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This is the 3,689th real story we have told
I'm Tanya, a post-90s native of Chengdu, currently living in Shanghai.
I was a fashion designer and at the peak of my career, I left the workforce because of the intensity of my work. I was physically and mentally exhausted, and I was very eager to have a marriage.
After comparison, I chose an Australian man who chased me for five or six years, but in the second year, because of an accident in my family, he passively avoided me, and my marriage existed in name only.
A few years later, I met the male god in my heart again, took the initiative, and successfully won it. Who knows, he has a recessive disease, and we almost became Dink.
(During pregnancy, a photo with her husband)
I am Tanya, born in Chengdu, Sichuan Province in 1991.
Dad is a college student, and he met Mom when an intellectual went to the countryside, and the two soon got together. Later, my grandparents thought of a lot of ways to transfer my father back to Chengdu, and my mother and I were left in the countryside.
My mother was unwilling and determined to be admitted to a university in Chengdu. While raising a young me, she worked hard to study, and she really got in.
But when she arrived in Chengdu, her father had already gone to work in Shenzhen. The next time I saw my dad was when I was two and a half years old, when he came back to start a business with my uncles.
However, because of the big difference in personality, the parents have inconsistent concepts and average feelings. However, my father is in business, our family conditions are relatively good, I have not suffered material hardship, and I care more about spiritual satisfaction.
My mother is not very good-tempered, and my father is very strict with me and not good at expressing it, so I have limited love in family affection.
It is said that the children of the poor are in charge of the family at an early age, and the same is true for the children of merchants. I'm more precocious than girls my age, and I like to play with boys and girls who are a little older than me.
(2015, Great Barrier Reef diving)
When I was in junior high school, I quietly fell in love. He was a young man of society, almost 10 years older than me.
When my parents found out, they were very angry, and in order to prevent us from coming back to each other, they were afraid that he would be entangled, so they sent me to Singapore.
I was only 13 years old at the time, but I had a lot of ideas, and they enrolled me in hotel management, but I was interested in fashion design, so I secretly changed my major.
When I first arrived in Singapore, I didn't know the place well and didn't have any familiar friends, so I fell into a deep loneliness. I pushed myself to settle into a new environment, meet new people, and practice my English.
During these two years, I had another boyfriend who was very possessive and always verbally PUA me. I tried to break up, but he actually threatened me.
I was so frightened that I hurriedly contacted my family, but I hurried back to China before I even finished my studies. Fortunately, the school has a branch in Shanghai, so I was able to complete the last half of my studies and get a graduation certificate, which is equivalent to a bachelor's degree in China.
(Melbourne Travel)
After graduating, I stayed in Shanghai and started trying to find a job. But I'm only 16 years old, and I don't have any decent works, and some companies don't believe in my strength after reading my resume and design draft, and it's hard to find a job.
In 2010, I finally got a full-time job related to fashion design, and I was working as a project for a fashion company.
Because it was my first job, I was very concerned and wanted to make achievements to prove myself, and I often worked overtime until midnight, with a very high work intensity, with a monthly salary of 4,000 yuan.
After gaining experience, the following year, I moved to a larger clothing company as a planner, earning 8,000 yuan a month. From an ordinary junior clerk to a middle-level leader, I am very proud to support myself with my own skills.
After working here for more than a year, a customer sent me an invitation, thinking that I was very capable and hoped to become his e-commerce partner, in addition to the basic salary of 12,500 yuan, I also enjoyed the business commission, and I readily agreed.
At that time, e-commerce was in its infancy, and a certain treasure had not yet become popular, and once our products were launched, they suddenly gained a foothold in Shanghai, made a name for themselves, and had more and more orders.
(2016, Tour of Australia Road Trip)
From selecting styles to communicating with pattern makers, from purchasing fabrics and accessories to supervising production, from trend assessment to adjusting product structure and controlling costs, I became busier and more tired.
In 2015, when the business was at its peak, I suddenly realized that although I had made money, I had no time and life. So, I made a bold decision: I left the workplace and regained my lost life.
After quitting my job, I traveled around, partyed with friends, worked out, tried everything, and found a sense of ease that I hadn't felt in a long time.
Because of my previous experience, I am a bit afraid of men, although I haven't had a boyfriend in the past few years, there is no shortage of suitors. I have rejected many times and have not given up, only T.
T is 14 years older than me, and is an Australian friend of my fashion school teacher.
He is an IT guy and an outdoor enthusiast. In the professional field, he is an elite and a genius, but his personality is a little simple and stubborn, and he is a little imbecile in life, and he can't even take care of himself.
Once, he invited me to dinner in his rented apartment. I stepped through the door and was surprised to find that there was only a television set in the room, no furniture, not even a bed, so he slept on the mat on the floor.
(My favorite scissor tattoo)
invited me to dinner, and without preparation, he planned to give me foreign dumplings with cheese. As a result, there was no rolling pin at home, so he actually picked up a beer bottle from the corner, washed it without washing, and directly used it to roll out the dumpling skin.
I was embarrassed and just wanted to flash quickly, but I still ate the meal head-on, and my heart was devastated.
In his opinion, there is food, drink, and bed, the salary is enough to spend, and he can go out to play whenever he wants, which is already a good life. But in my opinion, this is not called life at all.
But this is such a man, willing to be on call when I am angry, when I want to surf, accompany me to go, I want to drink, he never stops, and is willing to drink with me.
He said he loved me and was willing to keep me for five or six years. Recalling the days with him, it seems that there is only happiness and no troubles.
During that time, I was eager to find someone to settle down, and the first person that came to my mind was T. Or think about him?
With the idea of giving it a try, I sent a message to him, who had returned to Australia: "Why don't we get married!"
(A friend took me to Germany for treatment of hyperthyroidism)
After sending the message, I regretted it a little. Escaping his busy life with marriage, right? He is going to give up, will he think I'm crazy? If he agrees, do I really want to choose this ronin to spend my life with?
I threw my phone away in frustration, but within ten minutes, he messaged, "Really? I'll buy the fastest ticket right away." Wait for me!"
When I saw the news, I was happy and apprehensive. I'm glad that this man really has me in his heart, and I'm worried about the unknown life.
Until we got the certificate, I was still dizzy, I didn't expect to get married in a flash on impulse. And he was also in a state of confusion, and he couldn't believe that he was really with me.
When I came back to my senses, I realized that there was still a lot of work to be done. When I went to live in Australia, I had to go through immigration, and after T returned to China, I began to go through various procedures, and I saw that victory was in sight, but in the end I was stuck on the pet consignment.
(Me at work)
My cat for many years couldn't go to Australia with me, which made me emotionally uncomfortable. So I thought backwards and thought that I could start a business in China and stay in China with T to develop.
I was not very happy to know that I was going to stay in the country and start a business. I said to him gently: "I'm still so young, talented and dreamy, if I don't try, what will I do if I hate you in the future?
After listening to it, T didn't persuade me again, and our newlyweds talked about a long-distance relationship like this. In the days that followed, we would visit each other from time to time and then travel to other countries together.
However, the sky is unpredictable. In August 2016, I received a call from relatives at home that the family business run by my father and uncles had gone bankrupt, and many people had been involved in it, and they owed a lot of loans and foreign debts.
Except for me, almost all the adults in the family were involved, the car and house were confiscated by the court, the bank card was frozen, and now there is no place to live. They had been hiding from me before, and they had no choice but to find me.
(In 2017, working independently at your own company)
I was so frightened and anxious that I hurriedly left some living expenses and sent them my bank card so that they could settle down first.
At this time, I had no idea at all, so I could only ask around and consult a lawyer. Something so big happened, I could only tell T, and he told me to calm down and understand the situation first.
I was as anxious as an ant on a hot pot, so I first found a new job and worked as a manager in a foreign trade company with a monthly salary of 24,000 yuan. Only 5,000 yuan was left for living expenses in the monthly salary, and the rest was given to my father. Later, he sold the car again, but it was still a drop in the bucket.
The day after I sold the car, I found that I couldn't get through to T's phone and no one answered the message. At first I thought he was busy with work and didn't see it. Later, I called a few more times, but still no one answered, I suddenly realized that this matter at home is related to money, and I have nothing now, is he afraid that I will open my mouth to borrow money from him?
(Sri Lanka Vacations)
I panicked and told myself not to be cranky, he loved me so much, how could he stay away from me because I didn't have any money? No, he would never leave me at this time.
But the facts gave me a slap in the face, and the people who were once full of my eyes suddenly "evaporated from the world", and this evaporation was three months.
Later, we got in touch, but I found out that he had changed, he no longer took the initiative to call me, he no longer discussed with me in case of trouble, and he didn't urge me to go to Australia. Every time I called him, he wasn't interested in talking to me at all, so he hung up after a few words.
I knew that our relationship had come to an end. I wanted to end the relationship, but he refused to come to China to handle it, and it dragged on for several years.
I had no choice but to tell him that I didn't want anything and left the house. After he made sure again and again, he came to China to go through the formalities. In 2018, I finally got out of this marriage that existed in name only.
(2020 Tour of the United States)
After this series of changes, my body had a condition, my hands were shaking badly, I couldn't breathe, and the doctor said that I had hyperthyroidism and needed to recuperate.
But I need money to help my family, how can I rest, I can only persist while sick. When my Israeli friend found out, he thought that the company was overexploiting my labor, so he encouraged me to do foreign trade with him, and he was considered a partner, and took me to Germany for treatment of hyperthyroidism.
We are very close to each other, but our personalities are too similar, we are passionate about our work, but we are strong and extreme, and sometimes we will quarrel because of differences of opinion on work.
In order not to hurt each other's feelings, at the beginning of 2017, we decided to operate separately.
Working with friends made me understand what leadership thinking and overall situation awareness are, so my next entrepreneurial journey went very smoothly, and the core team gradually grew to more than 20 people.
(In 2020, we got married)
I don't want to think about feelings anymore and focus on my career and family. didn't expect that he would intersect with the male god D in his mind, and even came together with him.
D is French, has a calm personality, and is very handsome. He came to China more than 20 years ago to do business in Shanghai. Whether it is in the business world or in the art world, it is very famous and has left many legends.
When I first stepped into the fashion design industry, I heard about him, and after seeing several exhibitions of his paintings, I admired him and always regarded him as an idol.
I really know him because he is a friend of his ex-husband and occasionally sees him at gatherings in the circle. Later, I heard that his business was bankrupt and divorced. When I contacted him again, he had already planned to leave China.
I obviously admired him very much, but the ghost introduced his friends to him, but the two of them didn't call, and I, the matchmaker, could only keep looking for topics to warm up the atmosphere.
After a few times, we all gave up. I couldn't help but ask what D thought, and after going back and forth, I found that we were quite compatible, and my heart rippled again.
(For my husband's birthday)
Although I don't think I'm the ideal type for him, I didn't lose anything by trying. At a party, I plucked up the courage and pretended to be relaxed and said to him, "We haven't had a date alone yet, we both love to drink, and we have time to hang out together!"
Unexpectedly, he really asked me out to hang out alone. Slowly, we were together.
After two months of love, he suddenly said to me: "I Love You", I was very happy in my heart, I had been precipitated for 10 years, and I became excellent, and finally entered his eyes. When I first met him, I knew he was someone who would make my heart flutter.
In September 2020, we got the certificate, and I married the former male god as I wished, and decided to travel and get married.
We drove to the Qinghai Gansu Grand Ring Road, but we didn't expect to be affected by the epidemic. There were a few times because my husband was a foreigner, I couldn't stay in the hotel normally, so I had to make do in the car.
Although the journey was not smooth, the beautiful scenery on the road made up for all the regrets, and this special honeymoon trip has become the most beautiful memory in my heart.
(I'm pregnant)
Originally, we didn't plan to have children, but seeing the happy life of friends and families of three, we also wanted to have a crystallization of love.
But after trying for a while, I still didn't get pregnant, and my husband decided to go to the hospital to check his physical condition, but the doctor said that he was azoospermia.
He told me the news with a dejected expression as if the sky had fallen. I reassured him that it was no big deal and that he would go to another big hospital for a check-up.
It doesn't matter if you can want it, or if you can't want to be a dink. I love him as a person, and it's okay if I don't have children.
The results of the second examination were very pleasantly surprised, my husband is not really azoospermia, but the vas deferens is blocked, you can do recovery surgery first, if it is successful, you can get pregnant naturally, if the operation is not successful, you can also do IVF.
Unfortunately, the operation was not successful, and after we discussed, we decided to do IVF, and it took three attempts to succeed, and the moment I learned that I was pregnant, I was excited and happy.
(Me and the babies)
In April 2023, I gave birth to a pair of Chinese-French mixed-race dragon and phoenix fetuses by caesarean section. Rui Rui is white-skinned, blue-eyed, and looks like my husband, and Doni is yellow-skinned, brown-eyed, and looks like me.
I feel super happy, no matter during pregnancy or after childbirth, my husband has been patiently taking care of me, making me a rare little woman, and my heart feels sweet.
But I am very ambitious, I was still at work the day before giving birth, and I started working 10 days after giving birth.
Now my career is thriving, my family is happy, and I can work with my baby. Both parents are safe and healthy, and we take our children to visit them from time to time.
Everything I once dreamed of has come true, but there are countless possibilities in life, and the future is worth looking forward to and trying. But this time, I am no longer alone, but a family of four, going to the future together.
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[Dictator: Tanya]
[Editor: Ge Yiyi]
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