#为什么说人生的意义是感受呢? #
The holiday time is always filled with various books and movies, among which is a book called "Miss Pear Gets Along with Yourself", which is like a light for the soul. There is a point in the book that struck me deeply:
Life itself does not require us to find a given meaning, and the so-called ultimate answer to life is nothing more than a concept constructed by human beings with rational thinking. If we focus too much on these conceptual things, we are likely to run counter to real life experiences. In fact, life is made up of feelings and experiences that are constantly coming up, and these feelings and experiences are the essence of real life.
In this world, there is no absolute good or bad, and there is no meaningful or meaningless life. Because all experiences and feelings are objectively existing things, they are equally valuable. This is also something I firmly believe in, because emotions have existential value regardless of whether they are positive or negative.
Think back to the attachment you have always had to certain "meanings": a successful career, the approval of others, the feeling of popularity, and even the satisfaction of helping others. However, even though I pursued these things, even though I had them, it didn't bring me much satisfaction. When I was on my way, I even wondered why I didn't feel it so strongly that I should have been so happy to have achieved such an achievement?
Now I've finally realized that what we're really looking for is the feeling of being fully immersed in the experience of being in the moment. For example, I recently had a setback at work, and I was very depressed for a few days, so I started to think about the meaning of life. After some deep reflection, I felt more and more that life was meaningless. Those things that we desire in our hearts, or the pursuit of a good life that others and society tell us as long as we get it, once we really get it, it feels like nothing more than that, and new desires and dissatisfaction will soon arise.
Not to mention the ups and downs of pursuing these external goals and the psychological pressure that comes with it, the endless torture of fear of losing when you get it, and even more fear of losing once you lose it.
When I realized this, I suddenly remembered the topic of "loving yourself" that I had studied. The first priority is to take care of your body, respect and take care of your feelings. So I stopped thinking and got up to prepare myself a hearty and delicious meal. After eating, I instantly felt the beauty of being alive, full of hope for the future, and realized that every day is worth cherishing.
How easy it is!
The antidote I was looking for in my mind and in my books was to stop thinking uselessly, treat myself, cook a good meal, and enjoy a moment of peace to my heart's content.
However, if you really think that the meaning of human life is only to enjoy food and sensual satisfaction, then you are just starting to think and try to simplify your own experiences and feelings with logical concepts.
In fact, I have been living in my own mind for a long time, immersed in logic and concepts, and I have always had great pride in my mind because of my quick thinking since I was a child, and my ideas are faster than ordinary people. Coupled with the suppression and contempt of feelings in the exam-oriented education system at that time, I even hated my own body for a while, thinking that she was troublesome, full of various feelings every day, and that taking care of her was a burden, so I felt bored and felt that life was meaningless.
Now that I think about it, I was so stupid at that time.
In fact, this body is the first condition for your survival, and without her, you have nothing. The human body, which has evolved over thousands of years, originated from nature, and its wisdom far surpasses the logic and civilization of human society that you have hastily patched together in your brain in just a few decades.
Therefore, the meaning of life is first and foremost to take good care of and cherish your body and the psychological emotions based on your physical feelings. These are more fundamental and important than those grand abstract meanings and goals of life, or the affirmation of others and society for you.
Another example is when I became pessimistic and depressed due to my over-reliance on my mind's thinking, I started practicing yoga and running to exercise my body, and these activities made me visibly happy, content, and optimistic.
In this process, I didn't rely on the front-end research results of the university lab to decide to do these things, my only criterion was my experience and feelings. I enjoy doing these things, they are not just a feeling of happiness, but a state of tranquility where you can forget about yourself, forget about time, and be completely immersed in the present moment.
So, if you're overly attached to the meaning and purpose of life as I used to be, try to return to your body, listen to her experiences and voices, and use her as a guide to live comfortably and contently.
Finally, I would like to share a famous quote from the book with you: "Being alive is just a feeling, and if the tentacles of feeling disappear, you will naturally not be able to appreciate the meaning of living." ”