Bao's mother bought "cake leftovers" for the baby, and netizens complained: Poor parents raise children with low self-esteem

When our economic conditions are average, we usually control our expenses, shop around when we buy things, try to pick the cost-effective ones, and don't spend money indiscriminately.

Sometimes, in order to be frugal, we only pick and buy goods at a discount, although they are not as good as the regular price, but as long as they can barely accept it, then it is okay.

There is a mother on the Internet who is also a thrifty housekeeper. She once found something good for her child and happily shared it on the Internet, but unexpectedly, she was criticized and opposed by many netizens.

One: Bao Ma buys "cake leftovers" for the baby

Bao's mother has 2 children at home, and the old man can't help bring it, so she has no choice but to take care of the baby at home.

Since the family's expenses depend on the husband alone, the family background is average, and there may even be some constraints. Bao Ma usually saves money, and spends not more than a penny.

Bao's mother's family rarely goes out to eat, and basically eats at home, and buys vegetables and fruits at a cheap and discounted price.

Once, she saw a cake shop selling "cake leftovers" at a low price, that is, the corners that are not used to cut the cake, and a few dollars can buy a large bag.

Usually the children want to eat cakes, but their mothers are reluctant to buy them, and a cake is dozens or even more than a hundred. Ordinary baked cakes are also one or twenty yuan a catty, and the price is not cheap.

But these cake scraps, for 3 or 5 pieces, you can buy several catties, which is simply too cost-effective!

My mother was so happy that she brought home a big bag of cake scraps. Although it doesn't look good, the taste is the same, and children can eat it to their heart's content.

My mother felt that she had picked up a bargain and was thrifty in running the house, so as soon as she was happy, she casually posted the matter on the Internet.

Unexpectedly, the comments below were noisy.

Two: Netizens complained

Many opposing netizens complained: Poor parents raise children with low self-esteem.

Because they feel that it doesn't cost much to buy a normal cake for their children to eat once in a while, but letting their children live such a "shabby" life will raise children with low self-esteem.

There are also netizens who don't approve of it, thinking that it's okay to buy leftovers, but can you not make it look so bad? Children need not only to be fed, but also to be mentally guided.

There are also netizens who are experts in making cakes who say that when the weather is hot, the leftovers of the cake are easy to mold. If it's freshly cut, it's fine, but it's best not to give it to your child after a long time.

Some netizens persuaded Bao's mother that parents should work hard, next time this kind of thing, just digest it slowly, and tell others about their own situation with such fanfare, it will seem to be out of pattern and will mislead children.

Of course, there are also many netizens who support Bao Ma, thinking that there is nothing wrong with being diligent and thrifty. As long as it's not bad, save money and eat more, how happy it is!

Some netizens also said that facing their own situation calmly, as long as they are not inferior because of poverty and proud of wealth and arrogance, this is teaching by word and deed.

chatting and chatting, many netizens talked about "the poor and the rich". We usually wonder if when raising children, should we be poor or rich?

Three: the poor support the rich

Many netizens believe that it is of course okay to buy cheap things, but the most important thing is the attitude of parents.

If parents tell their children that you can't eat other cakes, only this kind of leftovers, it's not good for the child.

I agree with that. After all, each family is different, and the shoes that our children can wear may not be suitable for others, and we may not be able to afford the food and clothing of other people's children.

Therefore, we don't want to comment on others rashly: "How do you buy this for your child?

If we don't want our children to be spiritually deprived due to material deprivation, then our focus is not on supporting the poor and the rich, but on the attitude towards our own situation.

If we only cry poor, as soon as we buy something for our child, we seize the opportunity to educate him: "Buying these things for you cost me half a day's salary, why are you so ignorant?"

Spiritually, the child may really be raised "poor". As soon as he buys something, he feels guilty and feels that he is selfish, unfilial, and greedy.

Since then, he has not only been timid about money, but also afraid to be nicer to himself. Because as long as he is good to himself, he feels that he has a "sin".

Moreover, he will also establish a false view of money.

He will take money too seriously, so he misses out a lot of things, or he can't handle relationships well.

My suggestion is that we should give our children as much material life as we can. After all, we don't want our children to develop a big-spending and frugal character.

Let the child see his real family background, he can be more considerate of his parents' difficulties, so that he can work hard to change his life in the future.

But the premise is that we learn to be guided by wisdom.

Even if we buy cheap, discounted leftovers, we can enjoy them happily and tell our children, "We will work hard as a family to try to eat better things in the future." You also study hard, and when you have the ability in the future, I believe that you will live a better life than you do now!"

With such a positive attitude, children can know how to save without feeling inferior because of temporary poverty.

What do you think about the fact that a mother eats a "leftover cake" for her child?

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