Writer Zhang Xiaoxian said:
People don't treat important things casually. Most of the time, the coldness, neglect, and indifference you feel are not delusional.
Love or not love is reflected in the minutiae of life.
When a man has an outside heart, even if he doesn't say it, he can show one or two from his words and deeds in his daily life.
When a man has two hearts, he will definitely do a few things to his wife, as long as he observes carefully, he can be clear.
One
Leave the affairs of the family to your wife, and you can ignore it
Where a person's mind is placed, his time and energy will be placed.
A person's time and energy are limited, and when a person spends his time and energy in one place and somewhere else, he has no time, no energy, and no heart to take care of it.
Hu Dou will find out that something is wrong with men, after the mantra of men becomes "whatever you want".
Both of them are from the 18th-tier town, and they have worked hard for many years to gain a firm foothold in the provincial capital. All along, the husband and wife have worked hand in hand, working together, and everything is discussed, considerate and tolerant of each other.
But I don't know when it began, Hu Dou found that men are more and more coping with family affairs, whether it is the support of parents or the education of children, most men only have one sentence: whatever you want, you can do it, I can do it.
Behind this sentence, it seems that Hu Dou is given the greatest authority, but what follows is that the man neither works nor contributes, and it seems that everything has nothing to do with him.
Hu Dou still remembers one thing, one day she couldn't pull away, so she asked the man to take her daughter to the pool to swim, and after the man couldn't get rid of it, she had to take her daughter out with an impatient face. And when Hu Dou rushed to the pool, he found that the man had been chatting with his mobile phone, and he didn't pay attention to taking care of his daughter in the water at all.
You know, before this, daughters were the tip of a man's heart.
At that moment, Hu Dou's sixth sense told her that there was something wrong with the man.
It turned out to be exactly what she expected.
Two
Ignore his wife and put disgust on his face
Once a man has an outside heart, there will definitely be a significant change in his attitude towards his wife.
The first is to ignore the daily life of his wife, to be a bystander to everything about his wife, to be a bystander, once his wife complains or requests, the man will be extremely impatient, either indifferent or disgusted.
I watched a video where my wife was sick and struggled at home for a few days, and the man kept ignoring it, not even caring for a word, and then the wife couldn't bear to go to the hospital and wanted the man to accompany her, but the man said that he had to work overtime and couldn't spare time, so he asked his wife to take a taxi by herself.
The wife thought that the man was really busy with work, but later found out that it was not, she went out to the hospital with her front foot, and the man went to clean the new house for the woman outside.
When a man has an outside heart, he will no longer look at his wife around him, and he will no longer have any care and care for his wife, but will only habitually be cold and violent.
When some responsibilities and obligations cannot be avoided, he will complain about his wife, dislike her, and suppress her.
Wang Jia discovered that men's extramarital situations started with men's ubiquitous dislike.
Wang Jia's work is relatively easy, so she usually worries about the big and small things at home, but during that period of time, she had the opportunity to change her guard and be promoted, and she had more work than usual, so she had to hand over some daily household chores to men.
In the past, when encountering such a career promotion opportunity, men would definitely give their full support, but Wang Jia found that this time men not only did not support and cooperate, but also suppressed and complained everywhere:
You are the mother of a child, and managing your child's education is your top priority.
Such suppression and complaints were too abnormal, which aroused Wang Jia's suspicions, and soon, she knew the truth about the man. The man not only has an extramarital lover, but also has a plan to divorce at the instigation of his lover.
Director Ang Lee said:
In any relationship, respect is more important than love.
When a man has two hearts, not only is there no love, but also no respect.
This is what a woman needs to do, to be strong and take care of herself.
What keeps a person is never humble, but living well and independently.