Writer Yan Geling said:
Marriage is a strict discipline, and both people in it must abide by discipline, and no one can violate the bottom line and principles of marriage. Once you do, your marriage is likely to come to an end.
But the same is cheating and betrayal, and the price paid by women and men is often different.
Relevant survey data shows that more than eighty percent of men have successfully returned to their families after cheating and betrayal.
But more than eighty percent of women were eventually divorced after the East Window incident. reluctantly returned to the family, and for the rest of her life, she lived in all kinds of cold eyes and suspicions, and became a typical "bad woman".
After a woman cheats and betrays, whether her husband chooses to forgive or not, the reasons behind it are cruel and real.
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For men, once they are betrayed by their wives, it is too difficult to forgive. If you think about it once, you have to forgive it once, and you have to constantly suppress that sense of humiliation and anger, how can there be happiness in such a day?
Therefore, divorce may be the best ending, let go of yourself and let go of others.
Two years after choosing to forgive his wife's cheating and betrayal, Wang Qiang finally decided to divorce. He said bitterly and helplessly:
I've tried, but the sequelae of cheating will last a lifetime, and there is only one way to go, divorce.
Wang Qiang and his wife are ordinary firewood, rice, oil and salt husband and wife, there have been times when you and I have been in love, and there have been times when they have worked hand in hand, married for ten years, the life of the two people is like thousands of ordinary people, giving birth to children, raising a family, and then, the days are slowly getting better day by day, and the relationship between husband and wife is naturally fading day by day, becoming the left hand touching the right hand.
Under the inducement of some chance, Wang Qiang's wife met a middle-aged man, and out of freshness, excitement, or out of some kind of compensation psychology, the two had an extramarital affair.
When the East Window incident happened, Wang Qiang's wife sincerely repented and hoped that Wang Qiang could give her a chance. Wang Qiang was reluctant to give up his daughter, and he was reluctant to give up the small family that the two of them had worked so hard to build, and after being painfully entangled, he finally agreed to his wife's plea.
But forgiveness does not mean forgetting the pain of the past, no matter how hard his wife tries, no matter how restrained he is, Wang Qiang can never forget his wife's betrayal, and he can no longer give his wife any trust.
After repeated cold wars and quarrels, in the end, Wang Qiang filed for divorce.
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Leaving is for yourself, not leaving, for your children. There is no love or love, for the rest of your life, you can live together.
This is the voice of Lao Zhang in the face of his wife's cheating and betrayal.
But he sarcastically admits one point:
The main reason is that the high housing prices control the divorce rate, what is reluctant, what is unwilling to leave, what is for the sake of the children, it is just an excuse.
Lao Zhang is from a fourth-tier city, his wife is from a second-tier city, and the couple have worked hard for 15 years to have a house and a car in this first-tier city, and have a decent social position.
Lao Zhang has a job in the system, with an average but stable income, and his wife works in pharmaceutical sales in a foreign company with a high income, but she travels all year round.
Because of the nature of his work, Lao Zhang paid more to this family, and his daughter was almost brought up by Lao Zhang alone.
Maybe it's because the income gap between the two people is too large, or maybe it's because the model of the male protagonist inside and outside the female protagonist has caused a lot of contradictions, in short, under fate, Lao Zhang's wife has an extramarital affair.
When he learned the truth, Lao Zhang was like five thunderbolts, he admitted that there were many contradictions and frictions between husband and wife, but he never thought that his wife would express her resistance in this way.
After tearing back and forth for more than half a year, Lao Zhang finally decided to forgive his wife.
But the love and trust that used to be is gone. Even if his wife returns to the family and tries her best to be a transparent person, Lao Zhang doesn't believe it at all.
He also thought about divorce, but the pressure of life in the first-tier cities was not something that his stable income could handle. Only by uniting with his wife can he ensure the current standard of living.
Thinking of this, Lao Zhang will comfort himself with that laughing stalk:
If you want to live a decent life, you must wear some green on your head.
Choosing to forgive means forgetting the past and facing the future.
Betrayal means that the foundation of trust in the relationship has been severely damaged.
If you can't regain trust, choosing to divorce may be a relief.
If you decide to face the future, readjusting your mentality and running in the relationship between husband and wife will become the top priority.
But no matter which choice you choose, it has nothing to do with love.