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Some people think that monogamy is the ideal love model that most people pursue, but others would rather give up this traditional marriage relationship and pursue the lifestyle that their hearts really yearn for. Today, let's talk about Deng Zhaozun, a deviant who is indomitable on the road of feelings.
Deng Zhaozun was born in a wealthy family, and he has been rich since he was a child. It stands to reason that he could have lived a comfortable life and lived a comfortable life without worrying about food and clothing.
But he has a backbone-resistant artist temperament in his bones, which finally made him resolutely give up the extravagant future of the family business executive and plunge headlong into the sea of acting career.
This seemingly "confused" choice undoubtedly caused quite a stir and criticism back then. In the eyes of many people, Deng Zhaozun is a loser who does not know how to cherish a happy life.
But he clearly doesn't see it that way. For a young man who loves performing arts and is persistent in his inner dreams, the path of pursuing his dreams is his greatest happiness.
Starting from a small role, Deng Zhaozun quickly won praise in the entertainment industry with his excellent acting skills and humble attitude. Everyone affectionately called him "the rich man living in the world", which shows that although he gave up material wealth, he got a higher level of spiritual freedom.
And it is precisely because he does not regard actors as a means of making a living, but regards them as an inner artistic pursuit, so he can have this free and chic.
For a long time, monogamy has been the basic expectation of the mainstream of society for the marriage relationship. Once someone "steps" out of this box, they are often attacked by ridicule. But Deng Zhaozun is such a "different" existence.
Carmen, Cherry and Claire, Tang Zhaozun has maintained an intimate relationship with these three women. This "four-cornered love" undoubtedly confuses and puzzles many people: how can a person fall in love with three women at the same time?
In fact, if we let go of our preconceptions and look at this matter with a more open and inclusive attitude, we will find that Deng Zhaozun's approach is not entirely a disorderly indulgence, but has its own internal logic.
He gave the same material treatment to his three girlfriends, and insisted on "treating them equally" in the allocation of time and energy. In other words, Deng Zhaozun "treats the three equally", but this "equality" is not in the form of marriage, but a "pluralistic relationship" that finds a new way.
This undoubtedly subverts our preconceived notions of traditional marital relationships. But if we look at it from another angle, Deng Zhaozun is actually using his own unique way to interpret a more free and open view of love.
So, why does Deng Zhaozun have such a "deviant" view of marriage and love? We may be able to find some clues from his family background.
Tang Zhaozun's mother, Hong Jinmei, was a very controlling woman, and she was not content to be just a good wife and mother, but wanted to control the wealth and power of the entire family.
For this reason, she did not hesitate to inflict domestic violence and oppress her children. For a long time, this caused severe physical and psychological trauma to Deng Zhaozun and his siblings.
When his father Deng Yongxiang died, the mother and son fell into a protracted litigation entanglement over the inheritance. This wealthy feud was later put on the screen and became a sensational TV series "Heart Storm". The final result of the lawsuit was that Deng Zhaozun received most of the inheritance, but the lawsuit also completely torn the blood relationship between him and his mother.
It is this traumatic family experience that may be the deep root cause of Deng Zhaozun's unique view of marriage and love. A child who has been lacking maternal love since childhood, and who has been severely controlled and hurt by his mother, is likely to instinctively develop an antipathy and vigilance towards traditional marital relationships, which will give birth to his unfettered and free attitude towards life.
After going through the key watershed of life, Deng Zhaozun, who is now 67 years old, seems to have found a peace of attitude in the second half of his life. He is no longer bothered by the eyes of the world, but chooses to pursue the freedom of his heart in his own unique way.
Surprisingly, this "monogamous man", who openly "cohabited" with his three girlfriends, has put more energy into charity in recent years. He set up his own foundation, dedicated to funding and helping the underprivileged at the bottom of society.
Some people believe that this is his desire to "atone" for his sins in this way, to make up for some shortcomings in his heart. But from another point of view, a person who lives his true self and becomes himself doesn't need to atone for anyone's sins.
This uninhibited attitude to life runs through Deng Zhaozun's entire life. As a wealthy boy, he could have chosen a safe and comfortable path, but in the end, he gave up everything to pursue his inner dreams and freedom. And even in his emotional life, he would rather bear the criticism of the world, but also stick to his unique view of love.
This incident quickly caused heated discussions among netizens on the Internet. Some netizens believe that Deng Zhaozun's actions are undoubtedly a complete subversion of the traditional concept of marriage and family, and he is simply an indulgent and absurd person.
Some netizens also said that although Deng Zhaozun's approach is unacceptable, everyone's way of pursuing happiness is different, and we are not qualified to judge and deny others.
Some netizens said with an open and inclusive attitude that Deng Zhaozun was just at the forefront of the times earlier than the general public, and there was nothing wrong with pursuing freedom in his own way.
Looking at the whole incident, we seem to be able to find an interesting phenomenon: in Deng Zhaozun's life, whether it is career or relationship, he has always been in an "alternative" posture to break through the routine and seek himself. He gave up his family business and plunged headlong into the entertainment industry, and he also let go of the shackles of traditional marriage, but chose an extraordinary path of "monogamy and three wives".
This desire and pursuit of inner freedom may be the driving force behind his continuous deviance. Of course, Deng Zhaozun's approach makes many people feel unbelievable and incomprehensible. But thinking about it from another angle, he actually uses his own way all the time to interpret a life proposition about "freedom".
Can we get some new enlightenment on life from this seemingly absurd "deviant"? How far can the freedom of love go? Deng Zhaozun gave his unique answer, and what do you think?