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My name is Yang Zhuangyuan, I am 41 years old and I am an engineer.
When she was two years old, her mother committed suicide by poisoning shortly after giving birth to her younger sister. My father married my stepmother and gave birth to a son and a daughter, and since then, I have not felt father's love and mother's love.
In 2007, when I was a graduate student at the University of Shanghai for Science and Technology, I met my first husband, and I thought I would grow old together, but the marriage was lost in family conflicts.
In 2015, I took my 6-year-old son and married my Austrian husband, who was 20 years older than me. I found that life here is different from that in China.
(Married with a 6-year-old son)
My name is Yang Zhuangyuan and I was born in Shaodong, Hunan.
My childhood had no color, and if there were, it could only be gray, or even black. I have two older sisters, I am the third daughter in the family, when I was two years old, my mother gave birth to her sister 20 days ago, and then committed suicide by poisoning.
With the departure of my mother, there was a wave of sadness in the family, and the saddest thing was that my newborn sister was given away.
Later, my father married a young stepmother and gave birth to a son and a daughter. The love of my father and stepmother was all given to my younger brother and sister, and there was no extra love for me and my sisters.
Since I was a child, I knew that my family was different from others. I work harder than others in my studies, and I have always been the top student in the class.
When I was in college, I studied mechanical design, and I was the only girl in my class. The male classmates in the class took special care of me like brothers, and I felt the happiness of being loved and cared for for for the first time.
(The second child takes care of the third child)
After graduating from university, in 2007, I was admitted to the University of Shanghai for Science and Technology as a graduate student. While I was studying, I met my first husband.
At that time, my roommates were all people with jobs and families, and I was the only one who was single and unmarried. An enthusiastic roommate said that her husband was studying for a doctorate at Shanghai Jiao Tong University, where there was a dating network, and many people found their crush there.
My roommate asked for my opinion and helped me post a blind date on a dating site. At that time, I made two requests, one was to hope that his parents would be both in the future, because I thought that I had no mother since I was a child, and I hoped that my future parents-in-law would help me take care of the children in the future. The other is that he is 1.75 meters tall in the future, because I am 1.6 meters tall.
Of course, the requirements are not rigid, the important thing is fate.
After the blind date post was sent, more than 2,000 people took the initiative to contact me, and I talked to many people who came to apply for the job, and some of them even met.
(I grow vegetables in the garden)
In the end, my boyfriend was a man who was only a centimeter taller than me, and he was kind and sincere. He said that he had both parents and that his mother would definitely bring her grandchildren in the future.
At the 2008 Olympics, my boyfriend and I went to play with my classmates, and that's when I unexpectedly got pregnant.
After we became pregnant, we got married.
After getting married, I realized that marriage is not two people who can live happily if they love each other, there are too many factors. These factors can even lead to family breakdown.
After getting married, I found out that my parents-in-law had been separated for many years, and the relationship between husband and wife was not good. The father-in-law liked life in the countryside, and the mother-in-law was a capable person who earned money in the city to support the family.
After giving birth, my mother-in-law did not help me take care of the child as my husband said, but was busy making money by herself.
My husband and I moved in Shanghai 5 times, either because the landlord wanted to increase the price, or because it was far away from the unit, which made me feel adrift.
In the end, through our joint efforts, we bought a house and a car.
(The second child harvests tomatoes)
Life is no longer adrift, but the contradictions between me and my mother-in-law, as well as the contradictions at home, are becoming more and more acute. The husband is caught in the middle, and he is not a person inside and out. And I didn't have a mother since I was a child, and I couldn't deal with such a complex conflict, and finally our marriage came to an end.
In April 2015, my ex-husband and I divorced. I only took my 6-year-old son with me, and left the car, house and savings to my ex-husband.
When I learned of my divorce, I was contacted by my colleague Paul, who was far away in Austria. Speaking of Paul, it seems to be arranged in the dark.
In 2012, I wanted to change jobs, and thousands of resumes were submitted, most of which were lost, and I interviewed several companies, but they were all unsatisfactory. When I was frustrated, I received a call from a strange headhunter and dramatically entered this company that I had never submitted a resume for.
Headquartered in Vienna, the company plans to set up a new R&D center in Shanghai, and needs experienced colleagues to travel to Shanghai for two years as team leaders.
(The eldest carries the second)
Most of the people in the company have families, and Paul, who was still single at the time, naturally accepted the company's arrangement.
Paul is very introverted, in the company, basically does not talk to people, hides when he can, and walks against the wall, for fear of being seen talking to him.
However, if a colleague asks him for help at work or asks him something about Europe in life, he is an introvert and never says "no".
I'm an engineer in the company, and I talk to him mainly about business. The only time I was alone with him was because we were working late and we went to eat ramen together.
After that, we got acquainted, but I only knew that he was never married and had never been in a relationship.
In 2014, Paul returned to his hometown of Vienna after a two-year overseas business trip. After that, we rarely contacted.
(We are all second brother's cheerleaders)
When we got in touch, I remembered when he was working at the Shanghai branch. He is always the first to arrive at the company and the last to leave. During this time, he went back to Vienna to see his parents and brought chocolates to his colleagues. When he learned that I was far away from work and didn't eat breakfast, he silently bought breakfast for me.
Love has nothing to do with the length of time, months of contact, he slowly warmed my heart like a spring breeze, and we fell in love.
In September 2015, I traveled halfway around the world to Austria to marry this foreigner who was 20 years older than me.
His respect and love for me is reflected in every bit of life. As soon as I arrived in Austria, he told me not to put pressure on myself and not to go out and look for a job.
Although we are not wealthy, we do not have much pressure on life. His income is okay, and the house he bought and the mortgage have been paid off.
(Happy Family)
My husband also treats my son as his own, and in order to integrate him into local life, he first teaches his son German and allows him to enter primary school as soon as possible.
I stayed at home as a full-time housewife, growing vegetables, fruits, and flowers in the garden, watching the flowers and plants fragrant and fruitful, and my heart was very steady.
That's when I found something that shocked me in particular. Outside the fence of my garden is a large cemetery, and it looks like a garden.
Later, I slowly discovered that in Austria, wherever the environment is beautiful and the scenic spots are gathered, there are cemeteries. On the other hand, wherever there is a cemetery, it is a feng shui treasure, and the housing prices are relatively high.
The cemetery is not only a resting place for the deceased, but also a good place for us to visit. Reading a book on a bench or walking a dog on a secluded path or admiring a sculpture of a celebrity is poetic.
(Our family's new house)
Standing in the center of the cemetery, looking at the cemetery area covered by green trees and flowers, people can only feel quiet and peaceful, without a trace of loneliness and sadness.
The tombstones of different materials and shapes in the cemetery are like exquisite works of art, adding a lot of artistic atmosphere to the cemetery.
Vienna's Central Cemetery is home to many dignitaries and celebrities, such as every Austrian president since 1945, as well as familiar artists such as Mozark, Haydn, Beethoven and many more.
In 2016, my second child was born and named Paul the same as his father.
In 2017, when my boss was working in Shanghai, he came to Vienna on a business trip, and when he found out that I was married to Vienna, he took the initiative to ask me if I would like to go back to work at the head office in Vienna.
(Andy, the eldest, sits in the garden with his dad)
He said that if he could get a job in a foreign country, he would be better integrated into the local society. And if you pay taxes yourself and contribute to society, you will also have confidence.
Listening to the words of the boss who thought about me, I was both moved and ashamed. At that time, I married my current husband, because I had just been promoted, I was afraid that my boss would not approve my resignation, and I lied that I was going to Australia for development. Now that I think about it, I'm a little worried.
Soon, I went back to work at the head office. Austrians don't fish at work, and when they get to the office, they start working intensely and efficiently.
Every company has a must-have free coffee, and this coffee is a "sugar-coated cannonball", and after drinking it, you will be full of energy and energy all day.
Anyone who gossips during working hours will immediately attract the eyes of their colleagues. Austrians are highly productive and well paid.
(Dick Paul sits on his dad's shoulder)
Working in Austria, regardless of rank, cleaners and plumbers can earn much more than white-collar workers who sit comfortably in an office. If the working environment is difficult and harsh, there will be a special allowance.
I've also found that Austrians are very privacy-conscious, and I just nod to each other with colleagues or neighbors. Every time at home, when I talk loudly, my husband will dislike it, and he reminds me to be quiet.
Every time I ask my husband, how many years has his colleague worked, who has children, who lives, and he says that he doesn't care about anything about him.
Perhaps people who have known each other for decades may not really know the lives of others.
In 2018, I took my eldest son back to China to visit relatives, and I went to meet his grandparents and his father.
My ex-husband also has a new family, and he is very grateful to my husband and I for educating our son so well, and my son is not estranged from them because he does not live together, but is very close.
(Three brothers sit in a row on the sofa)
In 2020, the lovely third child was also born, his name is Daniel. My husband and wife go to work and take care of our three children, but we never feel tired. This is due to the fact that Austria has a very robust and humane childcare system.
Pregnant women can go home for delivery during the first two months of childbirth. From the day the baby is born, the mother can choose at least one year of maternity leave to take care of the baby at home. The husband also has paternity leave, and both parents can negotiate and choose the allocation of maternity leave.
For example, if I want to return to work 6 months after giving birth, my husband can take the remaining 6 months of maternity leave.
If both parents are working, babies can be sent to a free full-day kindergarten from the age of one, which is open from 7 a.m. to 5:30 p.m., and can be picked up at any time during this time.
(Me and three babies in the backyard garden)
Parents also receive paid nursing leave when their children are sick. When children enter primary school, there is also a free afternoon nursery where children can play and finish their homework before they go home.
My husband and I worked together, and in the spring of last year, we bought our current new house together.
The new house is big and the kids can swing around in the garden and run around as much as they want. There is a pool in the garden where the kids can swim in the summer. When I didn't take care of it in winter, I found that there were a lot of frogs and colorful lizards living in the pool.
I found that labor here is very expensive, and everything that can be solved by myself must be done by myself.
Austrian men, after work, build their own houses, paint wallpapers, install floors, and take care of gardens.
(The two elder brothers are looking forward to the arrival of the younger brother)
The sewer of my new house was blocked last year, and my husband wanted to solve it by himself, but then he couldn't find the reason so he called a plumber. He had professional equipment, and at first glance it was 18 meters from the sewer manhole cover, and the roots of large trees and shrubs had grown into the sewer, so it was blocked.
He cleaned the roots for half an hour, then threw us a bill for 500 euros, which translates to 4,000 yuan. After receiving the bill, my heart suddenly dripped blood, and I vowed to practice eighteen martial arts.
After almost 10 years in Austria, my husband and I have been working together to create a warm family. We work in the same company to make money.
Not only can I go to the hall and the kitchen, but I can also go up the hill to pick mushrooms, go down to the field to grow vegetables, and take care of the garden. My husband washes dishes and mops the floor after work, takes care of the children carefully, and holds a sense of ceremony before making a big meal every week.
(Cute third Daniel sitting on a tree)
In our free time, we take the children to the forest to pick strawberries, mushrooms, insects, or go to different children's playgrounds.
I will share my daily life on the self-media account, and I have inadvertently become a life blogger, and I have also received the blessings of many netizens.
Mr. Yang Jiang once said: "Life is half joy, half fireworks." ”
In the complicated world, the warmth, ordinariness and simplicity of family life are the comfort and tranquility of the soul. Now, I'm getting what I want.
(Welcome to everyone's attention: the champion lives in Austria)
[Dictation: Yang Zhuangyuan]
[Editor: Lu Qing]
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