Chapter 01
Feelings are like a double-edged sword, bringing joy and happiness as well as pain and sorrow. It gives warmth as well as hurts. We should take our feelings seriously and cherish every beautiful moment.
Everyone's relationship will encounter friction and problems, even if it is good at first. This is a common denominator in human relationships.
In relationships, we can feel the satisfaction and beauty of being loved, but they can also be ignored and ignored, leaving us with self-doubt and immersing ourselves in speculation and waiting. It is an ordinary and universal emotional experience that affects our hearts and behaviors.
There is no doubt that being ignored and ignored is a frequent problem in relationships. However, when problems arise, many people choose to stay the course and be sure to get results.
Doing so will only increase your pain and escalate the tension between you. The results you hope to achieve are unattainable. It is recommended that you look for better solutions to de-escalate the situation.
I love this quote very much and completely agree with what it conveys. The relationship between a man and a woman, if stretched too long, will only lead to further deterioration of the relationship. We must know how to let go in order to make the relationship develop better.
Learning to dodge and put it down is the wisest choice.
Chapter 02
Just like the "crocodile rule", when you encounter a crocodile biting your foot, if you try to break free with your hand, it will bite your hand and foot at the same time. This phenomenon is often used to describe people who are under threat and are prone to self-destructive behavior. We should approach the problem calmly and take a sensible approach to solving it.
Don't struggle too much, as this will only make you more trapped. Eventually, such struggles will lead to your death. Instead, take timely stop-loss measures and learn to be willing to give up something, such as graceful legs, so that you can save your life.
Reject wishful thinking
Love is not an idol drama, pure persistence cannot move the world or the people you love. It's a true affection that requires respect, trust, loyalty, and genuine dedication.
When others ignore you, refuse to pursue them persistently and avoid becoming a low-voiced, self-deceptive person. This is something we should learn and a formal way of expressing it.
In ordinary daily life, we often meet some inconspicuous people. When they encounter situations where they ignore themselves, they tend to contact them frequently in the hope of getting a response.
Even when they encounter difficulties, they will persevere and never back down.
In life, we often emphasize the importance of perseverance, but this does not apply to one-sided persistence. Because in this case, you will become more and more upset and have more resentment towards the other person. When getting along with people, learn to let go in a timely manner, control emotions, and avoid capriciousness, so as to maintain a good relationship.
Doing so does not solve the problem, but creates new ones.
Singing a one-man show will not only make you feel smaller, but also make you complain and become ill. Such a mindset will eventually detonate your emotions.
In this case, it is important that you learn to refuse one-sided efforts and not allow yourself to become too proactive and humble.
Divert attention
Since we can't solve the problem and we can't get the results we want, let's let it go.
In interpersonal interactions, we don't have to blindly pursue practical results. If the other person ignores us, distraction may be one of the best solutions. This allows us to stay calm and avoid negative emotions caused by paying too much attention to the reactions of others.
If you have been bothered by something, you may feel pain and sorrow all the time. It's better to learn to let go of it instead of struggling unnecessarily. This will make you feel more comfortable, more relaxed, and give you more time and energy to pursue what you want.
In moments like these, there's a nice way we can do it – divert attention. You can focus on work, socializing, or hobbies to keep yourself busy. Doing so allows us to get rid of negative emotions and promote a positive mood.
After being busy, our minds are often limited to the present moment and we don't have the opportunity to think about other things. But in the process of focusing, we can also be happy. Let's concentrate on our current work and goals, and draw our own happiness from them.
Maybe over time, even after you've completed all your tasks, you'll find that it's not too important for the other person to ignore you.
Leave aside the emotions in your heart
In an emotional life, learning to stop losses in time is a mature form of self-control that is essential for everyone.
There is a famous saying that "smart people are masters of emotions." "When you're in control of your emotions, you feel more relaxed.
When the other person ignores you, it will inevitably make you feel frustrated or lost. However, if you are caught up in such emotions, you will become more and more sad and make yourself no longer happy. In this case, relaxing, doing something fun, or going out with friends can make it more enjoyable to face those annoying emotions.
To alleviate suffering, we need to learn to take control of our emotions and be the masters of our emotions. This means learning to let go of one's emotions and approach problems in a more calm and rational way.
If you're feeling unhappy, you can look for a way to release your emotions, such as communicating with friends, listening to music, or munching on food.
When you're done venting your emotions, you should keep yourself calm and stop overthinking. It's also a good option to think about something happy instead. In conclusion, don't let emotions rule your life. Allow yourself to be calm and optimistic in order to face life's challenges.
Chapter 03
When you are ignored or ignored by someone you love, it can feel sad and painful. You may start to speculate because he doesn't love you anymore or because of your own inadequacy that caused the situation. Whatever the case may be, it will leave you in pain. It's a bad feeling, but it's one of the most common experiences in life. Hopefully, you can overcome this dilemma with a positive attitude and actions.
In this case, it is not the best choice to passively wait for the other party's response or to force the other party to give a satisfactory answer. As a mature person, we should handle the situation with a relaxed attitude and communicate with the other party more confidently in order to reach a consensus.
If you get too caught up in something, you will get caught up in it and find it difficult to extricate yourself. It's better to learn to get out of the cycle instead of repeating it.
In investing, "stop loss" has always been a very important strategy and the key to emotional management.
On the one hand, it can remedy problems in time and restore mutual feelings; On the other hand, it also makes you more comfortable and avoids going astray and getting into trouble. It can be seen that it is not only a powerful weapon for you as a protector, but also allows you to do more with half the effort and resolve all kinds of tricky situations.
Just like Dai Xiaoyu, a character in the TV series "North and South", when she found out that she had been Peng Pai's junior for five years, she made a decisive decision to leave him and decide to return to China. This story teaches us how important it is to hold on to your beliefs and self-esteem.
Before she and him meet again, she has already used the method of "a short separation can deepen love". She started a business with her friends and met Lao Liu, who liked her......
Compared with those women who are entangled with each other and insist on an explanation, her approach is actually wiser and more sensible.
When a heart is scarred, the people who live in it get wet with the rain. Since the situation cannot be changed, let's not be foolish and stick to the same place. For the sake of our own future, for the sake of those who truly love us, we should move forward. Instead of dwelling on the pain, let's face it bravely and move forward in the pursuit of happiness.