings of many people.
Xiaobian will talk to us about the story of Qianqian (pseudonym), a 34-year-old woman in Linyi, Shandong, to see why she insists on being single, and the bitterness and choice behind it.
The self-world of a single princess
Speaking of Qianqian, behind this ordinary name, there is an extraordinary heart. After graduating from high school, she embarked on the road of going out to work, which has been going for more than ten years.
In the corner of the bustling city, there is a small and inconspicuous apartment, which is a gentle corner for her to stay away from the hustle and bustle. After meeting the basic needs of life, the rest of the 7,000 yuan salary earned by hard work every month was carefully saved by her, and every penny carried a heavy sense of stability. In her heart, she has such a simple and unpretentious creed: "There is always money in the pocket, and the heart is naturally worry-free." This financial confidence given by herself has become her most solid support and the most real comfort.
Marriage, really non-essential?
As she gets older year by year, her peers around her have entered the marriage hall one by one, but Qianqian still sticks to her single position.
But she is not in a hurry, firmly believing that marriage is not a necessary choice in life, and she is even more unwilling to get married for the sake of marriage.
Whenever her family offered her a blind date, she always refused, saying that she would wait for the pure love of the right person.
Such persistence may be a little naïve in the eyes of outsiders, but in her heart, it is responsible for her future happiness.
Parents' anxiety and helplessness
There is no one who worries more about their children's marriage than their parents. Qianqian's parents, seeing that their daughter was about to cross the threshold of forty, felt like a stone in their hearts.
In a small county like theirs, the daughter's singleness has become a topic of conversation among the neighbors after dinner, and this invisible pressure makes the old couple breathless. The mother tried to persuade Qianqian, and even suggested that her daughter consider divorcing a man, but in exchange for her daughter's fierce opposition.
The angry mother shook her head: "I can't control it, I can't control it!" The mother's tears are helpless for her daughter's incomprehension, and also a sigh for the collision of traditional concepts and modern concepts.
The two heavens of ice and fire in online public opinion
But when this family dispute was put on the Internet, Qianqian, who wanted to seek resonance, was unexpectedly "bombarded" by netizens. Some people say that she is too naïve and does not understand reality;
Some people also accused her of being inconsiderate of her parents and thinking too highly of herself.
But in this hustle and bustle, there are also voices of understanding, supporting Qianqian's pursuit of true love and respecting the right of personal choice.
The comments from netizens are really to the point!
After reading the comments of these netizens, I don't know what you think, welcome to leave a message in the comment area, let's discuss together!
Is it a pursuit or a compromise?
At this point, I don't have to ask whether marriage is the pursuit of perfection or the acceptance of perfection in imperfection? Is there a standard answer to this? Everyone has the right to live at their own pace and in their own way, but they cannot ignore the feelings and worries of those around them. Qianqian's choice reflects the strong desire of contemporary women to pursue independence, but it also reveals the difficulty of surviving in the gap between traditional and modern values.
If you meet such an older woman, are you willing to marry her? This is not only a multiple-choice question, but also a profound torture of the modern society's view of marriage.
FYI
The article is almost at the end, and the editor has an imagination, on a spring afternoon, Qianqian finally met the one who made her heart move and was willing to listen to her inner world. He is not perfect, but their souls are compatible and they respect each other. In understanding and tolerance, the two built a warm little home together, proving the meaning of waiting and perseverance. And Qianqian's parents finally relieved when they saw their daughter's happy appearance, and understood that the true meaning of love is not in the form, but in the meeting of two hearts.
Whether you choose to get married or stay single, it is important to be true to your heart, but also to learn to understand and communicate, so that love grows in understanding and life is beautiful because of love. In this era of rapid change, let's look at every soul who chooses a different way of life with more tolerance and understanding.
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