Do you know?
At the beginning of fate, everything is beautiful.
Time flies.
Many couples will gradually forget the original intention of loving each other and break the promises they made.
When a relationship can no longer continue.
A ruthless person will leave in style.
And people who are very affectionate will lose the direction of happiness in the scarring.
Especially girls, once they give their sincerity, it is really difficult to take it back. In the face of failed feelings, many people are often unable to get out. So, how do you achieve relief and liberation?
The "crocodile rule" in psychology may give some reference.
Dwelling on inappropriate love will only drain your energy and put yourself in trouble. Just like being bitten by a crocodile, the more you struggle, the deeper you will fall, and in this case, you must have the courage of a "strong man".
Forget one's approach: "Crocodile Rule", how to do it exactly?
01
Recognize and accept reality
In emotional investment.
Sunk costs refer to the time and emotions that have been paid and cannot be recovered.
A lot of people, because they can't put down the sinking costs.
So love is over, but everyone can't give it up.
They may be wondering:
"I've already given so much for him/her, how can I give up so easily?"
It is this obsession with sunk costs that makes everyone fall into the quagmire of emotions and cannot extricate themselves.
To apply the "crocodile rule", the first thing to do is to recognize reality.
Next, we have to make a trade-off, and we must understand:
The past efforts can no longer be changed, and continuing to entangle will only lead to a deeper predicament. Only by courageously acknowledging reality can the first step towards liberation be taken.
02
Cutting off and shifting feelings
After recognizing the reality.
What's next?
We have to read the "crocodile rule" and be ruthless.
Faced with an irreparable relationship.
Then everyone, you need to cut off the connection with the past emotions and avoid further investment.
This may take some time and effort.
But we need to know that it is the key to emotional liberation.
Specifically, you can try to cut off emotional ties by deleting the contact information of the other person, avoiding meeting or contacting them, and disposing of items that you have shared memories with.
At the same time, we also need to learn to adjust our mentality.
Shift your attention to other things and avoid over-dwelling in past emotions.
03
Find the center of gravity in your life
Disconnected.
We have become, independent and free individuals.
The final step is to develop a positive mindset and find a new focus in life.
Saying goes:
"There is no old love that you can't let go. ”
When we find a new focus in our lives, we have no time to pay attention to the past.
Let go of the past and embrace life again.
To cultivate a positive attitude, you can try to carry out some psychological adjustment activities.
Such as meditation, sports, travel, etc.
These activities help to relieve stress, relax our minds, and make us more positive in life.
At the same time, we can also try to make new friends, learn new skills, pursue new hobbies, etc., so as to enrich our life content and find a new focus in life.
A relationship is over.
Instead of dwelling on the past, let yourself continue to be lost.
Why can't you read the "crocodile rule" and let go of the past completely? See the reality in front of you, draw a clear line with the people you don't love, and accept your new self with an optimistic attitude, so that you are responsible for yourself.
In your opinion, isn't that so?