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Since he was a child, his family was not very wealthy, his father was an ordinary worker, and his mother was responsible for household chores at home. Although my life was poor, my parents never neglected my education and nurturing. "Xiao Ming, you have to study hard to change your current life in the future. "My mother used to tell me that. Although my father worked hard, he never drank or gambled, and his monthly salary, excluding living expenses, was used to pay for my school fees.
After graduating from university, I met my current wife, Li Yating. Her family is better off than ours, her father is a small business owner, and her mother is a housewife. Yating's personality is gentle and virtuous, and she treats people politely. We met and fell in love, and after a period of love, we decided to get married.
After we got married, Yating and I lived together in a small house given by her parents. My father-in-law and mother-in-law are both hardworking and simple people, my father-in-law works as an ordinary worker in a factory, and my mother-in-law takes care of the housework at home. They were very nice to us newlyweds, often brought some food, and although the family was average, they were very polite.
After getting married, I lived a very happy life, Yating is a good wife, and she makes three meals a day and waits for me to come home. Although our income is not much, we are still very comfortable with our thrifty family.
"Obviously, you've had a hard day, let's eat, I'll serve you some more dishes. Yating served the hot meal with a happy smile on her face.
"It's so fragrant, my Yating is amazing!" I sniffed hard and complimented.
In this way, our lives were uneventful, until one day I said to Yating, "Honey, I was thinking, why don't we let my parents move in with us? "
Unexpectedly, Yating resolutely objected: "No! Our current income is barely enough to support our own lives, how can we support two more old people? Besides, your parents will still have to live on their own pensions and savings in the future, and my parents are not obliged to support them." "
"If you really insist on doing this, then we have to divorce. My parents gave us this house in the first place, hoping that we would live a good life, not that we should support your parents. "
But on the other hand, Yating also has her reasons. It is true that our current economic conditions do not allow us to support two more elderly people, otherwise our own quality of life will be greatly reduced. Moreover, my parents-in-law gave us this house, and it was true that they wanted us to live a good life, not to support my parents.
I was really caught in a dilemma, full of struggles and entanglements. On the one hand, he is filial to his parents, and on the other hand, he is afraid of hurting the feelings of his wife and in-laws. I don't really know what to do.
Seeing that I didn't respond for a long time, Yating continued: "I know that you are a good son who is filial, but our current economic conditions really do not allow for raising two more old people. If you look at our current expenses, in addition to rent, water and electricity bills, we can't make ends meet every month. If we had two more people, we would have struggled to make ends meet. "
"Moreover, my parents gave us this house in the hope that we would live a good life on our own. Besides, your parents still have a pension and can live on their own, and we don't need to support them at all. "
I looked at Yating's serious expression, and knew in my heart that everything she said was out of good intentions, but the contradiction in my heart still couldn't be resolved.
At this moment, my father-in-law and mother-in-law heard our argument and rushed over to persuade us.
"Xiao Ming, your daughter has a lot of sense. Your parents, although they are old now, still have a pension, and with their own savings, they can live on their own. You young people are not very well off financially, and if you take your parents to live with you, you will be very poor yourself. Father-in-law said.
"Yes, Xiao Ming, the most important thing for you now is to live a good life with Yating. When your financial conditions are better, it is not too late to support your parents. The mother-in-law also chimed in.
Looking at the sincere gaze of my father-in-law and mother-in-law, my feelings became even more complicated. They have an extraordinary affection for me, just like they do for their own son. But now, in order to support my daughter's point of view, they are not willing to let my parents come and live with us.
When I got home, I sat alone in the living room, my mind full of thoughts.
"Father and mother, how can I, as your only son, leave you alone?
When I think of my parents working so hard for me, my tears are rolling. However, I also listened to Yating and her father-in-law's words. We are indeed strapped for now, and if we take our parents to live with us, the quality of life will be greatly reduced.
However, if I really abandoned my parents for the sake of my current life, how will I explain it to them in the future? I will live forever in guilt and self-blame.
Thoughts were churning in my head, I couldn't sleep all night, and overnight, my hair was a little gray.
"Obviously, I know you're struggling right now. However, you also have to think clearly, our current economic conditions really do not allow for two more elderly people. Besides, your parents are still healthy and can live on their own, and we don't need to worry about it at all. "
Hearing Yating repeat yesterday's words again, my heart felt like I had been stabbed severely, and I was immediately furious.
"Yating, why are you so unsympathetic? Are you just turning a blind eye to your parents who are so old and their health is deteriorating? How much they have suffered to raise me since I was a child! Now that it is my turn to be filial to them, you are good, instead of supporting me, you are blocking me! Don't you think you are too selfish?"
As soon as my words came out, Yating's face turned iron-blue, and her eyes were full of anger.
"Selfish? I'm not selfish! Am I not thinking about the future life of the two of us? Besides, your parents can take care of themselves now, and you don't need to worry about it at all!"
"Then you say, should I just leave them aside and ignore them now?"
"I don't mean that! I just think that you should live your life well, and when the conditions are better, it's not too late to support your parents!"
In this way, the argument between the two of us became more and more intense, and the scene got out of control for a while.
In the end, Yating finally got angry, she said sharply: "If you are really so stubborn, if you have to bring your parents in, then we can only divorce! Anyway, this house was given by my parents, if I get divorced, I will move out!"
I know that Yating said such things because she was afraid that after I really brought my parents here, her parents would be angry with us. However, her words were undoubtedly like a basin of cold water, extinguishing the last bit of hope in my heart.
Looking at her angry expression, my heart was cold like never before. After many years of husband and wife relationship, did they break up like this? I secretly made up my mind that even if she really divorced, I would definitely bring my parents in!
At this juncture, my father-in-law and mother-in-law rushed to hear the news, saw our tense appearance, and hurriedly stepped forward to persuade us.
"Yating, you are so young, why do you talk about divorce at every turn? Besides, you are now young and promising, how can you bury your feelings like this?" Mother-in-law persuaded.
"Yes, you should communicate well and don't hurt your peace. The father-in-law also nodded repeatedly.
Just when we were at an impasse, my parents called. Hearing about the dispute between us, they decided to mediate themselves.
"Kid, it really broke our hearts when we heard about you and Yating. The mother choked up and said, "You have not been married long ago, and your relationship is still so good, how can you bury each other's feelings for such a trivial matter?"
"Yes, Xiao Ming, you are still young and your future is uncertain, and the most important thing now is to manage your own business and family. As for us two old people, we don't need you to worry about it at all. Father said sadly.
Hearing my parents say these words in person, my heart is full of mixed feelings. On the one hand, I was glad that they understood my feelings, but on the other hand, I felt very guilty.
"Mom and Dad, I understand what you say. However, how can I, as your only child, leave you alone?
My words sparked endless guilt in my parents. The mother couldn't stop crying and said, "Son, it's all our fault! If your family wasn't so poor, you wouldn't have bothered so much." Look at it now, we have harmed you like this, and you and your daughter-in-law are so heartbroken for us!"
"Don't talk about my wife, it's all our fault. The father hurriedly comforted the mother, then turned to me and said, "Xiao Ming, you are our good son, how can we blame you? The most important thing for you now is to live a good life, and it will not be too late to support us again if you have a family business in the future." "
My parents' words calmed me down, and I realized that my stubbornness had created a huge crisis for the family. I sincerely apologized to Yating: "Honey, I'm sorry, I was confused for a while, and I almost buried our relationship. You're right, the most important thing for us now is to live a good life, and in the future, when we have a family business, it's not too late to support my parents again. "
Yating looked at me with distress in her eyes. She held my hand and said slowly, "Obviously, I'm also sorry that I neglected your filial piety to your parents. You are a good son, and I understand your struggle. However, we are indeed financially constrained now, and if we take your parents to live with us, the quality of life for all three of us will be greatly reduced. So, I think the best thing to do is to wait for us to be financially better in the future, and then we can support your parents. "
I nodded, looking at Yating gratefully. yes, she had a point. The most important thing for us now is to work together, have a family business in the future, and then be filial to our parents, instead of forcing ourselves now.
In this way, due to the intervention of our parents, the crisis between our husband and wife was finally resolved.
This incident made me deeply realize that family talents are our most important bonds. Whether it's a wife, a parent, or a father-in-law, they are all our closest people. We should be considerate of each other, not hurt each other's feelings for the sake of a momentary dispute.
It is precisely because of the importance of family that we quarrel over the matter of supporting our parents. However, even for the sake of our parents, we should not hurt our wife's feelings against her wishes. On the contrary, my wife should also be considerate of my filial piety to my parents, instead of resting on my laurels.
Only by understanding each other and understanding each other can families be harmonious; Only by respecting each other can families be happy. This incident has made me feel deeply.
After this argument, Yating and I both realized our fault. I realized that my stubbornness had brought a crisis to my family, and Yating also realized that she had neglected my filial piety to my parents.
With this lesson, we have all become more considerate of each other. I will try to avoid being stubborn and listen to Yating's opinions; And Yating will try to understand my filial piety to my parents, and will no longer blindly object.
In this way, the two of us have become more understanding and tolerant of each other. This kind of mutual understanding is the cornerstone of family harmony.
After in-depth communication and introspection, Yating and I finally reached a consensus: our parents do not live with us for the time being, but we will visit them regularly and share the responsibility of support.
In this way, the life of my parents is guaranteed, and I have fulfilled my responsibilities as a son; At the same time, the life of our husband and wife will not be greatly affected by the burden of two more elderly people.
This programme balances the interests of all parties and is a good solution. I believe that as long as we work together as a couple, we will be able to shoulder this responsibility together and let our parents enjoy their old age in peace.
Since then, our family has regained harmony, and Yating and I have become more considerate and understanding of each other. This experience made me deeply realize that family is an eternal bond, and mutual tolerance is the cornerstone of family happiness.
Since then, I have made time to visit my parents every week, as agreed between me and Yating. Sometimes I go alone, sometimes with Yating.
Every time we visited our parents, they prepared a variety of delicious dishes for us. Although it is just a simple home-cooked meal, it reflects the filial piety of our parents.
"Kid, how are you doing, do you have any troubles at work?" My mother always asked me worriedly.
Every weekend, Yating and I would take time out to visit our parents. Sometimes it's to call them in advance, sometimes it's to go straight to surprise them.
As soon as you enter the door, you can smell the smell wafting from the kitchen. Mother always prepared a variety of specialty dishes in advance and waited for us to arrive.
"Ouch, you're here! Come in, come in, the food is getting cold. "Mother greeted us warmly.
"Mom, you don't have to worry so much. I was a little embarrassed to say.
"Anywhere, it's nothing to cook a few specialty dishes. Mother said with a smile on her face, obviously glad that we were able to see her often.
In this way, we sat happily together as a family, savoring the home-cooked dishes made by our mother. It's just a few ordinary home-cooked dishes, but in my heart, it's sweeter and more delicious than any great restaurant's delicacies.
After lunch, my father would lead us around the house. Along the way, he always talks about the past, as if taking us back to the past days.
In addition to visiting our parents, Yating and I would pick them up from time to time to stay with us for a while. Whenever this happens, I thank God for allowing me to have such a good family.
"Mom and Dad, you've worked hard all your life, so let's rest with us now. What is needed, just open your mouth. "That's what I say every time my parents come.
"Ouch, you young people are the hardest. Now you work during the day and take care of the housework at night, and we old people live in your house, which adds to the chaos. Mother always said this modestly.
But in the following days, she took care of all the affairs of the family. Cooking, laundry, cleaning, she came to everything, for fear of causing me and Yating a little trouble.
Sometimes Yating comes back from work, and the kitchen is already fragrant. She smiled and said, "Mom, you don't have to worry so much, we young people are fine." "
"Whereever, just make a few specialty dishes. Mother always said with a smile on her face.
In this way, our parents shared our housework in their own way, silently. With them, life as a couple is much easier.
In the dead of night, I am grateful to have such a good family. In their own way, they always care about our lives, so that we can achieve unparalleled happiness.
With the help of my parents, my life with Yating has become much easier. After work, we don't have to worry about housework, we can have a good rest and enjoy the world of two.
On weekends, we would go out as a family. Sometimes it's a walk in the park, sometimes it's a dinner party at a restaurant. In these moments, we are like an ordinary family, happy and carefree.
"Children, you can stay with us now. We are old and will not live many years. "That's what my mother used to tell us.
"Mom, don't worry, we have a stable job now, and we will have time to accompany you in the future. "I would pat my mother on the shoulder and comfort her, but I also secretly made up my mind to be filial to my parents.
In this way, with the expectation of our parents and our efforts, our family became harmonious and happy. Our parents are there for us, we share their worries and solve their problems, and they are always concerned about our lives. We are like a whole, supporting each other and caring for each other.
This happiness of family harmony is the source of our quarrels. Looking back now, that quarrel was just a small turmoil, but it made us cherish the happy life in front of us even more.
With this lesson, Yating and I have become more considerate of each other and more important to our families. We began to respect and tolerate each other, and to maintain the harmony of this family with love.
In this way, with the expectations of our parents and our efforts, our family has become more harmonious and happy. This happiness is exactly what we have exchanged for sweat and tears, and it is precious.
Through this experience, I have come to appreciate how important my family is to us.
Family members are the closest people in our lives. Whether it's parents, wives or children, they are our most important bonds. Without the love of our families, we will become helpless, like a lonely boat, drifting in the sea of life.
Family gives us the greatest comfort and strength in life. When we struggle outside, it is our family that gives us the courage to move forward; When we were in trouble, it was our family that gave us hope to start anew.
With the support of our families, we have endless strength to overcome all the difficulties in life. On the contrary, without the love of our families, we will become helpless, and life will lose its meaning and motivation.
The biggest secret to maintaining family harmony is to be considerate of each other.
Although family members have a deep relationship, due to differences in age, personality, and experience, it is inevitable that there will be disagreements and disputes between them. If you force yourself or impose your own opinions on others, it will lead to even greater contradictions.