I am a simple office worker, with a stable job, living an ordinary and stable life. My sister, who is more than a decade older than me, only occasionally came back to visit her parents during the Chinese New Year after marrying out of town a few years ago. Her daughter Xiaomei is 18 years old this year, and she has been strictly disciplined by her sister since she was a child, and she is introverted and shy.
A few days ago, my sister suddenly called me and said that Xiaomei was going to study at a university in the city, but she couldn't take care of her alone in the field, so she wanted Xiaomei to live with me for a while. Although I was a little hesitant at the time, I thought that Xiaomei was my dear niece, and I felt that I should do my part, so I reluctantly agreed.
A week later, my sister personally sent Xiaomei to my house. "Xiaomei, please take care of you. My sister instructed, but Xiaomei lowered her head and didn't say a word. After my sister left, I looked at Xiaomei and saw that she was slightly taller, delicate-looking, and her long hair covered most of her face.
"From now on, I will live with my uncle, and if I need anything, just ask. I smiled at her. Xiaomei raised her head, her eyes were a little timid, and nodded.
In the face of Xiaomei's increasingly vexatious behavior, I began to feel helpless and angry. One night, she asked to watch TV until midnight, and I decided to talk to her.
"Xiaomei, you are 18 years old, you are a big girl, you should have your own measure. I said step by step, "Uncle, I am also for your good, you have to rest well, you can't always stay up late watching TV." "
Xiaomei glanced at me and said coldly, "What's the matter with you? Uncle is too lenient!"
I was annoyed by her rude attitude, and my tone became stern: "If you live in your uncle's house, you must abide by your uncle's rules, and you can't be so willful!"
Xiaomei turned her head away, her face full of displeasure, and I sighed, secretly hoping that she would take warning.
However, Xiaomei's behavior not only did not correct, but intensified. Once, as soon as I was getting ready to take a break from the shower, she yelled at me to cook her a big meal. I was so weak that I just wanted to go to bed quickly, so I refused her unreasonable request.
Who knows, Xiaomei immediately went crazy, pointed at my nose and scolded: "What are you? You will bully juniors! You deserve your wife not to want you!" Her words were like a slam in the face, and I was almost dumbfounded.
I was so angry that I was about to slap her twice, but she was so frightened that I immediately retracted. Then she started laughing and mocking me for my incompetence. I was so angry that I trembled and finally couldn't take it anymore.
"Shut up, you uncultured thing!" I finally burst out and angrily rebuked her, "In my house, you are unscrupulous and unreasonable, but I seem to be your servant!
Mei was frightened by my roar, her eyes widened, and she stood there stiffly. My heart was filled with anger and disappointment, and I felt that I had doted on her too much, only to spoil her.
I was even more annoyed by her crying, and I thought to myself that she was so brazen that she wanted to get away with it. "Enough! You're a fucking scoundrel!" I scolded fiercely, "Get out of here, I don't want to see you again!"
Xiaomei was frightened by my words and cried even more sadly. I looked at her coldly, without any sympathy in my heart, and only felt that she was not worthy of my kindness and tolerance.
Just then, my sister came panting, and she must have heard our quarrel. "What's wrong with you, why are you arguing like this?" She asked anxiously.
I told some examples of Xiaomei's vexatious troubles one by one, and my sister's face became more and more ugly. Xiaomei lay on the sofa and sobbed. My sister looked at me and then at Xiaomei, and seemed to be very embarrassed.
"Xiaomei, how can you do this?" After a while, my sister finally reprimanded Xiaomei, "Do you think your uncle's house is a hotel?
Xiaomei was reprimanded by her sister and cried even more sadly. I looked at my sister, and I felt a little sad in my heart, after all, Xiaomei is still young. My sister sighed, turned to me and said, "I'll take her back, I've really caused you so much trouble, I'm sorry." "
After Xiaomei and her sister left, the room suddenly became quiet. I sat alone in the living room with mixed feelings.
On the one hand, I felt that it was the right decision to drive Xiaomei away. She is vexatious and uneducated, and I have tried my best to tolerate and persuade her, but she is still so lawless, I really can't bear it.
After a lot of struggle, I finally made up my mind. I have to reflect on my attitude and way of approaching the younger generation with a more tolerant and understanding attitude. Although Xiaomei is at fault, she is a child after all, and we need to guide and educate with love and wisdom.
I said to myself that even if Xiaomei came to live with me again, I would never be so narrow-minded and angry again. I will patiently listen to her ideas, understand her needs, and communicate with her in a rational and amiable way, rather than arbitrarily ordering her.
I remembered my own experience of being sexually unbridled when I was young, but thanks to the guidance and tolerance of my elders, I finally grew into a kind and responsible person. I am determined that no matter what, I will give Xiaomei this opportunity, guide her with love, and help her grow.
I regained my strength, and a smile was on my face again. I believe that with the right way to treat young people, sooner or later they will realize their mistakes and thrive. As elders, we should give them this opportunity.
I was stunned for a moment, I didn't expect her to reflect so quickly. "Of course you can, Xiaomei. I said gently, "Uncle will always welcome you as long as you change your attitude." "
Xiaomei seemed to be moved by my words, and cried even more sadly: "I swear, I will never be willful and reckless and cause you trouble." Uncle, can you give me another chance?"
"No problem, Mei. I smiled and said, "Uncle has forgiven you, so you can come with peace of mind." "
Xiaomei thanked her repeatedly, agreed on a time for me to be at home a few days later, and then we hung up the phone. My heart is full of satisfaction and expectation, and I believe that Xiaomei will definitely learn from this experience and become a new person.
A few days later, Xiaomei came to my house as promised, and my sister came with her. "Uncle, I'm sorry, I was too willful last time, and you were wronged. "Xiaomei sincerely apologized to me.
I stepped forward and hugged her, patted her on the back and said, "It's okay, it's all gone." Uncle believes that you have grown up and will be a good girl. "
Xiaomei nodded vigorously, her eyes were firm and focused. My sister watched from the sidelines, with a relieved smile on her face.
After that, we sat down and had a good talk. I sincerely told Xiaomei that she would be part of our family and that she would abide by the house rules; But at the same time, I will also respect her ideas and give her enough freedom. As long as she studies hard, she will definitely become an excellent talent in the future.
Mei nodded her head in agreement, assuring me that she would study hard with all her heart and soul and would no longer behave willfully.
In this way, a family conflict ended in a reconciled way. I watched Xiaomei pack up and settle down at my house, and I had mixed feelings, but in the end, I still wished her a good turn and thrived. And I will guide her younger with a broader mind and love, and strive to become a good elder.