If you knew in advance that your job was for a group of children who refused to communicate, had a tendency to self-harm, and were emotionally unstable, would you still choose this job?
Without the slightest hesitation, she said, "Yes." ”
This is an interview with Liu Lingli, one of the people who "moved China" in 2023.
Liu Lingli is a special education teacher.
When she first entered the industry, she was 18 years old, which is the age of beauty.
There was a student named Xiaohui in the class, who was deaf and moderately mentally retarded, and could not take care of himself.
This job, which most people have quit doing, she has been doing for 33 years.
It wasn't until she was on the list of moving China that this group of special children and this inconspicuous profession re-entered the public's field of vision.
If they are a group of winged angels, then Liu Lingli's goal is to help them soar again, as said in the award speech:
"Eyes, ears, nose, tongue, body and mind, color, fragrance, sound, taste, touch, exhaust everything, unlock life.
She retrieved one pair of wings after another from fate and led the children out of the cage of silence.
Listen, with each new pronunciation, opens up a new world. ”
Keep the pain to yourself, and the smile to the child
In the long years, there were only a few steps on the key road.
The reason why Liu Lingli chose to become a special education teacher is simple and sincere.
When she was 14 years old, there was a strange aunt next to her house, who often sat alone, did not speak or make a sound, and just quietly watched the pedestrians.
Liu Lingli wondered why she didn't play with other people, and later learned that she was deaf and mute.
"Can't such a person go to school?"
With such questions, when choosing a major, she chose the major of deaf education. After graduation, he gave up the opportunity to teach in other places and returned to his hometown of Hengyang to work as an ordinary special education teacher.
Because of her age and experience, she faced a lot of problems when she first took up the job.
Some children cry when they see someone, some children have violence problems, some children have self-harm, and each situation takes a lot of time and energy to soothe and solve.
In addition to her family, Liu Lingli became their second mother. She does the daily laundry, feeding, cochlear plucking, and cochlear wearing, and spends most of her time at school except for the rest time at night.
In order to take better care of the child, she applied for continuous classes, and her body issued a warning because of overload, and she did not slack off at all:
"I can only rest assured if I take good care of the children. ”
When she was 32 years old, her job gradually stabilized, and she ushered in her own little life, and since then she has been a mother again.
Fate seemed intent on testing her.
When her son was diagnosed with congenital neural hearing loss at 8 months, the doctor told her, "You should give your child a hearing aid as soon as possible." ”
This news is difficult for any mother to accept, and Liu Lingli is no exception: "I am a hearing-impaired teacher myself, how can the child also be congenitally hearing-impaired!"
The house leak happened to rain overnight, and her husband couldn't accept this reality and filed for divorce.
The principal and colleagues persuaded Liu Lingli to take her son to other places for treatment, but Liu Lingli hesitated: "I just took over a hearing-impaired class, how can I give up on them?"
After careful consideration, Liu Lingli decided to teach her children to speak while working.
She began to study courses on her own, flipping through a lot of materials and taking notes.
Created with their own lip and tongue exercises, touch and situational teaching methods, they are patient with each child, sometimes putting the child's hand in their mouth and letting them feel the vibrations and airflow of the sound.
When student Liu Hanxiang first arrived, her vocal cords were very stiff and she could barely make a sound, and Liu Lingli gave her intensive training every day, gave her encouragement and support, and studied and spoke with her.
Now Liu Hanxiang is not only an actor in the China Disabled Persons Art Troupe, but also participates in performances in Panama. Speaking of Liu Lingli, she was very grateful: "Thank you for letting me out of the silent world." ”
Liu Lingli's son was also successfully admitted to Xiangtan Institute of Technology last year and became a college student.
Their world was originally silent and monotonous, and it was people like Liu Lingli who brought them beauty.
It's only a matter of time before it's back in the air
In 1996, "New Shanghai Beach" was broadcast, and Chen Jinhong, who played the male protagonist Xu Wenqiang, became popular and was called Andy Lau in Hong Kong TV by TVB.
At that time, everyone thought that he had a bright future, but at the peak of his career, he resolutely chose to retire and return to his family.
It turned out that in 2004, shortly after Chen Jinhong got married, his wife gave birth to a son.
Before he could rejoice for long, the hammer of fate fell.
When his son was more than two years old, Chen Jinhong found that his son rarely spoke and did not interact with people, and when he went to the hospital for examination, the doctor said that this was a manifestation of autism.
The so-called autism is also known as autism disorder.
Because people with autism show unique behavioral characteristics since childhood, such as difficulty in language comprehension and expression, difficulty in establishing emotions with those around them, etc., people give them a poetic name - children from the stars.
Looking at this child from the stars, Chen Jinhong felt very sad, and in order to cure the child, he tried his best to act.
He spent a lot of money to bring in an expert in this area for his child, but the child's condition not only did not improve, but his understanding of things became more limited.
"This shouldn't be, the child used to be very smart, why does it seem to be getting sluggish now?"
Slowly, I learned that the expert tacitly acquiesced that the child had an intellectual disability and formulated a "should" plan for him.
The person who knows the child best is himself, how can he rest assured that he will hand it over to others?
So, despite everyone's opposition, Chen Jinhong gave up his career and went home to take care of his children.
He taught his children to speak, taught him to dress and wash, read and read and recognize people, and it only took a few minutes for other children to go to the toilet, which Chen Jinhong's children used for 3 years.
It was also Chen Jinhong's persistence that the child finally learned to speak, entered an ordinary primary school, and got the first grade grade.
Someone asked Chen Jinhong if he regretted it, Chen Jinhong said: "I never regret it, after being an actor for so many years, the most outstanding role in my life is to become Chen Jiahua's father." ”
Children with autism are not mentally retarded, but just take a little longer to enter a normal life.
Wang Hongying has worked in special education for nearly 15 years, and she would not have resigned if it weren't for her vocal cord injury.
In the days when she was recuperating at home, from time to time, parents came with their children, hoping to continue learning with her.
Because most children, even if they receive rehabilitation training in school, it is still difficult for them to enter the life of ordinary people without guidance.
"In that case, then I will continue to take them until I am not needed. ”
So she founded Xingzhifu Medical Rehabilitation Center, served as the dean herself, and continued to walk on this road with a group of special education teachers.
With hope in your heart, you can burst out with infinite power.
After all, hope is something that has wings.
This road is long and obstructive
Choosing to be a special education teacher not only has to face the problems of children and yourself, but also faces all kinds of incomprehension from the outside world.
Li Rongrong is the only daughter in the family, and her father only had her when she was 40 years old, and he gave endless love to this daughter.
When he learned that his baby daughter wanted to develop in special education, his father was angry with Li Rongrong for the first time: "If you do it again, get out!"
The daughter who has always been obedient was very rebellious at this time, Li Rongrong took her own computer, took a salary of 800 yuan, and simply rented a house of 200 yuan outside, this house is extremely simple, there is only one partition, and even the bath has to be outside.
But when she saw the children pronounce the first pronunciation and say the first sentence, all the hard work was worth it.
She often said, "No child should be given up, no matter how difficult it is, I can teach." ”
Their idea is simple, do what they can to help a child in need.
Everyone who walks on this road is a lonely brave.
When Liangxian first started looking for a house for the studio, she repeatedly hit a wall, and when others heard about her business, they rejected one after another.
Yes, she is a special educator, and most landlords dislike the job as too noisy and refuse to rent out a house to Liangxian.
Finally found one willing to rent, the landlord asked her to move to the most remote room, and kept telling her not to affect others.
She smiled wryly and said, "If you don't have enough patience and love in this business, you can't stick to it at all." ”
In fact, autism is just an increasingly common disease that they are working on, and prejudice and cold eyes should not be the south wall on their way to hard work.
If you don't understand, then keep silent.
Sometimes, silence is the greatest respect to be given to others.
Since you have chosen, there is no reason to give up
When netizen Lorlie was interning at a special school, a teacher said: "Ordinary children can't teach, why do you want to do special education if you are so good?"
Being a teacher is hard, and being a special education teacher is even harder, and because of this, people who can persevere are more worthy of respect.
Hu Xiaoli chose to be a special education teacher at the age of 19 and took the initiative to apply to go to classes outside the province to receive practical guidance on rehabilitation.
Wang Shanshan, a special education teacher in Feicheng City, has driven 30 kilometers every week for 7 consecutive years to deliver education to severely disabled teenagers in the city.
Principal Niu Xianping devoted himself to studying the teaching laws of special education, participated in college research, and said more than once: "We must find an educational path suitable for students with autism." ”
Principal Niu Xianping
I like Mr. Lu Xun's sentence very much: "There is no road in the world, and when there are more people walking, it becomes a road." ”
The road of special education teachers is destined to be hard and difficult.
It was because of him, she, and them that gave a glimmer of hope to that special group of children and families.
Choosing to be a special education teacher is also destined to not be able to enjoy the same treatment as other ordinary teachers, and no matter how much sour and bitter it is, it can only be swallowed by itself.
It's hard for them to be all over the world, because they're dealing with a special group of children.
Liu Lingli has been in the special education position for 33 years, and there are less than 100 graduates.
But there are less than 100 students, who have already entered the society and integrated into normal life, and they can also shine in their favorite fields.
"From the moment I stepped on the three-foot podium, I connected my life with the party's special education cause, and integrated my life with my hearing-impaired students. ”
This is not only Liu Lingli's idea, but also the voice of thousands of special education teachers.
Source: Visual China
They know that what they are doing is not spectacular, and they may never be noticed by anyone.
But what they are looking for is never those attached labels and glory.
It's an altruistic heart out of love and responsibility.
Shi Tiesheng once said that as far as fate is concerned, justice is not discussed.
Fate is inherently unfair.
Fortunately, when there is a rift in life, there is always someone who wants to be the light that shines into the rift.
Bring warmth and solace to those who are trapped in the shadows.
Author: Qianyang.