During an interview, the host asked the old drama bone Chen Daoming:
"Have you ever had a bloat period?"
Chen Daoming thought for a while and replied:
"Of course, there were, in the early years, when I felt like a character, I started to swell.
After a long time, I slowly feel that the more serious your life is, the more pitiful you are, and the more you treat yourself as a person, the more pitiful you are. ”
Later, when he became popular, he chose a semi-retired state;
is not trapped by fame and fortune, is not bound by status, is willing to return to the ordinary, and finally finds inner peace.
At an awards ceremony not long ago, Chen Daoming's every move attracted the attention of the whole network.
Now 68 years old, he has gray hair and is a prestigious old-timer in the eyes of many people.
But he did not have the slightest arrogant posture, not only took the initiative to bend down and shake hands with his juniors, but also paid attention to etiquette everywhere and always remained humble.
In the chaotic and complicated world, Chen Daoming has become a clear stream, sticking to his inner sobriety, always low-key and calm.
After half a life, after seeing all kinds of people, I gradually understood:
A truly strong person never takes himself seriously, and a life that takes himself too seriously is doomed to disaster.
Man's greatest stupidity:
Take yourself seriously and take the platform as your ability
In "The Three-Body Problem", there is such a passage:
"Weakness and ignorance are not obstacles to survival, arrogance is.
Once a person feels that he has a sense of superiority over others and feels superior, he is not far from bad luck. ”
The most terrible thing about human life is not mediocrity, but the inability to recognize oneself and see reality clearly.
The most difficult thing to be a man is not to climb to a high place, but to think that if you stand on a high place, you will never want to look at the scenery in front of you.
After New Oriental anchor Dong Yuhui became popular, he was often slandered by some "people with hearts".
Some of the books he recommended during the live broadcast made many people say that they fell in love with reading and benefited a lot from it.
However, a well-known big V posted an article accusing Dong Yuhui of recommending too shallow books, all of which are lip service, and his ideological level is very low.
He also bluntly said that only people who don't read will think that the books he recommends are valuable.
The words are full of arrogance, and every word is sarcastic.
In an instant, Dong Yuhui was pushed to the forefront, and the whole network began to discuss.
After some time, in a live broadcast, someone mentioned this matter, and he responded calmly:
"You can say that Dong Yuhui is shallow, but don't say that the books recommended by Dong Yuhui are shallow;
You can humiliate me, but please don't humiliate these literary works, you can't say that these books such as "Ordinary World" are shallow.
You haven't experienced the darkness, so you can't understand why some people can keep their views on the same, maybe pessimism is vision, but optimism is wisdom. ”
That's true.
If you haven't experienced it, don't belittle everything from a high position.
Even if you can't empathize, at least you should respect the differences between people in this world.
If a person takes himself too seriously, he is accustomed to using his own ruler to measure the lives of others.
If a person always regards the platform as a skill, it is easy to fall into the cognitive trap and live blindly and arrogantly.
As Mu Xin once said:
"People who don't have ego feel very good about themselves. ”
On the road of life, don't let yourself drift, if you float, you will eventually fall into trouble if you move forward.
Being a man is self-aware, and being a humble person is a humble state, rather than empty-sightedness, it is better to precipitate yourself.
Noble to the bones
It's a lack of identity
"I never overestimate myself, I'm willing to be an ordinary person. ”
This is a sentence often said by Mr. Ji Xianlin, an academic leader, and it is also a true portrayal of his life.
Writer Wu Min once told a story:
When Peking University opened one year, the freshmen saw an old man in plain clothes at the registration office, so they asked him to help take care of the luggage and go through the formalities by himself.
On a hot day, the old man sat there sweating profusely.
Some students went over and said:
"Go back, I'll watch for him. ”
But the old man shook his head and said:
"I'd better wait, he shouldn't be able to find someone else. ”
More than an hour later, when the new students hurried back, the old man was still guarding his luggage.
At the opening ceremony a few days later, the freshmen were surprised to find that the old man was sitting on the podium.
And he is Ji Xianlin, vice president of Peking University and master of Chinese studies.
In the eyes of many people, Ji Lao has always been a particularly low-key person with no sense of identity.
Once, Yu Qiuyu asked Ji Xianlin to dinner, and before going to the appointment, Ji Xianlin went to make a special effort to clean up and decently clean up.
The man next to him said:
"Actually, you don't need to change it, Yu Qiuyu is your student, so you don't need to be so polite. ”
Ji Lao replied:
"Well, it's respect for others. ”
No matter who he faces, he will not think highly of himself and hold a stand, but will be humble and respectful.
The more powerful people are, the more reluctant they are to brag about their identity, and therefore live more transparently.
The more people who have seen the world, the more they are able to bend down and put themselves very low.
98-year-old Ye Jiaying is also such a very well-cultivated person.
Some netizens talked about a personal experience:
I had the privilege of attending a lecture by Professor Yip Ka Ying.
Even though she was over 90 years old, she still braved the rain, refused the chairs handed by the students, and gave a serious lecture for more than two hours.
Despite her great reputation, Ye Jiaying has always adhered to a "plain heart", never valued fame, fortune and status, and only used to inherit the beauty of poetry.
The water is low into the sea, and the man is low into the king;
Only by knowing how to be humble and self-respecting, and quitting the "sense of identity", can we go further.
Walking in the world, do not underestimate others as cultivation, and do not look down on yourself as cultivation.
Never forget, above others, as human beings, and under others, as human beings, as human beings.
After middle age
Please find your own position
Lao She wrote in "Camel Xiangzi":
"If a man sees through himself, he will not look down on others. ”
A person's greatest wisdom is to be able to find his own position, recognize his own strength, and have a clear understanding.
When you understand yourself thoroughly, you will be able to see the truth of the world clearly, know that "there are things to do and things not to do", and to know that "there are people outside the world, and there are heavens outside the sky", so as to live a better life.
The master painter Qi Baishi has produced countless works in his lifetime, and his paintings are often praised as "the vane leading Chinese paintings".
And he can have such an achievement, which is inseparable from his habit of frequent introspection.
When Qi Baishi was 88 years old, the poet Ai Qing visited him with the paintings he had made when he was young, asking him to help identify the authenticity.
In the process of observing the paintings, Qi Baishi recalled the scenes and experiences of painting in his early years, and felt that his current level is not as good as before.
Through this he began to reflect:
"People think highly of me now, and even I'm a little bit complacent.
Looking at one of Ai Qing's paintings that I painted ten years ago, I was deeply moved, and compared with before, the regression is too great. ”
Since then, he has quietly practiced the basics of painting in his house every day, day after day.
Until his later years, his paintings were still admired by everyone.
There is a saying in "Caigen Tan":
"Listen to the bell of the silent night, wake up the dream in the dream, watch the moon shadow of the clear pool, and glimpse the body outside the body. ”
Those who have achieved great things often have self-knowledge, and in the process of self-examination, recognize their own shortcomings and make up for or correct them as soon as possible.
The gap between people does not necessarily come from strength, but more often it depends on "whether you can find your own position".
Find the right position, you will understand: the ruler is short, the inch is long.
Find the right position, you will understand: if you can't do something, you will seek yourself.
After middle age, learn to examine your own life, cultivate your body and mind, stand in the right position, and better control your life.
Only those who introspect can cross by themselves, and those who know themselves will eventually attain perfection.
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I like what Chen Daoming said:
"The one who goes up the mountain should never look down on the one who goes down, because he has been beautiful;
The people on the mountain should not look down on the people below the mountain, because they will climb up, so be sure to be yourself. ”
People, don't take yourself too seriously, and don't take your identity too seriously.
Once in the world, the best state is: low-key life, looking up at the sky, humility, and steady progress.