Some data show that in recent years, the proportion of sexual assault cases committed by acquaintances has exceeded 60%, and the highest is 91%.
Many of these are distressing examples: a 45-year-old elementary school teacher used coercion and inducement to deceive the trust of a 7-year-old girl and sexually assaulted her three times in two months.
What's even more distressing is that in the girl's ideology, she feels that she is not being sexually assaulted, so after the girl was fooled, she did not tell her family in time.
Moreover, many minors who have been sexually assaulted do not know that they have been harmed, or think that it is something to be ashamed of, and do not tell their parents, let alone report to the police in time.
The main reason for this is the lack of gender education, which is not well understood.
In order to protect our children well, and also to let children learn to protect themselves, and to be able to tell their parents in time when they are violated, so as to avoid further abuse, it is urgent to do a good job in sex education.
When did sex education begin
In the face of such a perplexing problem, some parents think that it is at least about 10 years old, some think that it should be in adolescence, and some even think that it is necessary to wait until the child reaches adulthood, obviously these views are wrong.
In fact, sex education should start from the moment the child is born, 0 to 3 years old baby is the enlightenment stage of sex education, must not be ignored, the general baby at the age of 2 years old has a sense of gender, sometimes because of curiosity to play with body organs, at this time parents should have sex education preparation.
First of all, you can't reprimand the child, you should explain the function of each part to the baby, so that the child knows the difference between boys and girls, if you are afraid that the child will not understand, you can use cartoon pictures or picture books and animations to make it easier for the child to accept.
Only when the child really understands will he not feel so curious and will become calm.
3 to 6 years old
After the age of 3, children will ask more complex and sensitive questions, such as 'Where am I from?', and sometimes they will point to their body organs and ask their parents what is this called.
Many parents encounter their children asking this kind of question, because they feel embarrassed and difficult to speak, they will ignore the problem and do it hastily, and even reprimand the child's behavior.
In fact, every time a child talks about such an issue, it is the best opportunity for parents to educate their children about sex.
7 to 10 years old
Children after the age of 7 have entered the door of primary school, with the expansion of knowledge, children's questions will be more sensitive, contact with more and more people and things, it is easy to become a victim of sexual assault, so parents should teach their children how to identify sexual assault.
No one should touch their own body, including parents, who should only touch their child's body as a last resort, but be sure to explain the reason to the child in advance.
For example, because the child is too young and needs the help of parents to take a bath or something. We can also explain to our children why most of their clothes are taken off when swimming, and some parts are still covered, because the covered parts are private and cannot be invaded by anyone.
Parents should establish mutual trust and incomparable relationships with their children, and tell their children that once they are hurt, tell their parents as soon as possible, no matter what happens, their parents will always be your strong backing, and their parents will always be your protectors.
Let your child always be vigilant and tell him that there are four can'ts: no one can look at your private parts, others can't talk to you about your privacy, no one can touch your privacy, and when your parents are not around, you can't accept any gifts and requests from strangers, let alone be alone. If any of the above happens, tell your parents immediately.
Adolescence between 10-16 years of age
When the child enters puberty, sex education is the most critical time, at this time the child will have changes in physical characteristics, boys will have Adam's apple, sperm loss and other phenomena, girls will have menstruation, if parents do not guide correctly, children have no corresponding measures, there will be fear, helplessness, and even anxiety.
First of all, it is normal for adolescent children to have sexual urges, but parents must tell their children not to involve the relationship between men and women too early, because this age is in the period of physical development, and early experience will affect the child's physical development, and serious will cause physical diseases.
Secondly, the child's thinking is immature, can not be responsible for their own behavior, at this time the most important thing for the child is academic, parents should pay attention to guidance, can not force orders, can chat with the child in a calm tone, educate them to get along with friends of the opposite sex boundaries, know the importance of letting the child understand this matter with emotion and reason.
Finally, parents should always pay attention to their children's usual hygiene habits, which is also an important part of sex education, many children do not know that the intimate parts are very sensitive and fragile places, and children can learn how to protect and clean their intimate parts through genuine sex education books.
Once you find that any part is uncomfortable, you should tell your parents in time, and don't wait until there is an obvious abnormality in the body, and then deal with some trouble.
In response to the popular science of this problem, I recommend you a very good set of adolescent books, called "Adolescent Growth Handbook".
This is a very good set of comic science books for primary and secondary school students, to help children decode the troubles of adolescence, break through the three major growth dilemmas of physiology, psychology and learning, so that children can understand their physiological and psychological changes, and correctly understand puberty.
This set of books consists of three volumes, each of which tells 21 growth stories related to adolescence, answering questions about children's adolescent knowledge in an all-round way.
Physiological:
When does a boy grow an Adam's apple, when does he start to change his voice, when does he grow a beard, what precautions should he take at this time, when he will have pimples, what should he do if he has pimples, when will he lose sperm, etc.;
When does a girl start to develop, when does she start menstruating, how to cope with menstruation, what kind of underwear should be chosen to help development, etc.;
The book popularizes the physical and psychological changes brought about by adolescence, understands the dangers that may be encountered, and teaches children to learn to protect themselves.
Psychologically:
Why did you become very bad-tempered, why did you become sensitive and suspicious, why did you want to "explode" when you encountered a setback, why did you start to become rebellious, addicted to the Internet, why you like to play with the opposite sex, why you became interested in the opposite sex, how to establish the right interpersonal relationship......
This book starts from emotions and behaviors, interprets the psychological changes in adolescence, teaches children how to live in harmony with negative emotions, teaches children to learn to manage emotions, and regulates their behavior.
Study:
Why do you become careless, become difficult to concentrate, why do your grades suddenly start to drop, how to face your studies correctly, how to become efficient like a top student......
The book teaches children the correct learning methods, examination skills, how to adjust their mentality, etc., and guides children to find their own learning methods and become learning masters.
These adolescent parents can't say clearly, the confusion of learning is not told, the answer can be found in this set of books, there are adolescent children at home, it is highly recommended to prepare a set for him, the link is placed here, click to buy!
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epilogue
In order to prevent our children from becoming sexually blind in the future, in order to prevent more children from being violated, and for the sake of children's future lives to be happier and more harmonious, we must not be absent and ignore children's gender education, because the harm caused by the lack of sex education will be for a lifetime.
Author: Wait for the wind to come
A working mother of two children, holding a pen in her left hand and a baby in her right hand, she likes to read, write, and paint, and firmly believes that even if she lives in a chicken feather, she must have her own poetry and distance in her heart.
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