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My name is Li Dawei, I am 38 years old and I work for a manufacturing company. My parents were in my hometown of Shandong, and my mother died early, leaving my father, Li Fushun, who was over 70 years old, at home alone.
My father's health deteriorated, and he often felt back pain. Alone at home, with no one to take care of, you have to take care of everything on your own. My brother Li Xiaoming and I could only go back to visit him on weekends, but we didn't have enough time to take care of him. We are worried about his health.
Once, my father accidentally fell and lay at home for several days without anyone to take care of him. My brother and I were terrified and decided we couldn't continue to fend for ourselves. After some deliberation, we decided to let my father move in with us so that we could take better care of him.
After making arrangements, my father came to my house with his small bag. As soon as he entered the door, he smiled and said, "Yo, isn't this my little family?
I hurriedly asked him to sit down on the sofa, and his wife Zhao Shuzhen also greeted him warmly: "Dad, you will stay here for a few days, if you need anything, just ask." "
My father patted the back of my wife's hand and said kindly, "Good daughter, you will be your target from now on, and you will have to serve well!"
My father has a pension of 5,500 yuan per month after retirement. Within a few days, he remitted all of this month's salary to my younger brother Xiao Ming.
I was surprised and asked, "Dad, what are you doing here?" "
The father waved his hand and said, "It's all the old woman's money, and it's useless to keep it." Your brother is young, and it is the time to support his family, so this money is useful for him. "
I tried to persuade my father: "But Dad, you also need this money in the future, why don't you divide it equally between me and Xiao Ming?"
The father said categorically: "No, no, no, I have already decided on this money, so I will give it to my brother, don't talk more." "
Seeing this scene, my wife Zhao Shuzhen frowned on the side. In the evening, she said to me, "It's unfair for your dad to do this." He gave all his wages to your brother, so how are we going to pay for his living expenses in the future? "
I nodded, a little skeptical.
After living in my house, my father maintained his usual style of life. He is a very traditional person, with some inherent habits and ideas.
For example, he insisted on getting up at 5 a.m. every day, and after washing, he practiced Tai Chi in the living room. My wife and I both went to work at 9 o'clock, and we were still asleep in bed at that time. But our father's movement woke us up.
In addition, my father is also very particular about eating. He always thinks that the food we cook is not homely and nutritious enough. On a few occasions, he personally cooked a table of hometown dishes, and we both ate it all.
"It's so unfair for your father to do this! Why should he give all his money to your brother? We are supporting him, and he should at least share some money to support the family." "
I tried to explain to my father: "Dad, he just thinks this is the idea, and he thinks that Xiao Ming needs money more now. Besides, his pension is not much......"
"What does that matter?" My wife interrupted me, "Why do you have to give this money to your brother?
On the other hand, the conflict between me and my brother is also intensifying. One weekend, I went to Xiao Ming's house to be a guest and tried to persuade him.
"Xiao Ming, don't ask for Dad's money, let him spend it himself. I said sincerely.
Xiao Ming disagreed: "Brother, don't worry about it." Dad gave me the money because he thought I needed it now, didn't you agree?"
"Then you can't give it all to yourself!" I was a little angry and said, "Dad's pension may not be enough for me in the future." "
"What's that?" Xiao Ming was straightforward, "Won't Dad live in your house in the future?" I'll provide for you, and you will be responsible for serving Dad, isn't it great?"
The atmosphere at home is getting more and more tense. The father felt the tension, but he did not change his mind.
Once, my wife said to my father, "Dad, you can keep the money for yourself, and we will support you." "
But the father glanced at his wife and said, "You are my sons and daughters, and you are right to serve me." I can't use much of this money myself, so I might as well give it to Xiao Ming. "
The wife was half angry, so she smashed the plate on the ground with a bang.
The father was startled by his wife and was speechless. I hurriedly stepped forward to soothe my wife's emotions, but she became angry with me instead: "You are so indulgent to your father?
In this way, such a scene is often staged at home. Everyone was worried that the next outbreak would be even more violent.
One day, my wife finally broke out completely. At that time, my father had just remitted this month's salary to my younger brother Xiao Ming, and my wife was furious when she saw the bank account records.
She rushed to the living room, pointed at her father's nose and scolded: "You are so bad! Why do you give all the money every month to Xiao Ming? We have worked so hard to serve you, but you have been so kind to us! What a waste of money and no contribution to our family!"
The father was severely humiliated by his wife's words, and there was a hurt look on his face. As a former parent, he had never been insulted like this. He stood up in silence and slowly walked back to his room, closing the door.
I hurriedly stepped forward to dissuade my wife: "Shuzhen, you are saying this too much! Dad is an elder after all, how can you do this?"
But my wife shook off my hand and got angry at me: "What qualifications do you have to say about me? You just connived at your father to get things to this point! You father and son have the same virtue!"
Locked in the room, my father didn't come out for a long time. I couldn't be relieved, so I knocked lightly on the door: "Dad, are you okay? "
There was no sound from the door. I had to go back to the living room, and when my wife saw me coming out, she asked me, "How is it?
I shook my head and said helplessly, "He ignored me and didn't open the door." It seems that you really broke my heart. "
The wife pursed her lips and said nonchalantly: "Then I can't blame me, if you want to blame him, blame himself! We serve him so hard, but he turns a blind eye, do you think he is too stingy?"
I didn't refute my wife, I just fell into deep thought. As a son, I certainly want my father to treat me and my brother fairly; But as a husband, I also want my family to be harmonious and my wife happy. I knew that continuing to indulge would only exacerbate the conflict, but I couldn't bear to hurt my father's feelings. I was caught in a dilemma.
For the next few days, the atmosphere in the house was unusually solemn. My father closed himself and paid no attention to our knocks. Although my wife pretended to be casual on the surface, I could feel her anger and dissatisfaction deep inside.
One night, while my wife was sitting on the couch watching TV, I plucked up the courage to say to her, "Shuzhen, it's not a problem for us to go on like this." It's a little unfair for Dad to give money to Xiao Ming, but we can't treat him like this. "
My wife glared at me and said coldly, "Do you want to follow his wishes? What will our family do in the future? Are you father and son going to sell our mother and son?"
I hurriedly waved my hand and said, "How could it be, I mean, we still have to communicate well and find a way to get the best of both worlds." Otherwise, at Dad's age, he can't bear such a big stimulus. "
The wife sighed and said, "You just indulge your father too much! If you reprimand him harshly from the beginning, would he dare to act so willfully?"
I didn't answer, I just thought about how to solve this problem. I knew that continuing to indulge would only exacerbate the conflict, but I couldn't bear to hurt my father's feelings. I was caught in a dilemma, and for a moment I lost my way.
While I was troubled by family conflicts, my father made a decision that no one expected.
One morning, my father came out of his room with a small suitcase. He didn't look very well, and his eyes were a little swollen, probably because he hadn't slept well for the past few days.
I hurriedly stepped forward and asked with concern, "Dad, where are you going?"
My father glanced at me and said in a tired tone, "I'm moving out." I've caused you too much trouble here, and you don't welcome me, and I'd rather rent a house on my own than continue to be the bane of family conflicts. "
When I heard this, I was shocked. I tried my best to hold on and said, "Dad, don't say such things! Where do we mean that you are not welcome? You can stay, and we will discuss it." "
But my father shook his head and said, "No, I've already made up my mind." I'm an old man, it's enough to rent a small house outside, and you don't have to worry about it. "
When I saw that my father was really leaving, I was so anxious that I almost burst into tears. I grabbed him by the arm and begged, "Dad, just stay! If you leave, what will we do in the future?"
Even his wife, who is usually calm, was taken aback by her father's decision at the moment. She stepped forward and took her father's hand and said, "Dad, don't be so impulsive! If we have any contradictions, let's just talk about it." Don't leave us, okay?"
My father looked at the two of us, and his eyes narrowed slightly. After a while, he sighed heavily and said, "Okay, I won't leave for the time being." But you have to promise me that when I find the right house, you will let me move out. "
At the behest of our family, my father reluctantly agreed to stay temporarily. However, he insisted on renting his own house, and our repeated persuasion was to no avail.
In order to completely resolve family conflicts, I suggest that everyone sit down and have a good talk. So, one night, my wife and my father were sitting in the living room.
The wife interrupted her father: "But Dad, you gave all the money to Xiao Ming, it's too unfair to us to do this, right? "
Hearing my father's words, my wife and I fell silent. It turned out that the father gave the money to his younger brother, not out of petty family, but out of his own kindness. He hopes that Xiao Ming will pay for his own living expenses in the future, so as to reduce our burden.
After figuring this out, my mood suddenly relaxed. I hurriedly said to my father, "Dad, that's what you mean! Then we can discuss a plan that everyone is satisfied with." "
The wife also nodded again and again, and her tone was much softer than before: "Yes, Dad, you just told us this idea earlier, and we won't misunderstand you so much." "
Father looked at the two of us and smiled with satisfaction.
After several discussions, we finally came up with a new plan: one-third of my father's monthly pension will be given to Xiao Ming, and the other two-thirds will be kept for living expenses. If the money is not enough, my wife and I will subsidize it appropriately.
After hearing this plan, my father nodded his head in agreement. "It's a good plan, everyone's interests are taken care of," he said. I will also give some guidance to Xiao Ming, so that he can use his money on the right path. "
In this way, a solution that satisfies everyone is determined. Harmony was restored in the house, and everyone had a happy smile on their faces.
A new way of life begins. His father kept two-thirds of his monthly pension as his living expenses, and remitted the remaining one-third to Xiao Ming. Xiao Ming is quite interesting, and every time he receives money, he will call to thank his father.
With this money, my father's life became more decent and dignified. He arranges his daily schedule by himself, when he gets up, eats, and exercises, all depending on his mood. Sometimes, he also cooks his own home-cooked meals, which are both cost-effective and nutritious.
My wife and I couldn't have been happier when we saw it. My wife often said, "It's great, Dad can finally live a carefree and stable life." I also deeply sympathize, seeing my father so carefree, our hearts let go of that worry.
The atmosphere at home is much more relaxed than it used to be. The wife no longer dictates to her father, but focuses on her work and children. Sometimes she would prepare some nutritious meals for her father, and the two would occasionally chat a few words of family cooking.
I also learned to communicate with my father more and talk to him about work and new things in society. My father was glad to have someone to share his experience with. On a few occasions, he showed us old photos of him in his prime, and we laughed a lot.
In this way, the family's conflict was finally satisfactorily resolved. Everyone goes their own way, each has his own sorrow, and lives in harmony. The sun is warm, the laughter is constant, this is the happy life we have been looking forward to for a long time.
My father once said to me, "Wei'er, life is like this, there will always be some misunderstandings and contradictions. However, as long as everyone can understand and be considerate of each other with a tolerant heart, we will definitely be able to resolve differences and find common ground. Take care of your happy little family and live a good life. "
I nodded, remembering my father's teachings. Yes, life is like this, as long as you treat each other with love, you will definitely be able to live a happy and fulfilling life.
The new lifestyle allowed my father to live a carefree life. With a sufficient pension, he can not only spend his old age in peace, but also try some new hobbies.
My father's greatest hobby was chess. Growing up, he loved this intellectual game. With his free time, he began to immerse himself in the world of chess. Every afternoon, he would take out his chessboard and play alone for several hours.
Sometimes, his wife would watch from the sidelines, fascinated by his attentive appearance. As soon as her father made a wonderful move, she couldn't help but applaud. The father would wink triumphantly at his wife, and the two would look at each other and smile.
Gradually, the wife was also attracted to chess and began to ask her father for rules and techniques. Soon, she will be able to duke it out with her father on the chessboard. When the two of them played against each other, the scene was very intense, and I was often amused by them.
In addition to playing chess, my father also made some new friends. Every morning, he would come to the park in the community to do exercises and chat with other elderly people.
Slowly, my father made some friends in the park, and we were all old friends with the same hobbies and lifestyles. They walked together, played chess, drank tea, chatted about their parents' shortcomings, and had a good time.
Sometimes, my father would bring these friends home as guests. They talk and laugh at each other, and make our small family full of laughter. My wife was always happy to have so many friends at home, so she was busy entertaining them.
My father's new friends were all good old men, humble and hospitable. They also took great care of my wife and me, just like our elders. Whenever someone is sick or in trouble, everyone enthusiastically lends a helping hand. This kind of warm friendship between people makes our whole family feel happy from the bottom of our hearts.
With our father as the pillar and mainstay of the family, our lives have become more enjoyable.
On weekends or holidays, my father would always take the initiative to invite everyone to cook some home-cooked meals together. He has good craftsmanship and makes dishes that are authentic and make people want to eat them again. Sometimes my wife will accompany me to cook, and the two of you will come and go in the kitchen, talking and laughing, which is very interesting.
After dinner, my father would lead us to play chess and chat. Sometimes we go for a walk in the park together to get some fresh air. In the evenings, my father would sometimes tell us stories about his youth, and we were embarrassed by those magnificent experiences.
In this way, our family life became colorful. Everyone had a happy smile on their faces, and bursts of laughter often echoed in the house. This is the good life we have been longing for for a long time, and with our father as the messenger of happiness, our life has become so full and interesting.
Through this family experience, I deeply realized the importance of family. The family is not only a living unit, but also a collective that supports and cares for each other. Only when the whole family works together and helps each other can our lives be full of sunshine.
In the beginning, due to misunderstandings and selfishness, our family almost fell apart. But as long as we understand and be considerate of each other with a tolerant heart, we will be able to resolve differences and find common ground. It was through communication and understanding that we were finally reconciled and the family was back on track.
The love between family members is selfless and eternal. Even if there are occasional conflicts and disputes, as long as we have a tolerant heart, we will be able to resolve the distractions and regain happiness. A warm and harmonious family is something that each of us should cherish and maintain.
In this family conflict, each of us has done something hurtful because of misunderstandings. But it was through tolerance and understanding that we were able to resolve this family crisis.
Tolerance is a virtue that allows us to put aside our preconceptions and put ourselves in the other person's shoes. We need to learn to empathize with empathy and understand the situation and thoughts of others. The root cause of many contradictions lies in the lack of mutual understanding.
Only by listening to each other with an open and inclusive mind and communicating in a peaceful and rational way can we truly reach consensus and resolve differences. There will always be some misunderstandings in life, but as long as we treat them with love, we will definitely be able to untie the knot and live a happy life.
Through this incident, I also deeply realized the meaning of life in my later years. Old age does not mean the end of life, but a new stage in life. As long as we treat it with the right attitude, life in old age can also be wonderful and full of fun.
Everyone should plan well for their old age. Don't think of old age as the end of life, but as a new beginning in life. As long as we use an optimistic and positive attitude, we can also have high quality and happiness in our later years. Life in old age depends on how we cherish and grasp it.