In the process of getting along with the opposite sex, many women will show a kind of "motherly" feeling. They naturally want to give to each other and do what they can to help and care. This expression of emotion is natural and an important part of building a good interpersonal relationship.
This is actually not wise, men are not moved by your efforts, and may even think that they can control you, and think that your behavior seems cheap, so we should think of smarter ways to interact with men.
There is a saying that is true: "Be a person who is suitable for your role, and don't go beyond your ability to please others, this kind of thinking will only make you stupid." ”
It's worth remembering that smart women never devalue themselves, let alone perform the following three actions.
First things first: take on his pressure
In love, many women have this idea, insisting on doing unto others as you would have them do unto you. They will be very strict and demanding of themselves, but they will become much more lenient with men.
This style of getting along may work for friends in general, but it is not feasible in heterosexual interactions. This is equivalent to putting all the responsibility on your shoulders, which will not only put pressure on yourself, but also deprive the two of you of the opportunity to get along equally. In getting along with the opposite sex, it is necessary to establish a relationship of mutual benefit and equality.
In our daily lives, we often see examples of women working very hard, both in school and at work, to be the best version of themselves. They are role models for women, showing infinite power and charisma.
Men often do nothing under the care of women, lack plans for the future, focus only on the immediate life, and lack the spirit of enterprise.
When faced with this situation, women's coping is not just to find ways to escape and avoid being forced by their partners, but to reflect the true tolerance and support of love through self-spiritual baptism. Women should know how to encourage, support, and give more care.
It seems that there is no indication at all that he lacks initiative or that he does not cherish what he has. Instead, he became a selfless helper, helping those in need.
In fact, everyone has their own mission and responsibilities and cannot be expected to be shared by others. Men in particular cannot be called a qualified couple if they do not have a basic sense of responsibility.
If you meet such a man, don't try to tolerate him, and don't think that you can change him. Your indulgence will only sink him deeper. Remember to maintain your own bottom line and principles, and don't let the wrong behavior of others affect your own life.
We need to face reality and not always try to save men who are sinking into the abyss. If he is not willing to take the initiative to get out of his trough, then he does not deserve our love and care.
We should not be too nostalgic for the youth we have paid, and it is necessary to stop losses in time. It's sometimes wiser to give up than to keep going, because the "sunk cost" of your nostalgia can be the beginning of your bad luck.
The second thing: give everything you have
At present, there are many misleading notions on the Internet, such as advocating that women should make sacrifices and not be too selfish. Some people even advocate that only by dedicating oneself wholeheartedly can one truly love a man, otherwise it is not enough love. These notions are wrong.
In my opinion, this practice is purely morally pressurizing. It could also be a thought conveyed by men with the sole purpose of satisfying their needs.
Women should always be sober and not get carried away by love, otherwise they will be at risk.
During a relationship, men usually try their best to build more relationships with women, but feel upset or angry if they are rejected or scorned. The reason for noticing these emotions and behaviors is that feelings of rejection and disrespect for the other person can make the mood more angry or dissatisfied.
Or use "We like each other so much, why don't we enjoy how we feel?" and the promise of "you're special, I can't let you leave me" to induce women to have sex. However, this behavior is disrespectful to the other party. So, let's cherish each other's dignity and don't use such reasons to deceive each other.
Some women show generosity and selfless dedication in order to keep men. They show themselves to men without reservation, and it seems that this satisfaction can help them keep men. However, this behavior is often unhealthy and unworthy.
It's too reckless to do so, and it only ends up putting you in a very passive position. You can't be called stupid, but this behavior is too stupid.
When men are tired of entertainment, they casually say, "It's all your willing," pick up their stuff, and leave.
We must remain rational and realistic, don't blindly pursue the supremacy of love, and dedicate everything we have. It's stupid to do that.
The third thing: take care of his parents
In order to make men loyal to them, some women will take some detours to obtain the approval of the man's parents first. This is a common practice, but caution is also needed so as not to over-pander to it.
The success of this practice depends largely on luck. If his parents had been sensible, perhaps they would have had a better chance of success.
If his parents are the kind of people who have an attitude towards you, although your courtesy will satisfy them, they will not be moved.
In "The Three Thousand Golds of the Xia Family", Zhong Haotian's mother is a typical short-sighted person who only wants her son to marry a girl from a rich family. She is often carried away by money.
No matter how hard Yang Zhenzhen tried to please her mother, she would only receive indifferent eyes. This shows that the curve is not a way to save the country, but will make you feel like no one cares. We should look for more effective ways to solve the problem.
His parents have become accustomed to your care, treating you as a free babysitter and looking for a better partner for their son. This is undoubtedly a helpless thing.
In general, women should love and respect themselves and not make themselves humble because of a little affection. If you're good enough, his family will naturally go out of their way to please you, not you. These words are meant to remind women to fight for their dignity in order to protect their physical and mental health.
Conclusion:
In a relationship, stupid women will only give, while wise women will expect something in return.
When dealing with the opposite sex, if a woman blindly gives, she will not be able to gain the mercy of men, and may even be humbled. It's important to maintain balance and respect in your relationships to build a healthy relationship.
Don't think that you will get love in return by taking on his pressure and giving yourself, maybe you will only get his disgust.
In a good relationship, neither man nor woman needs to be excessively self-sacrificing. Hope you understand that.
If you're with him and don't feel happy, respected, and pampered, then a comfortable single might be a better option for you. After all, in a relationship, we should be cherished and pampered, not resentful and lost. So, don't pin your happiness on the wrong person, only a quality single can bring you a more satisfying and enjoyable life.