The female college student complained that the mother who "never worked a day" was negative for her financial support, and the full-time mother broke the defense
"Do you want to be a stay-at-home mother" has always been a hot topic on the Internet, some people think that stay-at-home mothers have no income, no social interaction, no money independence, and will gradually lose their independent personality, so they are very opposed to being a stay-at-home mother. However, some people also said that the discussion of "agree" or "disagree" belongs to standing and talking without backache, many people are limited by realistic conditions, there is no choice at all, and many full-time mothers not only bring the baby well but also rely on their own ability to obtain income and recognition.
However, I recently saw a college student's complaining post, but many people broke their defenses. In the post, she said that her mother "never worked a day", "ate and waited for death every day", and "lived like a primitive person......
The female college student said that her mother had not worked a day since she could remember, and her father worked hard to support the family, but her father did not earn much, so that the family was in a state of making ends meet.
Even the house I live in now is still a bungalow of my grandfather's generation, and the house has long been cracked, but the family can't afford to repair it.
In the daughter's description, the mother has no job, no social interaction, no friends, and does not go out often. I was brought up by my grandparents since I was a child, so I have a deep affection for my grandparents, and I can't get used to seeing my mother treat my grandmother badly, and I can't figure out why my father can condone his wife to be disrespectful to his mother.
It can be seen that the daughter's resentment towards her mother is really deep, she feels that her mother "relied on her husband when she was young, and she wanted to rely on her daughter directly when she was old", but recalling her own growth process, she felt that her mother "never paid any energy and money for my growth except for helping me wash clothes and tidy things and occasionally pick me up during my holidays".
Due to the limitations of family conditions, this daughter feels a lot of pressure in life, she said that she doesn't want the family to bring her much wealth, even if it is 0, she can accept it, but she really doesn't want to just step out of school, and the financial support from the family is directly negative. For this reason, the daughter wanted to persuade her mother to go to work, but she didn't know how to persuade her, so she had to post a complaint asking for help.
Who knows, under this complaining post, there are many mothers who break the defense, and they have left messages saying that this is not the sorrow of a full-time mother? Because the economy is not independent, there is no way to provide more wealth or social help to the child, and in the eyes of the child, he has become an idle person, and he is afraid that his mother will become a burden to him in the future.
In the midst of complaints, many people are anxious about full-time mothers, thinking that they will give up their careers and social interactions in the process of raising their children, and they want to raise their children wholeheartedly.
But after carefully reading the girl's complaints, I want to say that her mother she described is completely different from most full-time mothers, so there is no need for other mothers to have a sense of substitution. She said that her mother not only did not earn money, but also gambled and owed foreign debts, which is not in line with most stay-at-home mothers. And the blogger's mother didn't go to work and stay at home, but the child grew up with his grandparents, that is, this mother didn't take care of the children full-time.
In addition, some netizens complained that this girl is exquisite egoism, and she has repeatedly talked about the fact that her family did not give her economic support, in fact, in many rural areas, supporting a female college student is already quite good in terms of economic support and pattern.
In fact, I think that this daughter, as a senior student, looks poor at home, and it is normal for her to complain and be dissatisfied. After all, compared with her classmates, she does have an inferiority complex. The point is, she also didn't ask her family to give her much financial support, and the support she hoped for was: not negative!
Throughout the ages, we have paid attention to diligence and thrift, and hard work to get rich. If a mother is indeed limited in ability, time, and energy, she cannot create wealth, but she must not be infected with the vice of gambling and incur foreign debts. In addition, when her family conditions are limited, this mother does not think about what I can do, but what my daughter can do for me or what my daughter can bring to me by marrying into a rich family.
Therefore, this mother is actually unqualified, which has nothing to do with whether she wants to be a "full-time mother" or not.