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My name is Li Xuemei, and I am 50 and 6 this year. I am an ordinary Chinese rural woman with a strong personality and a warm attitude. I have a son named Li Ming and a daughter-in-law named Xiaoli. I live an ordinary life, and my greatest wish is to spend my old age in peace and enjoy the joy of family.
I have always had a good relationship with Li Ming, he is a filial son and is very filial to me. When he was a child, he said to me, "Mom, when I grow up, I must let you live a good life." I still remember this sentence clearly. He went to college, was admitted to a big company, and had a good income, and I feel that my son has really grown up and grown up to be a man to rely on.
But when he talked about getting married, I started to get a little worried. Because Xiaoli is a girl in the city, she has a relatively high level of education and a good family background. Although she was beautiful, I always felt that she was out of place in a family like ours. I silently prayed in my heart that she would be sincere to our family and that she would be able to live in harmony with us.
After we got married, I found out that Xiaoli didn't have a lot of respect for our family. She always felt that our lifestyle was very rustic, and she didn't care too much about what my wife and I said. Although I am not a calculating person, there are some things that always make me feel uncomfortable. For example, she often buys her grandson all kinds of designer clothes and toys when we are not at home, and I always feel that this is not the life of a six-year-old. My wife and I discussed it for a long time, and finally decided to communicate with Xiaoli.
I remember one time, I put forward the idea of my wife and me, hoping that Xiaoli could spend more time with the child and educate him more about life. But Xiaoli disagreed, saying that what children need now is independence, and they don't need us to intervene too much. I felt panicked, I had a fight with her, and I had to go back to my room angrily. I don't know what I'm doing wrong or what to do.
Such a contradiction lasted in our family for a long time. The relationship between me and Xiaoli became more and more strained, and the atmosphere in the house became more and more dull. I often wonder if I'm interfering too much in their lives, but I also feel that as a mother, I can't always worry about my children and grandchildren. Until one day, I got a phone call and I was stupid.
Li Ming's voice came from the other end of the phone, and there was a trace of anxiety in his voice: "Mom, come back quickly, there's an accident at home!" Hearing this, my whole person panicked, quickly hung up the phone, cleaned up and ran home. As soon as I entered the door, I saw Xiaoli sitting in the living room, crying with an aggrieved face. When Li Ming saw me, his eyes were red, and his lips were slightly white because of worry and anxiety. It all made me feel a panic like I had never felt before, I didn't know what was going on at home, but I knew it had to be a big deal.
"What's wrong? what's going on?" I asked anxiously.
Xiaoli wiped her tears and looked up at me, her voice trembling: "Mother-in-law, I'm really sorry for you......" Her voice became lower and lower, and finally even turned into a sob.
When I heard this, my heart became even more panicked, and I quickly ran over to support her and comforted: "Don't worry, tell me slowly, what happened?"
Li Ming took a deep breath and raised his head to look at me, his eyes were full of helplessness and guilt: "Mom, I had some conflicts with Xiaoli, so she ran away from home with her child." ”
My heart felt like it had been struck with a blunt object, and I looked at them and didn't know what to say. At this moment, I felt a kind of loneliness and helplessness that I had never felt before, I didn't know what I should do, I just felt like a knife in my heart.
"Why did you make such a fuss?" I asked weakly, my voice full of exhaustion and loss.
Li Ming sighed, his eyes were full of guilt and helplessness: "Mom, in fact, this incident was caused by a little contradiction between me and Xiaoli. I thought it was just a momentary misunderstanding, but I didn't expect her to run away from home with the child. ”
I felt sad in my heart, remembering the conflict between me and Xiaoli before, maybe I interfered too much in their lives, which led to such a result. I felt a deep sense of remorse welling up in my heart, and I knew that I had a responsibility to bear it all as well.
"What the hell are you arguing about?" I held back my tears, trying to keep my composure, trying to understand the cause of the incident.
Xiaoli wiped her tears and sobbed and said, "Actually, mother-in-law, I also know that I am not good enough, but I really don't know what to do." Her voice carried a hint of grievance and helplessness.
I looked at her and felt a sense of sympathy in my heart, and I knew that this young girl would not be easy either. I gently patted her on the shoulder and comforted: "Child, don't be sad, something has happened, we have to face it together and solve the problem." ”
Li Ming looked at us, his eyes flashing with gratitude: "Mom, I'm sorry, it's all my fault, I shouldn't have let things develop to this point." ”
I shook my head and reassured, "Son, it's not your fault alone, your father and I are also responsible. As a family, we all need to reflect and learn to tolerate and understand each other. ”
Li Ming nodded and took a deep breath: "Mom, Xiaoli, I know that I didn't do well enough before, and I apologize to you." I hope we can start over and get along. ”
Xiaoli raised her head, and there was a glimmer of hope in her eyes: "Li Ming, I also hope that we can start again, I don't want to leave this home." ”
As I looked at them, I felt a warm feeling in my heart, and I knew that as long as we worked together as a family, we would be able to overcome the difficulties in front of us and find a happy life again.
"Alright, alright, stop crying. I took out a handkerchief and handed it to Xiaoli, and said with a smile: "Child, you wipe your tears, let's sit down together and have a good talk, find out the root cause of the problem, and then find a way to solve it." ”
Li Ming and Xiaoli nodded, and a smile finally appeared on their faces. I also feel an indescribable joy in my heart, and I believe that as long as our family is united, we will be able to overcome the current difficulties and find a happy life again.
After an in-depth exchange, our family finally sat down and faced the problem in front of us. Li Ming and Xiaoli took turns to express each other's thoughts and feelings, and my wife and I tried our best to listen and understand. Through this communication, I gradually realized that as an elder, I may indeed be a little paranoid and conservative in dealing with them, and Xiaoli also has her own confusion and helplessness. The contradictions between us are not temporary conflicts, but misunderstandings and misadaptations that have accumulated for a long time.
"Mom, I know I'm doing a lot wrong, but I really want to get along with you. Xiaoli's voice was sincere and sincere.
I looked at her, and an inexplicable feeling surged in my heart, I knew that this young girl was also a kind person, but in the face of family pressure and conflicts, she also had her own helplessness and confusion. I patted her hand lightly, smiled and said, "Child, you don't have to say that, we are all a family, and we must be more tolerant and considerate of each other in the future." ”
Li Ming also continued: "Yes, Mom, Xiaoli, we will definitely communicate more in the future and never let such a thing happen again." ”
My wife and I nodded, full of encouragement and support. I believe that as long as our family is united and works together, we will be able to overcome the current difficulties and find a happy life again.
"Okay, now that we all know what the problem is, let's think about how to solve the dilemma at hand. I said encouragingly.
Xiaoli thought for a while and put forward her own suggestion: "Mother-in-law, Li Ming, I think we can live separately for a while first, let each other calm down, and then slowly solve the problem." ”
I listened to it and thought it was a good suggestion, so I nodded in agreement: "Well, this is a good suggestion, live separately for a while, let each other calm down, and then slowly solve the problem." ”
Li Ming also agreed: "Okay, then let's live separately for a while, and then talk about it when we calm down." ”
After everyone reached a unanimous decision, we decided to send the child back to my wife and me to take care of it first, and then Li Ming and Xiaoli lived separately for a while. Although I am a little reluctant and worried, I believe that this is the best choice for our family.
The days after living apart were challenging and testing for our family. My wife and I tried our best to comfort and care our children because of their parents' separation, hoping to help them adapt to their new lifestyles as soon as possible.
"Grandpa, grandma, I miss mom. Sun Zi Xiaojie looked at me and my wife helplessly and said.
My wife and I looked at him with a deep sense of guilt, and we knew that our child was feeling lost and confused because of the separation of his parents. I gently picked him up and comforted: "Child, mom will come back, you have to be obedient and obedient, study hard, and when mom comes back, we can be together as a family." ”
Xiaojie nodded, wiped his tears, and laughed slowly: "Well, I will be obedient." ”
My wife and I looked at him, and there was an inexplicable feeling in our hearts, we knew that the child missed his parents very much, but he still tried to keep smiling, this child is so strong.
"Xiaojie, grandpa will take you to the yard to play and bask in the sun. I said to him with a smile.
Xiaojie listened and nodded happily: "Okay, grandpa." ”
My wife and I looked at his back, our hearts were full of love and care for him, and we were determined to take good care of him and make him feel the warmth and security of family.
With the company of our children, our life has gradually improved a little. Although we still think of Li Ming and Xiaoli occasionally, we all strive to maintain an optimistic and positive attitude, believing that as long as our family works together, we will be able to overcome the current difficulties and find a happy life again.
After a period of precipitation and thinking, I decided to give Xiaoli a call and ask her about Li Ming's current situation, to see if I could sit down again and have a good talk. I know that this matter will not be solved overnight, but I believe that as long as we are willing to communicate and compromise, everything can be solved.
I dialed Xiaoli's phone, and when I heard her voice, I felt an inexplicable excitement and uneasiness.
"Hey, Xiaoli, it's me, Xuemei. I tried to keep my composure and spoke.
Xiaoli's gentle voice came from the other end of the phone: "Mother-in-law, hello." ”
"Xiaoli, I think we can sit down and have a good talk and solve the problem at hand. I said bluntly.
Xiaoli was silent for a while, and finally sighed softly: "Mother-in-law, I also want to have a good talk with you, I haven't seen you and my wife for a long time, and I miss you too." ”
When I heard her words, I felt an inexplicable feeling in my heart, and I knew that she was also trying to keep her family connected and caring. I smiled and comforted: "Child, we are all a family, don't have too many worries and pressures, as long as we are willing to communicate and compromise, all problems can be solved." ”
Xiaoli nodded: "Mother-in-law, I will try my best." ”
"Okay, let's make an appointment and sit down and have a good talk. I proposed.
Xiaoli readily agreed: "Okay, mother-in-law, I can do whatever you say when and where." ”
On the other end of the phone, Xiaoli and I agreed on a time and place to meet, and then hung up the phone. I feel an inexplicable joy in my heart, and I believe that as long as our family works together, we will be able to find a happy life again.
The day of meeting soon came, and Xiaoli and I made an appointment to meet in a quiet café. I arrived at the café early and sat in the corner waiting for her arrival. After a while, Xiaoli also walked in, wearing a simple dress and walking over with a smile on her face.
"Hello, mother-in-law. Xiaoli greeted softly.
I stood up and greeted her with a smile: "Xiaoli, long time no see." ”
We sat down, ordered two cups of coffee, and started our conversation. At first, the atmosphere was a little tense, but gradually it became more relaxed and enjoyable as we communicated.
"Xiaoli, I want to have a good talk with you and solve the conflict between us. I broke the silence and spoke.
Xiaoli nodded: "Mother-in-law, I also hope that we can solve the problem in front of us." ”
We began hours of conversation, pouring out our inner thoughts and feelings to each other. In the process of communication, we got to know each other better, and also found the way and direction to solve the problem. In the end, we apologized to each other and decided to start over and get along.
When we walked out of the café, Xiaoli and I both felt an inexplicable sense of relief and joy, and we knew that although there was still a long way to go, as long as we were willing to communicate and compromise, all problems could be solved. I believe that as long as we work together as a family, we will be able to overcome the current difficulties and find a happy life again.
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