One
Eight years of being in the same boat through thick and thin, but it can't withstand the eight-second pleasure he is looking for outside.
Why do men become so ruthless when they reach a certain age? Why do men have to look for novelty and excitement when I can tolerate the dullness of life? Is it true that men become bad when they are rich?
There was a female fan who sent a long list of bloody cries. Faced with a marriage that has already been cracked, there are many problems, she really can't figure it out, and she doesn't know how to deal with it.
The two are in a campus romance. The woman comes from a fourth-tier town, the man comes from the countryside, one was born in a single-parent family and has never enjoyed a father's love since he was a child, and the other grew up in a rural family in economic distress and has always suffered from life. Because of sympathy and sympathy, the two came together.
The provincial city is big, it is not easy to live, in order to be able to take root in this second-tier city, the two people have suffered a lot, and in the most difficult time, a pack of instant noodles is eaten separately, which is the dinner of two people.
It was a very hard time, but it was also very happy, because the two of them thought together and worked hard together, and they lived every day full of hope and energy.
In the third year of marriage, both of them were promoted and raised, and the man also received a discount on buying a house because of a patent.
In the 5th year of marriage, the two bought a house, bought a car, gave birth to a daughter, and lived a plain and happy family life of three.
This is the day that the couple has been yearning for a long time, and the woman has always thought that if the dream comes true, the days will definitely get better and happier.
But the thunderbolt came suddenly, and before the ten years of itching, the man cheated.
Women really can't figure out why men are going to cheat and betray when life is just good?
Two
In marriage, you must learn to get along with men with men's thinking.
Men have always been very utilitarian, and in a man's world, feelings and morality are not worth mentioning, and the most important thing is face and interests.
As long as he feels that he has face, and let him get the maximum benefit, feelings and morals, he can put it aside.
There was once a male reader who said very bluntly:
What can cheating be? It's not a thing at all, you look at the men around me, but whoever has a little money and a little power, who doesn't have a little story? This is a matter of a man's face, and people will laugh at him if he doesn't have a story.
This male fan is engaged in alcohol sales, and he is already at the level of a regional manager, and the men around him have either divorced and remarried, or have extramarital stories, in short, women outside of marriage are their face.
As for love or non-love, men rarely think about it, they think more about their vital interests.
The essence of all relationships is the exchange of interests, not love and dislove. When the woman outside can provide him with greater value and help him stand higher and fly farther, the man will not hesitate to abandon the old love and run to the new love.
But women are always idealistic, always like to measure a relationship with love and dislove, when you use this logic to develop a relationship, what you meet is actually only your own expectations.
And when you, like a man, think about problems with interests and values, you can grasp the essence of life and grasp the seven inches of a relationship.
Three
Be result-oriented, and you can really solve problems.
The Marriage Act protects property, not feelings. The essence of marriage is the exchange of values, using what you have, exchanging what the other party has, complementing each other, and satisfying each other.
Only by figuring out what you need can you manage a marriage well and make rational and sober decisions when there is a crack in your marriage.
It's a pity that in the face of men's cheating and betrayal, women are often most concerned and entangled with these:
I've given so much for this family, why are you doing this to me?
Do you love me or do you love the woman outside? Why do you betray me if you love me? You love that woman, why don't you divorce me first?
What is repeatedly entangled is all emotional discussion and emotional catharsis, and there is no consideration at all about how to solve the problem and what kind of result you really need to get.
So men are not afraid of women being noisy at all. If marriage is still good for them, he will give in and coax you. If he gets bored and wants to retreat, he will have a cold war with you and push you to the end of divorce.
Only when you think clearly about what you want and start with the end in mind can you not be led by emotions and truly solve the dilemma in your marriage.
Love has never been the core of marriage, value is.