The 9-point drama "We Are Not Kind Enough" is too real.
More than once, I received calls from the heroines of the play, Jian Qingfen and Rebecca, in the middle of the night, asking me if I had chosen the wrong job, an object or the current lifestyle.
They are all like the heroines in the play, they seem to have a good life and good social functioning, but if there is a pain detector, you will find that the pain level and alcohol concentration inside are super high.
The heroine in the play, Jian Qingfen, must have felt very happy when she first got married. The husband is handsome and motivated, and soon has a well-behaved child, and there is a job that is not busy or heavy to adjust. She grew up in an ordinary and stable family, and the best way out for being educated is to marry a good man. But after five years and ten years, the happiness brought by a good man has gradually faded, not only does he miss his ex-girlfriend, but he will only be with mud when his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradict him, and even often want to sacrifice your feelings in exchange for peace. Chicken and dog fragments of life floated to the surface. Boredom in stability also becomes a murder knife.
So, Jian Qingfen began to look for excitement for herself, found the social network of her former rival Rebecca, and peeked into each other's lives. She once took over the stable happiness in the hands of Rebecca, but Rebecca's current life makes her even more envious: "Dating a boy who is 10 years younger than herself, holding a deposit of 18 million, and having surprises every day, what a happy life it should be!"
But in Rebecca's eyes, there is not much happiness, the boy who is 10 years younger is just a friend, the 18 million deposit does not exist, in addition to more loneliness in a single life, the price of freedom is no less than that of a housewife.
In the play, Rebecca's assistant resigns and says that she doesn't want to be Rebecca, and that when she is 40 years old, she always eats alone and only has endless work late at night. Loneliness in freedom is also a murder knife.
With "We Are Not Kind Enough" all the way up, "Are you Jian Qingfen or Rebecca?" has become a hot search question on social networks in the past few days. If you want to say the answer, I think, we are both Jian Qingfen and Rebecca.
Their confusion and pain are also a common dilemma for contemporary women. He longs for stability and freedom, and he has already perceived the lie in stability, and he has clearly seen the difficulties on the road to independence. Everyone wanders, tears, and fights in these two values, old and new, and there is no new smooth road to run to, and everyone is confused and uneasy, where should they go. Therefore, I can't help but think all the time: What kind of life does a woman have to live in order to be satisfied and happy? Thinking when a girl who was disciplined when she was a child should be like a girl, thinking when choosing a major and job, thinking when preparing for childbirth, and thinking about countless tossing and turning inexplicably boring nights.
The good thing about "We Are Not Kind Enough" is that it constantly concretizes such confusion and thinking through the details of life.
The traditional one has to face being instrumentalized and role-oriented, whose wife is first, whose mother, whose daughter, whose daughter-in-law, and then herself. Occasionally, one day, if you don't make breakfast for your son, you will be questioned, and the refrigerator is full of frozen food, and you will also be evaluated. When something happens at home, everyone subconsciously feels that the first thing she should give up is her work - that is almost the only bridge to her "self". If she refuses, she will appear unkind.
Jian Qingfen is a person with a strong sense of self, so after entering middle age, her resistance gradually became fierce, and she became more and more reluctant to play the sweet, empathetic, and intelligent tool man. Even if she enjoyed the benefits of a stable family, she was less and less willing to trade it for the loss of herself. Because she's had enough of this suffering.
The one with the new values seems to be sassy on the surface, but in fact it is fragile and soft on the inside. She gave up her boyfriend because she didn't want to be hostile to her mother-in-law for a long time. She can keep working overtime and staying up late at work. But loneliness, and the imagination of loneliness, always broke her, because there was no one to share her fate with her for a long time, so she clung to her unreliable brother and tried to absorb a little nourishment in an unhealthy emotional relationship.
Rebecca's biggest fear is not only that there is no one to help her closet in the middle of the night, but also that there is no one to help her in the middle of the night, and that this deep loneliness cannot be covered by a few sassy and neat suits.
So, what should we do, how can we fight the anxiety and confusion in our hearts?
Judging from the follow-up trailer of the spoilers, the answer given by this drama is that Jian Qingfen and Rebecca finally reconciled. Women with two values, through empathetic understanding, help each other. The girl helps the girl, which is in line with the values of the moment, but whether it is a good medicine or a chicken soup in the plot remains to be watched later.
But in reality, this answer may need to be answered by generations of women with their own lives and voices. Jian Qingfen and Rebecca around me, they are strong and soft, they will cry in the middle of the night, and they will continue to live after crying. They use various ways to cope with the boredom of life and find a sense of self-existence. There is no perfect model here, only ordinary people who strive to find themselves.
There are some drama reviews that dwarf the story as a story of two women competing for a quality man, or how Jian Qingfen is greedy and insufficient. These evaluations, which only see the surface of the story and do not understand the core of the story, confirm the most common prejudice and constraints against women.
Jian Qingfen and Rebecca's struggle with emotional relationships is essentially thinking about how they want to live, whether it is worth putting this person and this relationship in such a position, and how to draw their own coordinate axis. And their evasion of some responsibilities is also a reaction that ordinary people will have, after all, they are not gods.
"We Are Not Kind Enough" has also made a good example for Chinese film and television, how to present the chicken feathers of life? It is not to create false problems, but to enter the core of people's hearts and the times, and resonate with them.
Chen Mo
Editor-in-charge: Chen Lingling