A few days ago, I voice-chatted with my daughter for more than an hour, and my daughter said more than once: Mom, you have grown up.
At first hearing, I thought it was my daughter who was neither big nor small, and this sentence was not a word of encouragement from adults to children, how could it be used on me.
In the past few days, reminiscing about the small talk with my daughter, I found one thing, how a woman lives in this life is the smart way to live.
When I was young, the good sisters around me said that I had to learn to train my husband, and I wanted to be able to hold my husband and let him be good to him willingly.
When a person reaches middle age, the good sisters around him say that a man should go with him, and it is smart to have a good relationship with his children.
Now that I have retired from leisure and stayed at home, looking back on the past, I find that no matter what age a woman is, the reason why she is unhappy is her life.
It is because of the wrong cognition and thinking pattern that I let myself live in complaining, expecting, and depending, and never really learn to accept myself, enjoy myself, love myself, and explore my unlimited potential.
In my opinion, after retirement, the smart way for a woman to live is to do three "nos".
One is to set no limits and not complain about others.
Life is a one-way trip to the world, just like the stubborn stone of Qingfeng Mountain in the Dream of Red Mansions, to experience the joys, sorrows and sorrows of life in the world, and release our own energy.
When I met a colleague by chance, I felt that time had left no obvious traces on her, and I felt that she was better than before.
After some small talk, I learned that after my colleague retired, he let go of many of his previous complaints and learned a positive and optimistic attitude towards life.
She has cultivated several hobbies for herself, exercised her body and improved her self-awareness.
By learning to practice yoga, she is now not only a coach, but also makes her own account in the media.
In the words of a colleague: after retirement, find your inner preferences, continue to practice and experience in life, don't set limits for yourself, this can't be done, that can't be learned, no one can be perfect at the beginning, just do your best.
When you retire and learn a skill, the magic in your life comes in, and you will find that your life is getting better and better, and the people around you are kind to you.
Instead of complaining about others and complaining about God, it is better to adjust yourself, repair your emotions, and use a positive attitude to find solutions to problems.
Don't set limits for yourself, don't complain to others, and practice what you like in a down-to-earth manner, and you will eventually see the time when the flowers bloom.
The second is not to deny or judge others.
We often say that women have to learn to love themselves and accept themselves. However, how can we truly love and accept ourselves?
First of all, we must learn not to deny ourselves, not to find all kinds of reasons for ourselves not to try and experience, and to boldly do what we like.
Secondly, when encountering what has happened, don't use your own standards to measure others, and blame less and don't judge.
Finally, to truly love yourself is to face up to your strengths and weaknesses, to love and encourage yourself to affirm yourself and accept yourself as you are, because you are unique.
When you can truly accept and affirm yourself, you will find that many things in life have become much smoother, you will be happy, your family relationship will be harmonious, and you will live a consistent life.
In the world, everyone has their own way of living and their own understanding of things. The self-discipline of adults is to live well, not to judge others at will, to respect each other's differences, to tolerate differences, and to appreciate blessings.
It's the same with family members, no matter what the wife around you is, learn to look at it with an appreciative eye and bless it with warm words, naturally, the days will be more and more comfortable.
The third is not to expect and not to rely on others.
Women are naturally dependent, when they were young, they relied on their parents and siblings, and when they grew up, they relied on the love and care of their spouses.
But if you want to be happy in life, a woman must first learn to love herself and take care of herself, so that she can have the spare energy to treat the people she loves.
Relying on anyone is only a temporary cool, lifelong mistake, only when we women are strong, capable, and capable, can we be truly appreciated and loved by the men around us.
The palms are upward, everyone is the same, there is no assertiveness, a woman who can't be independent, she has expectations for everyone, and if she can't be satisfied, she will have resentment, consume herself and others, who will really care for you from the heart?
All the expectations are the beginning of a relationship that will lead to hell.
Most of the troubles in life arise from excessive expectations.
I expect my wife to be good to me, I expect my children to take the initiative to be filial to me, and I expect my friends to contact me from time to time.
All expectations do not meet themselves, or their efforts are not expected in return, naturally resulting in feelings of loss and resentment.
In fact, our expectation is also a kind of dependence, we always want to satisfy our own desires through anticipation, in order to achieve dependence on someone, and the more we expect, the more disappointments, and the more loss in our hearts.
Instead of expecting others to give you, it is better to build your own back garden of life, have the ability to be single, cultivate your own hobbies, and no longer rely on who gives you a good life.
I always believe in this sentence: it is better to rely on ourselves than to rely on heaven and earth, we are always the masters of our own lives, and happiness depends on our own creation.
In my opinion, after retirement, a woman's smart way of living, top wisdom, is:
Let go of dependence, stop complaining, don't set limits for yourself, affirm yourself, learn to love yourself, accept everything that life gives, make our lives strong and powerful, so that we can meet a better self and get the respect and care of those around us.
A woman's life and life are enriched and wonderful because of her own efforts and hard work! Dear women, love yourself and be yourself!
Author: Huagui Zen Heart
Follow my words and go into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, and we can talk about the rest of our lives together.
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