The fable "frogs crave to taste swan meat" is often used to describe a lack of self-awareness and the pursuit of unrealistic goals. It is often used to depict narrow-minded "ordinary men".
Despite being quite ordinary, he is always overconfident that he should strive for a partner who strives for excellence. However, the reality is that this kind of thinking is not confined to men, and we can take a look at the experience shared by one graduate.
"Bachelor's degree, monthly salary of 20,000", an assembly line woman has high requirements for her partner. Since ancient times, there has always been the concept of "the right person", although this may not be straightforward nowadays, and is more commonly described as "evenly matched", but it is still essentially the same thing.
If there are huge differences between the two in various aspects, it will certainly be difficult to maintain long-term appeal. Although today's graduates are more liberal in choosing their partners, there are still certain standards and bottom lines on this issue.
There was a boy who, after graduating from vocational school, entered a factory and worked as a worker. Despite his relatively low starting point, he has shown excellent work ability and has been promoted to team leader with a salary of more than five thousand per month. It's good in a small local city.
I met a woman on the production line, and after a period of dating, the two gradually became acquainted. The boy who wanted to confess to her felt a little embarrassed, so he simply expressed it in a joking way. However, the response of the other party was very direct:
"You must have a bachelor's degree, a monthly salary of at least 20,000 yuan, a height of more than 175 cm, and a medium-to-upper appearance. The girl clearly listed her requirements for a mate, which surprised the boy. Looking back and thinking about his conditions, he doesn't seem to meet any of them except for his height, and he estimates that this scene can't go on.
Netizens have left messages: Look in the mirror and see if your own conditions meet the standards of undergraduate male students.
After this conversation was posted, it caused a lot of comments on the Internet. However, there is a surprisingly unanimous opinion, with many people bluntly saying: look in the mirror. When you use conditions to screen others, they screen you in the same process.
In fact, in today's era of higher education, it is not uncommon for men to have a bachelor's degree. Reaching a height of 175 cm is not too difficult either. The crux of the matter is that at the same time, you must have a monthly salary of more than 20,000 yuan, and your appearance must not be bad, which is quite harsh.
The more important problem is that this girl herself is not so good, only a technical school degree and a salary of more than 3,000 yuan. Even if boys generally look "down" when choosing friends, there is a certain bottom line.
The undergraduate male students she describes would probably require them to have at least a college degree and work in the civil service. If a guy has a high income and is good-looking, he is likely to "go up" to find a better woman.
Perhaps it is because she has limited contact with undergraduates and does not have a deep understanding of the job search environment of contemporary college students. Many female students with better academic qualifications do not even expect their other half to reach the level of 20,000 yuan per month.
Someone with this level of salary is likely to be a professional who graduated from a major university and is working in programming. They may find it quite difficult to fall in love with an "assembly line girl". This is not discrimination against occupations, but rather because there are huge differences between the two parties that are simply unrealistic.
Some people wonder if this girl herself is "as beautiful as a fairy" that she dares to put forward such a high standard? However, judging from the avatar, the traces of retouching are obvious, and this problem will not be further investigated.
Nowadays, however, it is more realistic that even having good looks does not necessarily attract good men. Especially for graduates with high academic qualifications, they may pay more attention to each other's educational background, depth of thought and family heritage.
Even if the girl is good-looking, it may be difficult to attract male students who have graduated from a bachelor's degree if she lacks "knowledge" in communication style and thinking mode.
Why do some individuals with relatively low educational qualifications also care about the other person's education level? Many Internet users are puzzled by this girl's choice, and most may prefer to find a partner who is "similar" to their own. It is relatively rare to graduate from a technical school and insist on looking for undergraduates.
However, in reality, there is a class of such individuals, both male and female. Why do they care about each other's literacy despite their own academic performance? There may be two practical reasons for this.
First of all, academic qualifications largely represent the potential for career advancement. Although it cannot be generalized that a bachelor's degree graduate will definitely find a good job, it is clearly more likely to succeed than a low-education applicant. Girls may want to benefit from this.
Second, individuals with low education and salaries may silently envy another, more successful life. Family background is the starting line for children's future, and they are well aware of their academic shortcomings, so they are eager to find a partner with better education to take on the responsibility of raising their offspring.
In contemporary education, the level of parental involvement is quite high, not only in checking homework, but also in cultivating talents and instilling patriotic feelings. The ability to teach is key. They will think that only if they find someone who is better at this when choosing a mate, the offspring will have more opportunities to change.
Topic: What do you think of such a request?