In life, you must understand the sophistication of people: things can not be done beautifully, but words must be beautiful

1. Things can not be done beautifully, but words must be said beautifully. Elegant wording can dissolve awkwardness and add a warmth of understanding to an imperfect outcome.

2. When you are new to a unit, don't stand in line immediately. They are not familiar with the environment and interpersonal relationships, and they may fall into unnecessary disputes if they stand in line rashly. It is wise to observe first, understand the dynamics of the team, and clarify the personal positioning. Not only will you avoid unnecessary hassles, but you will also lay a solid foundation for your future career

3. When you don't have money, avoid frequent visits to relatives, overemphasizing feelings or mixing into various circles, which will only make you look embarrassed and increase psychological pressure. Instead, you should work hard and focus on making money, improving your financial strength, and changing your situation.

4. When you have difficulties, borrow money from others, take the initiative to write an IOU to the other party, agree on the time to repay the money, if you can't get it yet, you must call in advance to inform and explain the reason; if you repay the money on time, you should bring a gift or add interest to pay it back together to express your gratitude.

5. Pay attention to image management, this society is "watching people put down dishes", dressing hygienic and tidy; The first impression of a car and watch is very important to match their identity.

6. Go to other people's homes as guests, don't go empty-handed, after going, try to stay in the living room, don't sit down and don't leave, talk endlessly, look at the time, eyes, don't linger when it's time to go.

7. Don't get too close to anyone, because you don't know when people will turn against each other. The most childish behavior of adults is to communicate with each other, and as many secrets as you can tell, there are as many dangers waiting for you.

8. Colleagues praise you, so quickly promoted and raised, you have to say that the higher the salary, the heavier the work, the greater the pressure; friends praise you, buy a car and buy a house mix well, you have to say that the pressure of repaying the loan is high, the oil price is too high, and you can't afford to refuel.

9. Indifference, which can save 80% of the trouble. No matter what the relationship is, it can't provide emotional value, can't give financial support, can't give positive companionship, and the three points don't account for the same, and it is wise to give up.

10. In interpersonal interactions, we must learn to respect the privacy and boundaries of others. Whoever has something going on, as long as they don't notify you directly, you should stay silent and pretend you don't know. It's a sign of respect for the trust and personal space of others, as well as a sign of mature socialization. Afterthought should not be pursued, because curiosity cannot be an excuse to invade someone's privacy. True concern is to lend a helping hand when the other person needs it, not to make unwarranted inquiries and guesswork.

11. Dogs bite people, bite people, people bite people, bite acquaintances. The biggest difference between a dog and a dog is that a dog is always a dog, and sometimes a person is not a person, you feed the dog for three days, the dog will respect you for three years, you are good to people for three years, and if you are bad for a day, you will turn your face if you are not good.

12. Don't argue with people about irrelevant issues, even if you're right. There is nothing to gain if you win a quarrel, and in addition, it is impossible for people at different levels to reach a consensus.

13. When you go to someone else's house as a guest, you can only praise other people's family members, but you can't say it. Most importantly, don't blame other people's faults and problems in their homes; For example, children play on the computer and do not write homework: home decoration mistakes; People's dogs scratch the wall, etc.

14. Don't always spend money on women, women who can spend men's money, most of them spend a lot of men's money, such women can only watch from a distance, not invest money.

15. Ask relatives and friends to borrow money, and the other party says to go home and discuss with his wife, in fact, this is a euphemistic refusal, if the other party does not give you any more news, don't take the initiative to call and ask.

16. Life is like a marathon, and the preset is our starting line. Only by setting clear goals and planning a reasonable route can we move forward steadily. At the same time, expecting too much from others will only disappoint you, and relying on others will make you more likely to sway in the wind and rain. True wise people know how to be self-reliant, they believe in their own strength, rely on their own wisdom, and create their own brilliance.

17. Don't be very enthusiastic and familiar with others as soon as you come up, in adult socialization, the key is to be cold first and then hot, otherwise others will think that you are a hypocrisy.

18. Don't make decisions for anyone, not even the closest ones. Especially for things like relatives buying houses, friends getting married, major investments, etc., don't help you make decisions.

19. Don't talk about other women except your wife when you are with your father-in-law, play cards with your husband's mother, even if your card skills are good, you must learn to lose.

20. Don't sit in the position of paying if you don't pay for dinner, and don't take the initiative to express your opinions when others don't ask you.

21. Never trust your colleagues too much, no matter how friendly they are, don't show their hole cards, there are no real friends in the workplace, only interests and competition, and the place of work is only about work.

22. When you bring snacks, drinks, breakfast and other small things to your colleagues, and others transfer your money, you must accept them, no one lacks these few dollars, and no one wants to owe you favors because of these few dollars;

23. Although it is said that "go out and rely on friends", in the final analysis, it is still you who have to be beautiful in advance, and it is you who have something to get your hands on, so that friends are willing to let you rely on it.

24. The best way to give gifts to others is to just go back to your hometown, and bring some souvenirs by the way, there are a lot of them at home, so that others can put them away with peace of mind.

25. If you owe a big debt, don't owe a small debt, there is pressure on a small debt, you can't afford to pay off the big debt, but don't worry, if there is more famine, you won't worry about people, and if you have more lice, you won't bite.

26. Don't think about taking advantage of small advantages, it's not that others are not as smart as you, it's that others don't care about you, and after a long time, you don't even have friends.

27. Asking someone to do something, or borrowing someone else's things. If you don't understand, the other party may not say anything, but it must not be very comfortable in the heart, this is human nature.

28. Life is like a painting, with light and darkness, ups and downs. But as long as we feel and appreciate it with our hearts, we can find the beauty and value in it. So, don't be afraid of difficulties and setbacks, face them bravely, and create your own wonderful life in your own way.

29. Don't brag about how good your old friends are in front of your new friends, and don't always mention who others are, and listen to them and want to beat you.

30. The villain first and then the gentleman, saying ugly things in front of him is to leave a way back for himself, first to discuss and then not to argue, and his brothers to settle accounts.

31. If you borrow money, you have to pay it back, don't think that it doesn't matter if it's just ten or eight yuan, borrowing is borrowing, and giving is giving.

32. When dealing with people in society, don't tell others all about yourself, no matter how speculative they talk to each other or how good the relationship is. Because the more a person understands you, the easier it is to hurt you, who can guarantee that your relationship will always be good?

33. To help relatives and friends, there must be a scale, and when it is time to stop, it must be stopped, and it will become a matter of course.

34. If you are looking for someone to help, you must give gifts, people say no, it may be polite, but you still want it in your heart, even if you really don't want it, you will look down on you because you understand the world.

35. Don't show your weakness in front of anyone, you may be able to win the sympathy of others, but you will definitely be despised by others.

36. Smart people chat, negotiate, will have a rhythm of mastery, when the topic can't continue, hand the other party a cigarette, a full glass of wine or tea, and introduce the dishes. Fools don't understand this, fools will only find ways to talk endlessly.

37. The essence of interpersonal communication is value exchange, you provide value to others, and others are naturally willing to give back to you. Just like I helped you in this article, you gave me a follow-up in return.

38. The sky and the earth are big, and the body is the largest. No matter how much money you have, stretching your legs equals zero. The world is not perfect, and what you have to gain has to lose. So, don't gamble with your own health at any time.

39. You take care of your parents every day, and your parents don't think you are filial, but your brother comes back every year to give 1,000 red envelopes to your parents, and your parents think that he is a filial person.

40. If you want to own a horse, the best way is not to chase it, but to use the time you spend chasing the horse to plant grass. When the grass is green in the coming year, there will be horses galloping in.

41. When you eat soil, no one will ask you if you are bitter, and when you eat meat, someone will always ask you if it is fragrant.

42. Go to someone else's house, if his wife keeps hiding in the room and doesn't come out, you should find a reason to go back.

43. Don't ask when chatting with relatives: don't ask about your child's grades, don't ask about your child's object, and don't ask about your child's income.

44. In the unit, no matter how timid you are, you must not be cowardly in these three things: 1. When you raise your hand to seize the opportunity, 2. When you report to the leader, 3. When the leader asks you to carry the black pot

45. Always remember that the location is different, and less words are precious. There is no need to argue about the difference in cognition. The three views do not agree, and the tongue is wasted.

46. Don't overestimate your relationship with anyone, the fish stinks for three days, the guest stays for three days, and the guest stays for more than three days, then it is not a guest, but a diaphragm.

47. Talk to the leader, don't giggle or laugh. When the leader smiles at you, you laugh again, usually a little more serious, you can solve half of the problem, and the leader will not dare to bully you.

48. No matter how good your friends are, you try to talk about money, and if you love husband and wife, you don't have money to try; Relatives and relatives, you borrow money to try, this world is like this, take what you have, exchange what you want.

49. People's stinky problems are habitual, the easier you are to speak, the more smiles you give, the more the other party will not take you seriously, if you want to be strong, don't be too easy to talk.

50. Ask for help, others want to think about it and then promise you, it is really help, the faster you agree, the more perfunctory you are.

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Remember the unspoken rules of human nature: 1. If you don't do it once, erase the previous 99 times.

The rules of human nature that must be known in life: 1. There are some things that you know, and you can't say through them

Adults must have scheming: 1. Cry poor in front of the poor and show off your wealth in front of the rich.

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