Raising children is an unavoidable responsibility of every family with children, however, families have very different approaches to education. In the past, due to the relative isolation of information, many parents may not have noticed any areas of their thinking that needed improvement.
With the improvement of the cognition and insight of contemporary parents, the educational concept is also significantly different from that of their predecessors. Although the status of "elders" should be respected, if this is used as a reason to ignore others, it will be ridiculed by many people.
Grandma cooks the "pets" of elementary school students and forces them to eat them with tears In the process of growing up students, it is not only about academics, but also about companionship and communication. Sometimes, the comfort and companionship that parents fail to provide is reflected in their pets.
Many adults recall the animals they raised as students with fond memories. However, many parents may not have much understanding of this issue, resulting in students treating their "partners" lightly.
The scene of the elementary school student crying has attracted widespread attention on the Internet. His beloved pet was cooked by his grandmother and asked to be eaten. It turned out that the pet was a crab.
Grandma thinks that crabs are food and there is nothing to cry about. However, the primary school students felt very aggrieved, burst into tears, and were reluctant to eat. The old man was even more incomprehensible and blamed the student for being "disobedient", believing that it was just a trivial matter that caused unnecessary disturbances.
So, she peeled off the crab leg herself, took out a small piece of meat and handed it to the student's mouth, asking him to eat it. Maybe she thinks that after tasting the delicious food, the students will change their attitudes.
However, this behavior has been criticized by many netizens. In the eyes of many seniors, this is a normal way of education. But young parents and students are extremely disgusted by this.
This approach to education has sparked debate: why do many parents ignore the feelings of their students? A famous person once said: Every parent was once a child, but in adulthood they often forget this, and never consider the child's abilities and feelings when asking for their offspring.
A netizen saw this scene and summarized it as a "hellish" family education. Parents and elders are supposed to maintain a warm attitude towards their offspring, but there is no comfort in seeing elementary school students in such pain.
When students feel sad because of their actions and express normal emotions, they are blamed for "disobedience", which makes many students have to suppress themselves. Some teachers lament that those students who are too sensible are often the result of parents in the family who are not sensible enough.
This makes friends who are concerned about education wonder: why can many parents ignore the feelings of their students without any scruples? Especially in the eyes of the previous generation, they even think that there is nothing wrong with this way of training.
From their point of view, there may be some practical reasons for this way of thinking. First of all, the material conditions of the previous generation were not as abundant as they are now, and they thought that it was more valuable for students to eat crabs, which was more tangible than playing.
Secondly, many people think that food is food and students should not be too picky. Because of crying about this kind of thing, some elders may think that it is "too pampered".
This thinking stance was quickly countered by netizens. Some parents said that if they have to cook it, they should remind them that "this is food, you can't treat it as a friend" when they take it out to play.
Knowing that elementary school students are more likely to take things seriously, they choose not to remind them, ignore their feelings when the student is crying, and make a "joke" for everyone's entertainment. In essence, this behavior does not treat students as equals.
For students with a positive attitude, it may be fine, but for students with a heavier mind, it may leave a "scar" in their hearts. They will find it difficult to trust their parents and will become cautious in their interpersonal interactions, afraid to put their expectations into account.
Parents who are up-to-date are often better able to produce resilient offspring. The good news is that many parents have changed their educational philosophy. Rather than emphasizing that students "do what they say" or asking them to be absolutely subservient to their "elders", more and more people are learning to respect the independent individuality of future generations.
They allow students to express their feelings in an appropriate way instead of reprimanding them for "talking back" at the slightest rebuttal. It is also related to objective conditions. The previous generation cultivated the next generation, and the main consideration was the issue of "pension".
This generation of parents has abandoned this notion and is more concerned about the overall development of their students in the future, so they are more concerned about their feelings.
In fact, parents with a modern educational mindset are more likely to raise more adaptable offspring. Character, patriotic consciousness, and self-preservation consciousness all need targeted guidance to establish.
Whether a student is valued and cared for in his or her family of origin, or whether he grows up in an environment that ignores his feelings, will inevitably have a significant impact on his self-confidence and abilities.