Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
In real life, we can always see some old couples, although the years have carved traces on their faces, their love is increasing day by day.
You may wonder why some couples can become more loving as they get older?
Actually, love is not static. It's like a tree that needs constant watering and pruning to always maintain an upward attitude.
And those couples who can get older and more loving are masters of the way of "pruning" and "watering" love.
01
After going through the wind and rain, the feelings are deeper
As the saying goes, "adversity sees truth".
Many couples, after experiencing the ups and downs of life, will cherish and rely on each other more deeply.
After all, they have faced the difficulties of life together and taken on the responsibilities of the family together, and these common experiences will make them care more about each other.
It's like some couples who started a business together when they were young and went through countless hardships.
In the most difficult times, they did not even have money to eat, so they had to rely on the financial support of relatives and friends. But it was this difficult experience that made them more aware of the importance of each other.
Therefore, when they have a certain amount of accumulation, their lives are getting better and better, although they have entered their old age, their relationship is still the same, or even deeper.
02
Tolerate and understand each other
Husbands and wives live together, even if the relationship is good, there will be times of quarrels and cold wars.
But those couples who can get older and more loving can often understand each other more and tolerate each other's shortcomings more after a quarrel.
Married life has taught them that there are no perfect people in the world and that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. And true love lies in accepting and tolerating everything about the other person.
For example, wives like to be neat, while husbands are more casual. In the beginning, they may often argue over this issue.
But after arguing back and forth, they will find that they can't change each other at all, and continuing to argue will only hurt each other's feelings.
As a result, the wife began to understand her husband's casualness, and the husband began to pay attention to his own neatness, and they no longer struggled with these little things, but learned to tolerate and understand each other.
At this point, the two of them have really learned tolerance and understanding in marriage. This alone can make the relationship between two people last forever and accompany them to old age.
03
Grow together and move forward hand in hand
Times are changing, people are changing, and love is not static.
Those couples who are more and more loving as they get older are often able to continue to learn and grow in their married life, so that they can become better people in each other's eyes.
Like many older couples in life, the husband began to learn calligraphy and painting after retirement, while the wife began to learn cooking and gardening.
They encourage each other, exchange experiences, enjoy the things they love, and find the life they really want in retirement.
This kind of mutual support and growth will make the marriage more flavorful and can also make their relationship deeper.
04
Simple life, happy companionship
As we get older, we pay more and more attention to the quality of life and happiness.
Many old couples, they no longer pursue material speech, but pay more attention to spiritual wealth and inner peace.
They began to enjoy a simple life, enjoying each other's company and warmth.
We can see in our lives that there are many old couples, they walk together, cook together, and watch TV together every day.
Although life seems uneventful, they can feel incomparable happiness and satisfaction.
They understand that true happiness does not lie in material things, but in the abundance of the soul and the companionship of each other.
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Cherish the present and be grateful for life
As the years go by, many old couples cherish the present time and each other's company even more.
They are grateful for the bits and pieces of life and each other's contributions. This kind of grateful attitude makes them cherish everything they have now.
As Victor Hugo said, "What is a year in love? It is said to be minutes because in the sweetness of love it is fleeting like lightning, and it is said to be a century because it builds in us the blissful eternal life that follows life. ”
These couples, who are getting older and more loving, understand this truth, so they cherish every minute of the present even more, and look forward to future happiness.
Many couples, the reason why they can get older and more affectionate, is because they have experienced ups and downs, they can tolerate each other, they are willing to grow together, they live a simple life together, and they cherish the present more.
With sincere love, they interpret the beauty of "holding the hand of the son and growing old with the son". I hope that each of us can make love last forever in the long river of time, and the older we get, the more affectionate!