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It was an ordinary morning, and as soon as I finished washing, my wife hurriedly found me: "Husband, look, this is a call from the hospital, saying that your father had a car accident and the situation is very serious!"
My heart was suddenly pounded, and the blood in my body seemed to freeze. I quickly called the hospital, and the nurse said that my father had been admitted to the intensive care unit and was being resuscitated.
Our whole family did not dare to delay for a moment, and immediately rushed to the hospital. As soon as I entered the ward, I saw my mother covering her face with her hands and crying bitterly. I stepped forward and hugged her gently, and asked in a choked voice, "Mom, how is Dad's condition?"
My heart was like a knife, and tears welled up in my eyes. Just then, the doctor walked out, his face solemn. I quickly asked, "Doctor, how is my father's condition?
The doctor shook his head, and his tone was extremely sad: "I'm sorry, your father's injuries are too severe, and we have done our best to save them." However, due to intracranial hemorrhage and compression of the brainstem, signs of deep coma and brain death have appeared. Even if the vital signs of the organism are forcibly maintained, it is just an unconscious vegetative body. "
My world completely collapsed in that moment. Daddy, have you left us like this? You are the pillar of our family! Your old man still has so many wishes that have not been fulfilled! I looked desperately at my father on the hospital bed, his face had become pale and stiff, and his breathing in his chest had become weak and slow.
I knew I had to make a difficult decision at this moment. Do I choose to let my father's walking corpse body continue by the life support system, or let him go peacefully? My heart is at war with heaven and man, and reason tells me that I should respect my father's wishes, but my feelings make me very reluctant.
My mind flashed back to the scene of my father's time, his mysterious smile, his expectant eyes. At that moment, I suddenly felt that I had been forcibly pulled back to reality and found the center of gravity of my life.
I squeezed my mother's hand tightly and said firmly, "Okay Mom, I got it." I'll do it. With that, I asked the doctor to temporarily remove my father from the life support system and give us a little personal time.
Seeing that I was so determined, the doctor nodded and left the room for a while. Our whole family gathered around my father's bedside, staring at the face that had once made us so familiar and reassuring for the last time.
The moment I said those eight words, my heart was mixed. On the one hand, it is a last tribute to the deceased father, and on the other hand, it is also an awakening and reflection on his identity as an only child.
Mom was obviously aware of the weight of the words, and she squeezed her father's hand tightly, tears streaming down her face. My children were confused, apparently unable to understand the meaning of the sentence.
I stepped forward and hugged my mother, and whispered in her ear: "Mom, don't worry, my son has grown up, and he will definitely fulfill the responsibilities and obligations of an only child like his father." I will keep in mind the deep expectations of your old couple. "
Mom nodded, finally showing a somewhat peaceful look on her face.
For the next week, our whole family was working on Dad's funeral. I insisted on holding a dignified and grand funeral for my father in accordance with his wishes. When the staff carried my father's coffin into the crematorium, my heart was mixed.
I silently looked at the raging flames, and slowly said to my father in my heart: "Dad, my son now finally understands the intention of asking me to write those eight words. As an only child, I am destined to not be able to 'live forever' like ordinary people in the future. Because if you do that, it will bring a greater mental and financial burden to your mother and family. Therefore, I will comply with your expectations and give you a dignified and dignified way to die. "
My tears were burning, turning into hot tears and sliding down my cheeks. Yes, this is the burden of the cross that an only child is destined to carry. Whether it is for my parents or for myself, I seem to have made a helpless choice. But as Dad said back then, this is the noblest and most dignified choice.
After the funeral, I found my mother and solemnly said to her: "Mom, from now on, I will take care of all the big and small affairs of the family." You can enjoy your old age with peace of mind. "
But my mother shook her head and said earnestly: "Son, you have made such a great sacrifice and responsibility for me and your father, how can I be embarrassed to delay your future at this time? "
With that, I hugged my mom and kissed her lightly on the forehead. Mom's body stiffened for a moment, but then she slowly relaxed again, leaned on my shoulder, and cried out loud like a child.
I silently patted my mom on the back and let her tears roll hot on my shoulder. I know that this is my mother mourning the death of my father, and I am also grieving for the burden that my only child is destined to carry.
But I didn't say anything comforting, because words can't heal the wounds in my mother's heart. I just expressed my determination with my actions: no matter what, I will use all my strength to take good care of my mother and live a happy and healthy life in her old age.
In the will, according to my father's expectations, I clearly wrote down the words "please cremate, don't be overborn". These eight words symbolize a difficult but helpless choice I have made as an only child.
Yes, I know that I am destined not to have children like ordinary people in the future, and the incense will be passed on from generation to generation. Because if you do that, it will bring a greater mental and financial burden to your mother and family. If a family has only one child, it is natural to concentrate its limited resources on this single seedling in order to fulfill the responsibility of supporting parents in the future. But if the only child has more children, then the resources will be spread and thinned indefinitely, which may lead to the inability to take care of the parents.
I know that this is a painful choice. But this is the burden that an only child is destined to bear, a kind of noble filial piety to parents and the greatest responsibility to future generations. Although I also fantasized about what a happy family would look like, reality finally pulled me back.
However, I didn't feel complacent about it. On the contrary, I feel that I should work hard for this family, create more wealth, and fully prepare for my mother's old age and my own old age. With this will, my heart is much more steady, as if I have found a new direction in life.
Of course, I also found myself a virtuous and capable wife who fully supported my decision and was willing to fight side by side with me to carry the burden of the family. With her by my side, I finally found some kind of peace and strength within me, and it seemed like I could embrace any challenges that lay ahead.
Time flies, and ten years have passed in the blink of an eye. My mother's life has always been very healthy and comfortable, and I have been well cared for by my wife and me. And I myself have made a lot of achievements in my career, accumulating enough wealth foundation for my family.
One day, my mother suddenly said to me, "Son, you have to hurry up and give me a grandchild." As an only child, you are your father's only hope. "
I was stunned for a moment, and then said with a wry smile: "Mom, do you remember those eight words that my father asked me to write down back then? I have already written in my will, 'Please cremate, don't be born'." "
Mom obviously didn't expect me to give such an answer, and there was a look of surprise on her face. After a long while, she sighed faintly and said, "Yes, how could I forget your father's decision back then? But son, did you really cut off the incense like this, and let our family end here?"
I stepped forward and hugged my mother, and said earnestly: "Mom, have you ever thought about what kind of burden and concern it will bring to you if I really give birth to a child? You are so old, where can you still have the energy to help take care of the child? Besides, you and we, mother and son, are not able to support two generations at the same time." "
I began to reflect on my original intention of setting the eight words "please cremate, don't be overborn". Indeed, on the one hand, it is to avoid being unable to support both mother and child after giving birth to children in the future. But on the other hand, I have to admit that there is some kind of selfish little Jiujiu in my heart.
As an only child, I have been blessed with all the love and expectations of my parents since I was a child. Although I have a successful career when I grow up, deep down, I still hope to "enjoy" the love of my parents forever. If I had another child, I would have to share this precious love, which I could never accept.
While I was struggling within, my wife seemed to see something wrong with me. She stepped forward and hugged me and said softly, "Husband, what's wrong with you? Did your mother's words shake you again?"
I nodded and whispered, "Yes, Mom's old man's greatest wish is to see our children." But was my decision too selfish and arbitrary?"
The wife shook her head and said firmly, "Husband, don't be fooled by this guilt. You made that decision out of deep love for your mother and the whole family. If you do have children, it will undoubtedly bring a heavy financial and mental burden to your mother in the future. How can you support your mother and children at the same time?"
I was deeply moved by my wife's words, nodded and said, "You're right, my original decision was well thought out. As an only child, I was destined to carry this difficult burden. Even so, I would never let my mother feel lonely and disappointed in her old age. "
My mother looked at me with a slightly darkened look, but then smiled and said, "Silly son, you're right. Your father's decision back then, I should respect it. You can rest assured, as long as you can treat your children like us, it is my greatest pride. "
I breathed a sigh of relief and stepped forward to give my mom a big hug. With my mother's understanding, my heart finally lifted the last burden and calmly faced the next path in life.
Since then, I have focused more on growing my career and running my family. I carefully built a nursing home with a beautiful environment and complete facilities for my mother, and hired professional nursing staff to be on call 24 hours a day. I myself worked hard to earn money and was fully prepared for my mother's old age and our own old age.
With my wife's full support and sharing, I feel that the burdens of life seem to be much lighter. I began to realize that the power of one person is so small, and only by supporting each other and uniting as one can we overcome any difficulties and obstacles.
I often take my mom and wife out on trips to make her feel the warmth of family. Whenever I see my mother's happy smile, I feel a sense of accomplishment in my heart. Yes, although I can't give my mother a full house of happiness, I will definitely use all my efforts to create a happy old age that other only children can't achieve.
Another ten years have passed in a blink of an eye, I am over half a hundred years old, and my mother is more than ninety. On this day, I took my wife to visit my mother's nursing home, and I saw her closing her eyes and taking a nap. As we approached lightly, Mom seemed to sense something and slowly opened her eyes.
When she saw that it was us, a happy smile immediately bloomed on her face. I stepped forward and hugged her, calling "Mom" repeatedly. My mother gently stroked my face with her furrowed palms and murmured, "Silly son, you are finally old." "
I smiled and said, "Mom, look at yourself, you're only in your nineties and you're already talking about your son." "Mom was amused by me and laughed.
At this moment, the wife stepped forward, holding a delicate photo frame, and said, "Mom, look, this is a group photo of our whole family, which can be hung in your room." "
Mom took the frame and stared at the photo with a sad look in her eyes. She sighed and said, "Ah, if your father hadn't passed away, we would have been reunited as a family now." "
Mom's words made my heart throb. Yes, if Dad hadn't had that car accident, we would have been an ordinary happy family. And not as it is now, only the three of us are "mutilated".
I know that this is the biggest regret in my mother's heart. Although she never expressed it directly, I could feel her desire for incense from her words and deeds. She was so eager to see my child to make up for the sudden death of my father.
However, I used my decision of "please be cremated, don't be overborn" to completely shatter my mother's expectations. Even though I loved her deeply, I still hurt her feelings in some way. A deep sense of self-blame and guilt came over me.
I looked down, and the decision I made when my father died. I remember how determined and determined I was, and I didn't think about my mother's feelings at all. And now it seems that that decision is destined to leave my mother with lifelong regrets.
Perhaps, did I make the wrong choice at that time? Maybe, should I give my mother a chance to start over? But it was too late, and my destiny as an only child could not be changed.
I looked at my mother in pain, and finally couldn't help but whisper, "Mom, I'm sorry, but my son's decision back then was too hasty." I know your biggest regret is not seeing my child, but I shattered your expectations with my own hands with my own decision. "
Mom's eyes widened, obviously not expecting me to say that all of a sudden. She hurriedly waved her hand and said, "Silly son, why do you say that? I have long been convinced of your decision back then. You've sacrificed too much to take care of my old age. "
"Silly son, you must know that having a filial son like you is already the greatest pride and happiness in my life. Don't blame yourself, you've done your best to be filial to us. Mom said as she spoke, the corners of her eyes already moistened.
My heart hurt as if it had been slashed by a sharp blade. I stepped forward and hugged my mother tightly, and finally couldn't help crying. Seeing this, my wife also came over and gently hugged our mother and son, and the three of them hugged each other and cried.
On the contrary, I used my whole heart to be filial to my mother, and used all my efforts to create a happy and healthy life for her. Although my mother did not see my child, she never felt lonely and disappointed. The bonds of kinship between us are greater than all worldly bonds.
I realized that the greatest meaning and value of life does not lie in whether or not you can have children and pass on the incense from generation to generation. On the contrary, it is more about whether you have done your best and lived your life well.
As an only child, the meaning of my life is to do my best to support my parents. So I resolutely made the decision of "please cremate, don't be born", although it was a difficult choice, but it was out of the noblest filial piety to my parents.
Since then, I have focused more on the development of my career and the management of my family, and I have devoted all my efforts to filial piety to my mother. In the process, I felt the unprecedented meaning and value of life. I finally understood that the most important thing in being a human being is not to pursue those worldly fame and interests, but to learn to be grateful, learn to give and dedicate.