Director Ang Lee said:
In any relationship, respect is more important than love.
When a relationship has neither respect nor love, it will inevitably come to an end.
And after reaching the end, many women will choose to be single all the time, and their single days will be completely different from before.
This kind of atmosphere of divorced single women can be seen from their living conditions, words and deeds.
One
The personality is tough and no longer depends on anyone
When getting married, everyone is running for happiness, but in the end, the marriage ended up in failure, although the people in it have experienced pain and injury.
The so-called eating a trench and growing a wisdom, leaving an inappropriate marriage, is also for happiness, and a woman who dares to leave a failed marriage must also know that in this world, no one is anyone's savior, and in the end, only she can be relied on.
Therefore, a divorced and single woman will become tough and strong, and will no longer think about who to rely on and who to rely on, but will only do her best to improve herself and strengthen herself.
When she was married for ten years, Li Yan divorced with her daughter. After the divorce, in addition to working and taking care of her daughter, Li Yan spent a lot of time on improving her ability, and in ten years, she took four certificates, including a certified public accountant certificate with extremely high gold content and extremely related to her work. With the blessing of these certificates, Li Yan has got a lot of part-time opportunities, and her income has increased significantly, laying a good economic foundation for her daughter and herself.
Li Yan said:
A bird rests on a branch, not because it believes it won't break, but because it knows it can fly.
The woman who has been critted by the cruel reality of marriage, no matter which city she is in, eventually lives as a "Shenzhen girl":
It's okay to say that I don't want anyone, but you can't say that I can't make money!
Two
The requirements for choosing a mate have become higher, and they no longer have wronged themselves
In the five years since the divorce, Wang Li has been in contact with many blind dates, but she will never marry for the sake of marriage like in her first marriage, but will not give in and will not compromise. Her attitude is very straightforward:
It is best to choose the right person to marry, and if you can't choose the right one, it doesn't matter if you live alone.
At the time of her first marriage, Wang Li was 29 years old, she had just experienced the damage of a relationship, and her expectations for love tended to be close to zero.
So, her ex-husband walked into Wang Li's life.
But after really living together, Wang Li found that living with a person with different views and who was completely unsuitable was torment every day. After working hard for a few years, the two of them finally did not carry the seven-year itch.
When she divorced, Wang Li cleaned up the photos, which happened in seven years of marriage, and she could hardly find photos with a smile on her face. It was then that she completely woke up to how much this marriage hurt her.
After the divorce, Wang Li focused her life on herself, worked hard, lived well, and had an attitude towards marriage:
Yes, it's the icing on the cake, and if not, it's going to be natural.
Writer Marquez said in "One Hundred Years of Solitude":
The essence of life is to live alone and not expect too much from others. The loneliness of adults is the joy and sorrow of self-transcendence, and this is also our rare freedom.
A divorced woman, after seeing through the truth of marriage and life, will not expect too much from others, and will not regard marriage as the protagonist of life.
Psychologist Daniel Kahneman said:
The key to happiness is not whether you are married, whether you have children, etc., but whether you have the ability to pursue happiness no matter what state you are in, and the ability to feel happy no matter how small a thing is.
Love in the right way, don't wronged yourself, don't change each other, in order to love and be loved as you wish.
Remember this passage:
In addition to being sick, the pain you feel is brought about by your values, and there are only 3 things you care about now:
Your money, your health, your peace of mind. Once the heart is calm, the outside world is silent.