Written by / First Psychology Writers
Editor / Tommy
The pursuit of beauty and delicacy is one of the human nature,
Women, in particular, often pursue this pursuit throughout all stages of their lives, paying special attention to the beauty and quality of details, and showing high standards in terms of dress, makeup and accessories.
First of all, the love of beauty is closely linked to the psychological needs of women, who have an innate desire to pursue beautiful things, and this desire drives them to seek beautiful experiences and feelings.
In terms of appearance and sensory experience, women are able to achieve satisfaction on multiple levels such as sight, sound and touch through the pursuit of beauty and sophistication, and enhance their self-confidence and self-worth.
Secondly, this pursuit is a reflection of cultural and social values, and in modern society, beauty and sophistication have a deeper meaning and value, and have become a way of consuming display and socializing.
By expressing their tastes, styles, and aesthetics, women can shape a unique personal image and personality, and gain greater influence and recognition in social situations.
However, in real life, not all women are keen on beauty, and some women, despite their potential, do not pay attention to food, clothing or dressing.
Whenever I see such women, I feel sorry that they have unlimited potential, but they are like being blindfolded, standing still, and wasting their lives.
Those women who don't pay attention to food and clothing and don't like to dress up often have the same type of father
These women usually come from families that follow the traditional Chinese model, with mothers who are hard-working and unattractive and unsightly to their fathers, who are extreme machismos and neglect to manage family affairs.
In fact, many traditional Chinese families have such problems, the absence of the father in the child's education is long-lasting, and the mother is often over-intervening, resulting in the child gradually losing enthusiasm for life and difficulty in cultivating a stable and firm sense of self-worth.
The role of a father has a profound impact on a child's learning, personality, emotional development, etc.
In some traditional families, the father's long-term non-involvement often has undesirable consequences.
The father's care and education for his children is obviously insufficient, which undoubtedly has a detrimental effect on the development of children.
Psychologist Goldie points out that
Men are more adventurous, exploratory, tolerant and intellectually curious than women, and these traits are fully reflected in their children's education.
As a father, you certainly don't want your daughter to develop a pattern of indifferent behavior, so you must not be absent from her upbringing.
Research shows that human development needs are divided into two types: intimacy and independence.
Intimacy mainly stems from the care and companionship of the mother,
Independence, on the other hand, comes from the strength and security that the father gives, both of which are essential for the child's development.
When children grow up with their fathers, they are often able to develop character traits that are strong, decisive, confident, and independent, and the presence of fathers provides courage and support for children.
This companionship inspires children to have the courage to pursue their dreams and goals, builds an inner sense of security, and enables them to dare to face challenges and grow and learn from them.
On the contrary, if there is no father to accompany them, children may become timid and lack the courage to fight for their own rights, and the lack of guidance and support from their fathers may also make children feel lost and helpless, and it is difficult for them to effectively cope with life's problems and challenges, which will produce insecurity and pessimism in the process of growing up, and cannot enjoy a truly happy life.
In the field of psychology, there is a concept called "learned helplessness," which describes:
When an individual experiences a succession of setbacks and disappointments, a persistent and stubborn negative perception may develop on an emotional and cognitive level.
Imagine a girl who has not received her father's attention and feedback for a long time, and it is hard to expect her to show the same confidence and vitality as those children who have enjoyed their father's love.
Fathers, try to spend less time with your children and less social activities.
Research in psychology has shown that children who spend more time with their fathers are more likely to learn from their fathers, learn from them, stimulate creativity and imagination, which helps to stimulate children's intellectual curiosity, curiosity and self-confidence.
In "Thirty Only", Gu Jia is known as a model for modern women.
Elegant, self-motivated, and intelligent, she manages every aspect of her life in an orderly manner and is quick to get back to her feet even when faced with the harsh blows of reality.
We all marvel at Gu Jia's vitality, but we often ignore the supporter behind her, her father, which is the real reason for Gu Jia's perseverance.
There is a scene in the play that is still unforgettable, when Gu Jia is facing the pressure of marriage and career at the same time, and the tea factory she runs is facing a broken capital chain, she first seeks help from her father.
Gu Jia's father immediately gave her 100,000 yuan and said to her:
"Straighten your waist and live your life, if you have anything to do with your father. ”
Gu's father's unconditional support for Gu Jia is the driving force for her to continue to advance in real life, and his love provides Gu Jia with a steady stream of spiritual strength, so that she can maintain her composure even in the face of difficult situations.
As psychologist Gerdi puts it:
"A father is a unique being who has a special influence on the development of his children. ”
The latest World Health Organization study found that children who could spend more than two hours a day with their fathers had higher IQs, boys behaved more like little men, and girls grew up to be better at socializing with the opposite sex.
Undoubtedly, fathers play an irreplaceable role in the family.
Fathers seem to be the "anchor of the sea" in the spiritual world of their children, they don't need to nag around their children every day like mothers, and they don't need to make great feats.
Rather, it is essential for a child's development by providing enough love and security, which has a profound impact on the formation of a child's sense of self-worth.
If the father gives the child enough love and strength from the beginning, this strength will be deeply rooted in the child's heart, and over time,
This strength will become stronger and stronger, and the children's perseverance will be strengthened, and they will be able to face life with enthusiasm, no matter how difficult the challenges ahead.
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