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On the weekend, my daughter-in-law's sister came to her to take the kids out for a picnic with her, bringing a box of cherries and a box of blueberries, I washed some for them to eat on the road, and put the rest in the fridge. On the same day, my daughter came with her grandson, and I took out the leftover cherries and blueberries for them to eat, and I took the rest with them. My daughter-in-law found that the cherries and blueberries were gone, and I told her that the fruit was taken away by my daughter, but my daughter-in-law immediately blackened her face and didn't eat dinner, so she ignored me until now!
Sister Yang, a noodle chef at our restaurant, told me that because she gave her daughter-in-law the cherries and blueberries that her sister-in-law bought, her daughter-in-law ignored her.
(For the sake of description, the following is in the first person)
I am from the countryside, my husband died more than 20 years ago, so many years I have been alone with a son and a daughter, life is not easy, I am in my 60s this year, and I am still working to help my son pay off the house.
The son works in a factory and the salary is not high, the daughter-in-law works as a salesperson in a cosmetics store, and a grandson is in elementary school.
When their son got married, the young couple discussed that in order for their children to go to school in the future, they must buy a school district house.
I didn't have enough money, so I sold the house in my hometown to make a down payment for them, but I had nowhere to live after the house was sold, so I had to live with my son.
When my daughter-in-law gave birth to a grandson, I watched my grandson at my son's house, cleaned up the housework, cooked and washed clothes for my son and daughter-in-law, just to let them work hard and earn more money.
I have brought my grandson for several years, and I am like a nanny at my son's house, but I don't get a salary like a nanny, and I don't have a penny of income.
Fortunately, the contracted land in his hometown village was contracted to his neighbors, and he could earn four or five thousand yuan a year.
My daughter, although the two of them also do a small business in the city, never earn much money, and life is tight.
The palms of my hands and the backs of my hands are full of meat, and I also feel sorry for my daughter, so I took my son behind my back and gave my daughter thousands of dollars a year.
My son knows that I have a few thousand yuan a year in the lease fee of the contracted land, and sometimes he is short of money, and he will ask me for money, but I can't get it, and my daughter-in-law is not happy about it.
Last year, my grandson went to school, and I also came out to find a job with a monthly salary of 3,200 yuan, and I also thought about moving out and renting a house.
But my son was not happy to be afraid of spending money, and said that the money from renting a house could be used to pay off the house, so that I would take out 1,000 yuan from my monthly salary to give my son.
I took out another 1,000 yuan to subsidize my daughter, and the restaurant where I work is in charge of eating, so I can barely spend money and save more than 1,000 yuan a month.
But I want to cry when I think about it, I haven't been to school since I was a child, and after my husband died, I didn't have anything to rely on, so I could only work hard to support my family and children.
Maybe because he is busy working every day to earn money, he neglects the education of his two children, and his son and daughter are not very productive, and now he can only do the most tiring work and earn a small salary.
I helped my son and daughter-in-law take care of the children, helped them take care of the house, washed their clothes and cooked, but my son and daughter-in-law didn't have any gratitude, and the daughter-in-law still gave a little face at every turn.
My daughter's side is not very good, although I try my best to help them, and often make delicious food and drink when my son and daughter-in-law are at work, and let my daughter secretly take it back to her own home.
But my son-in-law was still dissatisfied with me, saying that they bought a house for my son and looked after the child, but they couldn't help my daughter much.
I have worked hard for half my life, and I am still working to subsidize my children in my 60s, but my children do not know how to be grateful, which makes me very disappointed.
Although I sold my house and bought a house in the city for my son, I had no choice but to live in my son's house. But in this home, I can't be the master at all.
Yesterday weekend, my daughter-in-law's sister came to the house and asked them to take the children out for a day.
I myself was off work that day, and it had been seven or eight years since I came to the city, but I was busy from morning to night all year round, and I never went out to play, or even went shopping.
Two days ago, I heard from a colleague that the peonies in the park were all blooming, and I had never seen real peony flowers until I was in my 60s.
So, yesterday I really wanted to go with my son's family to see peonies, but no one invited me.
Because I wanted to go so much, I proposed in front of my daughter-in-law and sister that I wanted to go out with them for a day.
The daughter-in-law's sister didn't say anything, the son pretended not to hear, and the daughter-in-law said that she couldn't sit in the car, and she wanted me to take the bus by myself, but I had never taken the bus myself, so in the end I still didn't make it.
The daughter-in-law's sister came and bought a box of cherries and a box of blueberries. I washed some of them and let them take them with them on the road, and put the rest in the fridge.
As soon as they went out, the daughter came with her grandson, and as soon as the mother and son entered the door, they said that they were hungry.
Cherries and blueberries are both valuable fruits, and listening to my daughter-in-law and sister talk about dozens of dollars a pound, I think my daughter may not be willing to buy such expensive fruits to eat.
I took out the cherries and blueberries for my daughter and grandson to eat first, and then went to cook. As a result, the daughter and grandson were almost exhausted of cherries and blueberries.
My grandson said that it was delicious, and he had never eaten such delicious cherries.
My grandson said that I was very distressed, and I didn't want to eat any of these two fruits, and when my daughters left, I let them take what little was left.
In the afternoon, the son's family came back, and the grandson came in and shouted to eat the blueberries and cherries that his aunt bought.
My daughter-in-law opened the refrigerator and saw that the cherries and blueberries were gone, so she asked me where I put the fruit?
I had to tell her the truth, and told her that my daughter and grandson had come and I would give them to eat, and my grandson said that he had never eaten them, so I took the rest with them.
When the daughter-in-law heard this, her face immediately changed, and she was an old man with a pulled face.
She was very angry and said: "If the child's aunt didn't buy such an expensive fruit, she would not be willing to buy it, why did she let her grandson take it, don't you know how to leave some for your grandson?
My daughter-in-law's words made me feel ashamed, so I had to take out 100 yuan to my daughter-in-law and ask her to buy some more, but my daughter-in-law didn't take the money and ignored me and went back to the room.
I gave the money to my son to buy it, but he only said, "Look what you're doing, and you slammed the door and went back to the house." ”
I prepared breakfast for them early this morning, but none of the three of them ate or paid any attention to me, so they opened the door and left.
I sat alone on the sofa, and the tears of grievance couldn't stop flowing.
I really can't understand that after being a nanny for my son's family for six years, not only did I not get a penny, but I also subsidized them with my own money, just because I gave my daughter and grandson a little fruit, they didn't give up?
Let's talk about my personal opinion: I think that the parents' home will always be the children's home, and the children's home has never been the parents' home.
If you want to eat fruit for your daughter and grandson, you can buy it with your own money, and wouldn't it be nice to buy it for the whole family.
There is no need to give favors with gifts from the daughter-in-law's mother's family, which will make the son's family unhappy, and if the daughter knows, it may increase the conflict between the two parties.
To put it bluntly, it is something brought by someone's daughter-in-law's family, and the mother-in-law has no right to dispose of it.
Although he is an elder, he lives in his son's house, and his son and daughter-in-law are the masters of this family.