How many young people, because of the bride price, lost the object.
How much love has to be let go because it is not recognized by parents.
How many lovers, alive and pulled away by their parents, never to be seen again.
When it comes to finding a partner, parents are really anxious, but parents also play the role of "observer, instructor, and ultimate referee".
The family of origin has too much influence on a person to find a partner.
So the problem is, if you want your children to find a partner as soon as possible, you should guide your children to find a "good talking" family, so as to avoid a lot of help, and not delay youth because of wrong love.
In general, the following types of families, whose children find a partner, are more free and have a higher success rate.
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Hard-working and wealthy families don't care about the bride price, and it's easy to buy a house and a car.
Whether you are in a relationship or getting married, it costs money.
Once you meet financially poor and poor parents, then this marriage becomes "an opportunity to make money".
Use the daughter's sky-high bride price to help the son marry a wife, and use the sky-high bride price to help the parents support the elderly.
The parents also counted a series of etiquette expenses on the man's family, and they didn't want to pay a penny of their own money anyway, and the family didn't have any money anyway.
Of course, there are also some families with good economic conditions, but their parents are "poor-hearted", and it is difficult for their children to marry.
What does it mean to be poor-hearted? That is, the parents have choked on the money and do not take a penny from it; the whole family calculates that a certain person with good economic conditions is eager to drag him down; there is no long-term plan, they get by, they do not want to work, and they still hate the rich and the officials.
For those hard-working families, parents can think about retirement on their own, and they can also help their children buy a house and a car, then the problem of marriage is much simpler.
A good marriage for young people is essentially a continuation of "family and everything".
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In a single-child family, parents give everything to their children and don't expect much in return.
There is a big difference between a family with many children and a family with one child.
If you have more children, the cost of marriage will be much greater, and your parents may not be able to do it. Therefore, it is less helpful for children.
If the son is not angry, the parents will consider their daughter to help support the elderly, or use the daughter's money to support their son's marriage and future.
In a single-child family, parents have no choice anyway, they can only be good to their children and be wholehearted.
Usually, in a family with one child, the cost of parenting is much smaller, so there is a certain amount of savings, and retirement is also considered.
If two only children fall in love, not only do they spend less money, but they can also get a lot of help from both parents, and this love will clear the economic obstacles. As long as young people themselves are not lazy, their parents will most likely agree.
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A kind family is easy to accept the love of young people and is used to liking.
A writer once said, "A good-hearted person, a fanciful person, is more likely to be gathered than a cold-hearted person." ”
Indeed, it is easy to find a kind person to talk to, and there will be no crooked ideas.
It would be even better if you meet a kind family. Communication will be smooth and empathy will be generated quickly.
As long as your quality is not bad, then you will get a lot of encouragement and help when you go to a kind family.
Kindness itself is to look for a person's strengths, so that everyone can develop their strengths and avoid their weaknesses. In this way, if you have certain flaws, it will be easy to be accepted when you arrive at the other party's home.
For example, a girl with a birthmark on her face goes to a kind family and is not ridiculed, but distressed by her elders. In this way, the marriage of the girl and the object will naturally have a future.
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Families with a large pattern will not be stuck in the present when they think about long-term issues.
When a person's heart is as big as a needle's eye, people's shortcomings can fill the space of the heart. As a result, the heart is very uncomfortable, and the person's shortcomings will be magnified indefinitely.
Many years ago, one of my cousins found a partner from the next county.
The first time my cousin went to the subject's house, she was immediately blasted out.
The reason is - the cousin talked about three objects before that.
Of course, this relationship will not go to the end.
In these days, it is not strange to talk about a few people and then get married. If you insist that both parties are first love, I am afraid it will be even more difficult.
When people's hearts are very broad, everything can be tolerated. And in the things that are included, there are many more factors of happiness than pain.
The ancients said: "Those who achieve great things are the first priority." ”
Finding a partner is also a major marriage event, and if it is in a large-scale family, it will come naturally. Everyone will consider how to start a family, how to start a business, where to settle down, what kind of help they need, and how to run a small family well.
The bigger the pattern, the more empathetic people are, the more they can make long-term plans, and they can also tolerate the factors of disharmony.
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A flexible family can always follow its children and not block their children's lives.
Love is like a mystery, there are too many uncontrollable factors, and if you are not careful, you will enter the end of the road.
In the Book of Changes, it is said: "Easy, poor will change, change will be successful, and general will be long." ”
When encountering contradictions, thresholds, inflexible families, and tendons, it will be difficult to do.
I am most afraid of those parents who have a tendon and a strong desire to control, anyway, they can't make sense of anything, and they won't change, forcing young people to be cornered.
Families who can be flexible will find a new direction and will lead young people to change themselves.
For example, a couple of lovers have a conflict, and the woman dislikes the man for not working hard. The man's family is good at being flexible, so he will not blame the woman for making things difficult, but will see the man's shortcomings, and the woman's family will find that the woman's encouragement and love for the man is not enough, resulting in the man's lack of motivation to make money.
With the development of love, parents also continue to change their thinking and behavior, then everything will be smooth.
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The famous physician Gilbert once said, "Love is a platform on which all kinds of people gather." ”
Yes, the human factor is important for whether a relationship is successful or not. As long as people deal with each other well and everyone works together, there will be bread, houses and cars.
If people are too selfish, too narrow-minded, and too poisonous in their eyes, then the tall and handsome Bai Fumei will also become a thorn in the eye and a thorn in the flesh.
It is really important to tell your children that finding a partner is not a simple relationship, but to get married to a certain family and see how the other person's family is.
Tell your children that if you have a very difficult family, you should leave in time and not hurt yourself.
Even if you encounter a very bad situation, don't slack off, and the tears of disappointment can only be erased with struggle.
Finally, I wish the children of the world to have a good relationship, good luck, and a good family.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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