As the saying goes: Illness comes from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth.
The more intimate the person, the more measured he must be.
It is better not to say more than to say too much, so as not to get yourself into trouble by saying the wrong thing.
These 3 words, no matter how good the relationship is, you can't say it, don't take it seriously!
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Ostentatious words
Yishu said: People who are truly knowledgeable never show off.
He won't tell you what books you've read, where you've been, how many clothes you've had, or what jewelry you've bought.
Because he doesn't need to prove his worth through this.
Wang Guowei, a master of Chinese culture, loves to collect antiques, calligraphy and paintings.
He once invited Pu Yi to his home as a guest, intentionally or unintentionally showing off the treasures in his home.
Who knows, seeing those "rare treasures", Pu Yi is still silent.
even pointed out a few casually and said to Wang Guowei: These are all fakes.
At first, Wang Guowei didn't believe it, but he found an expert for identification, and it was really said by Pu Yi.
He prides himself on collecting everyone, and he didn't think that he would have a day when he lost his eyes.
I can't help but put down my body and ask Pu Yi how to identify the authenticity?
Pu Yi said: "I don't know any identification methods, but I just look a little different from my family." ”
There are mountains outside the mountains, if you are a high mountain, you naturally do not need to publicize it;
There are people outside the people, and they accidentally get an axe at the door, exposing their shortcomings.
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Jokes that hurt people's self-esteem
There is a saying in "Zengguang Xianwen": "A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people and is cold in June." ”
Sometimes, a tease you don't care about can be a thorn in someone else's heart.
Rubbing salt into someone's wound will only create a grudge against oneself in words.
Once Yao Chen participated in the show, someone asked sharply: "I remember that you used to have a big mouth, but now it doesn't seem to be that big, is it plastic surgery?"
Yao Chen had an embarrassed smile on his face, speechless when asked, not knowing how to respond.
At this time, Jia Ling skillfully played a round and said, "Is it because you know that you have a big mouth, so you deliberately close your mouth?"
It's like I know I'm fat, so I'm always standing sideways. ”
Everyone present was attracted by Jia Ling's joke.
The focus of people's attention has also shifted from Yao Chen's mouth to Jia Ling's figure.
Jokes between friends should be based on mutual respect.
Don't take teasing others as your own humor, and don't take rudeness as uprightness.
Learn to empathize and speak directly, but you should also pay attention to proportion.
Don't let each other fall into an embarrassing situation, in order to have a good popularity.
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Short complaints from parents
As the saying goes: "If there is a scandal in the family, don't publicize it, and the family will be ruined." ”
Between people, there is no empathy, only warmth and coldness.
When something happens, I go around looking for someone to complain.
Your misery is likely to become the talk of others after dinner.
In ancient times, there was a champion named Li Kang.
As soon as he entered the court as an official, he met a good friend, and the two talked happily.
Li Kang has no reservations about this friend, and even informs him of private matters at home.
After getting drunk once, Li Kang complained to his friends about his wife's inadequacy.
Who knew that it didn't take long for these words to be hyped out by friends.
Not only spread all over the streets and alleys, but also reached the ears of the emperor.
The emperor was very disappointed in Li Kang, thinking that he couldn't even tolerate his own wife, and he also preached the ugliness of his family everywhere, and his character must be problematic, and he was not worth reusing.
Li Kang ruined his good future because of a drunken talk.
His wife was also embarrassed and left Li Kang in disappointment.
Smart people understand: a family does not know that a family is difficult, and every family has a scripture that is difficult to read.
You complain about your family to outsiders, you may be happy for a while, but you also expose your own privacy.
Human nature is two-sided, and what you put your heart into your heart is not necessarily treated with sincerity.
Others may not be silent, in case someone leaks it out with added fuel and vinegar, it will only cause a storm in the city.
There are some things that are said too much, which will only make relatives painful and enemies happy.