(1) Don't take everything in the world seriously, don't take the praise or criticism of the outside world seriously, your actual value will not change because of the praise and criticism of the outside world, and the only one who can really change your actual value is yourself.
(2) No matter whether others want to praise you or criticize you, other people's interaction with you can only mean one thing: these people have a sense of need for you, want to take energy from you, and people who are completely uninterested in you will not even pay attention to you.
(3) High-energy people are "pampered", and low-energy people are "flattered", that is, if you want to be a high-energy person, then you have to have this mentality: "No matter how much praise and slander the outside world gives me, I can accept all of them."
(4) Others treat you badly, attack you, insult you, suppress you, slander you, etc., to put it bluntly, these people just want to "brush up their sense of existence", and gain energy by hitting you and throwing stones at you, you don't need to take all this seriously, as a trick to test you.
(5) If you often fall into emotional states such as internal friction, anxiety, depression, and pain, it means that you take praise and criticism from the outside world seriously.
▪ Others praise you: the other party has a need for you, says some sweet words, and tries to obtain greater benefits on you at the lowest cost (benefits are divided into material benefits and hidden interests, hidden benefits such as energy, attention, tool people, emotional value, etc.), the other party's praise to you is equivalent to sending you energy, if you take the other party's praise seriously, once the other party stops praising you, Stop giving you energy supply, you have been accustomed to the other party's praise in the early stage, and the other party suddenly retracts the energy source, then you will feel that life is worse than death, and you may even do a lot of things that break through your bottom line in order to get the other party's praise again.
▪ Others demean you: the other party has a need for you, says something to suppress and demean you, and wants to suppress you by suppressing, derogatory, ridiculing, insulting, provoking, etc. Win over you, want to quickly obtain energy through this cheating means, the more the other party chases, the more on the line, the more tightly biting you, indicating that the other party is now exhausted of energy, out of survival instinct to quickly seize your energy source to urgently charge, if you take the other party's words seriously at this time, then you will fall into the trap of human nature, you will also be anxious because of the other party's words, internal friction and depression.