Since I was a child, I have longed to have a happy family, but there is always a huge gap between reality and ideals. I thought I had finally found the person with whom I could grow old together, but at the last moment, such a change occurred.
The sun shone warmly in the small courtyard with the red brick wall, and wisps of grass poked their heads out of the cracks in the stone slabs. I leaned against the old well and looked at the sky.
My heart was full of contradictions and struggles. On the one hand, I love her so much that I don't want to give up our relationship just like that; On the other hand, her family's approach was so much that it was hard for me to trust them wholeheartedly.
It was a sunny weekend, and I happily arrived at the home of my sweetheart, Xiao Min. Her parents have a small exquisite courtyard in the county seat, and there is a neat row of persimmon trees at the door. The old couple was strolling in the courtyard, and when they saw me coming, their faces were filled with joy.
"Ah Hao, you're here!" Xiaomin's mother greeted her warmly, "Come in and sit down." "
"Mom, don't be too polite. Xiao Min quipped on the side.
I hurriedly accompanied the smiling face: "Auntie is good, uncle is good." "
Our group chatted in the courtyard for a while, talking and laughing. Before I knew it, the conversation shifted to the wedding.
"When the time comes, you two newcomers will have to give us old people an explanation!" Xiaomin's father joked.
"Of course, of course, you can rest assured. I nodded repeatedly.
Xiao Min's mother paused, and suddenly said word by word: "30,000 yuan, you must give 30,000 yuan as a dowry, this is our last request." "
My body shook involuntarily, my eyes widened, and I was stunned by this astronomical number for a while.
"What do you mean by not having money?" Xiao Min's mother interrupted me, "You two young people don't have any burden, you should be able to make up enough, right? Besides, you are a man, and the responsibility of making money in the future will be on you, how can you be so stingy?"
I was so angry at these words that my face turned red. Xiao Min lowered his head on the side, his eyes full of tears. Her father, on the other hand, was embarrassed and obviously embarrassed.
"Mom, what do you mean?" Xiao Min finally couldn't help but speak, "How can you embarrass Ah Hao like this?
"What's not to be embarrassed about?" Mother said confidently, "30,000 yuan is not an astronomical amount, as long as he truly loves you, can't he take out this money?"
"Okay, okay, don't talk about it. I took a deep breath and said in a resolute tone, "Auntie, I am also from a poor family, you should know about our family background." 30,000 yuan is an astronomical amount for us, and we can't take it out at all. Besides, I never thought of giving a bride price, and I firmly oppose this bad practice. If you have to, then I have no choice but to break our engagement. "
But I had made up my mind, broke free from their hands, and walked out of the courtyard without looking back.
I'm actually extremely conflicted inside. I really love Xiaomin, we have been together for so long, and she is also the person I want to spend the rest of my life with in the future. But after all, marriage is a matter of two people, if we can't unify even such a basic value, will we suffer for the rest of our lives because of such differences? Maybe breaking up is a painful decision, but maybe in the future, this is the wisest choice.
I looked back at her familiar and pitiful eyes, and my heart was wrenched. I patted the back of her hand lightly and said, "Xiaomin, the relationship between us has always been sincere. But I really can't accept such unreasonable conditions from your family. Marriage is a matter of two people, and if we don't understand that, how will we live in the future? Maybe breaking up is a painful decision, but it's the right thing to do. It's better for us to separate and find a more suitable person. "
With that, I turned around and left without looking back. Xiao Min cried and fell into her father's arms, calling my name hoarsely, but I had made up my mind and never returned.
"Uncle. I stepped forward and said hello respectfully.
"Oh, it's Hao. His voice was a little tired, "Come in, come in." "
I sat down beside him, took a deep breath, and said, "Uncle, I want to sincerely apologize to you for what happened yesterday. I was also impulsive at the time, and I made some radical actions and decisions. Looking back now, I think we should sit down and talk to a mutually acceptable solution. "
Uncle was silent for a long time, sighed and said, "Actually, after you left yesterday, I also reflected on what I did. It is indeed biased to set such an unreasonable condition. It's just that we are the older generation after all, and we are inevitably a little conservative in our thinking. "
Hearing these words, my heart suddenly felt much more steady. It seems that Uncle has also realized his mistake, which gives me confidence in resolving this dilemma. As long as both parties can communicate with an open mind and understand each other, they will definitely find the best of both worlds. Marriage is indeed a matter of two people, but it is also a matter of two families. We should respect the opinions of our elders, but at the same time we should stick to our own principles.
My mother interrupted me, sighed, and said, "It's because we're too stubborn and want you to be happy, but we've made some rude requests. It may be difficult for us old people to fully understand what you young people think, but we should still respect your choice. "
I nodded again and again, and said sincerely: "Auntie, I understand your kindness." But marriage is indeed a matter of two people, but it is also a matter of two families. We should be considerate of each other and seek a solution that is acceptable to all. "
"You have a point. The mother smiled slightly, "Then what do you think is appropriate?"
I pondered for a moment and said, "Why don't we leave it at that, we won't mention the bride price, I am resolutely against this bad practice." However, after marriage, I will work hard to make money, so that Xiaomin can live a happy and healthy life, and you old people can rest assured. When we have saved enough money, we will buy a small house in the county seat, and you can also come to live often in the future, and we will be reunited as a family. "
With that, I looked at Min's parents and waited for their response. A look of relief finally appeared on my mother's face, and my uncle nodded vigorously, as if he agreed with my plan.
In this way, a tense misunderstanding was finally resolved through everyone's communication and understanding. Xiao Min finally came out of the house, threw herself into my arms, and said with teary eyes: "Ah Hao, we can finally get married!" I hugged her tenderly, and my heart was full of hope and blessings for the future.
Bright red fireworks bloom in the air, accompanied by the deafening sound of firecrackers. I took Xiaomin's hand and walked out of the local marriage registry office. Friends and family gathered around us, their faces beaming with joy. Xiao Min was wearing a snow-white wedding dress, radiant and shy. And I was wearing a crisp suit, and I was extremely excited.
After the twists and turns of the past few days, we finally got our wish and entered a new stage of life. Although there is still a long way to go, with each other's company, we will be able to go through all the ups and downs together and create a happy life together.
Thinking back to what happened a few days ago, I still feel a little scared in my heart. If neither of us was willing to make concessions at that time, then all this happiness would have come to naught. Marriage is like this, and both parties need to be understanding, tolerant and trusting at all times. We are all young people, and it is inevitable that we will have momentary impulsiveness and stubbornness, but as long as we can reflect in time and listen to each other's ideas with an open mind, we will definitely find the best of both worlds.
Although Xiaomin's parents were indeed biased at the beginning, they were ultimately motivated by good intentions and hoped that their daughter's future life would be happy. And why aren't we young people too stubborn? What is the point of our love if we break up because of such a trivial matter? Fortunately, in the end we both made reasonable concessions and defused the crisis.
"Ah Hao, you are happy to be married!" A relative stepped forward to bless him.
"Thank you, uncle, we will definitely be happy. I say it sincerely.
"But you young people, you have to be considerate of each other and be more tolerant of each other. The uncle said earnestly, "The road to marriage is not smooth, but as long as we understand and trust each other, we will definitely be able to grow old together." "
"Uncle has a point. I nodded and glanced at Xiao Min beside me, "We will definitely keep your teachings in mind, resolve all differences with tolerance and understanding, and work together to move towards a happy future." "
In my wedding days, I often think back to my uncle's words. Yes, the road to marriage is destined to be bumpy, but as long as we can always be considerate and tolerant of each other, we will definitely be able to go through every bump. Marriage is not just a matter of two people, but also a marriage of two families. We must respect the opinions of our elders, but at the same time we must stand up to our own principles. On major issues, the two sides must reach a consensus and not blindly impose their will on the other.
I am well aware that we will encounter all kinds of differences and contradictions in the future, but as long as we can resolve them through sincere communication and understanding, as we did this time, we will definitely be able to overcome all difficulties together and create a happy and happy life together. With this lesson, I cherish the happiness in front of me even more, and I am more determined to be with Xiaomin forever.
Since then, I have worked harder to make money, hoping to give Xiaomin a stable and happy home. Xiaomin's parents often come to our house to live for a while, and the three generations have been happy. Sometimes Xiao Min will joke: "If we hadn't experienced that at the beginning, we wouldn't have attached so much importance to family harmony." "
Gradually, we got our wish and bought a small house in the county seat. Although it is not big, it has all kinds of organs, and it can be regarded as our love nest. On the day of the move, Xiaomin's parents also came to help, and the family was happy. Looking at their smiling faces, I sincerely thank fate for bringing us together.
After Xiaomin had a child, the family became even more lively. In the dead of night, I often wonder how sorry it would have been if we had broken up because of a momentary disagreement! Fortunately, in the end, we all made reasonable concessions and resolved the crisis with tolerance and understanding, so that we have the happiness we have today.
Yes, the road to marriage is not smooth, but as long as we treat each other with patience, tolerance and love, we will definitely be able to grow old together. With this lesson, I cherish the happiness in front of me even more, and I am more determined to be with Xiaomin forever.