Teacher, I am in a complicated family relationship and have a feud with my mother-in-law. I've been wondering if I should get revenge on her. After all, I will also become a mother-in-law in the future, and I will also have a daughter-in-law. Yet, whenever I think of her joining forces with outsiders against me in an attempt to drive me away, my heart is filled with hatred. I often feel conflicted and don't know how to deal with this emotion.
Teacher, I sincerely hope that the conflict with my mother-in-law can be resolved and our family can be filled with warmth and harmony again. Could you please give me some advice.
Hello, first of all, I want to tell you that a bad mother-in-law relationship can be very painful for you. However, you have to be clear that revenge is not the best way to solve the problem. Instead, you should try to understand your mother-in-law and try to build a better relationship with her.
You mentioned that your mother-in-law used to work with outsiders to deal with you, probably because she had some misunderstanding or dissatisfaction with you. You can try to communicate with her and let her understand your thoughts and feelings. At the same time, you can also show her your respect and gratitude to her, so that she can feel your sincerity and kindness.
Alternatively, you can try to understand your mother-in-law's position and thoughts. Maybe she has some concerns or concerns, you can try to understand her position and try to reach a consensus with her. In this way, your relationship may improve.
Hate and love, in the world of emotions, they seem to be two extremes, but they are the same and require us to pay corresponding energy. However, hatred is a consumable force that burns our hearts like a fire that makes us struggle with anger and pain, while love is a nourishing force that nourishes our souls like a fountain of sweetness and allows us to grow in warmth and happiness.
Those who choose to treat others with hatred are often because they have a deep desire for love, but for various reasons they can't. The love in their hearts was suppressed and turned into hatred. For such people, we may choose to "turn sideways" and not confront them head-on, because their hatred is not directed at us personally, but is a projection of their inner pain.
A better approach, however, is to catch the hatred they project with love. Because love has the magical power to dissolve hatred and restore peace to the heart. When we respond to hatred with love, we are not only able to heal our own hearts, but we are also able to warm the hearts of the other person and make them feel the power of love.
Under the light of love, hatred melted away like ice and snow, revealing the original pure heart. Whoever we are, if we are willing to give love, we can eliminate hatred and fill the world with peace and warmth. Let us embrace the world with love, let hate have nowhere to hide, and let love spill all over the world.