"In a society, if everyone only talks about morality and not rules, then the flies and dogs can be popular. But if everyone talks about rules instead of moral kidnapping, order is stable, and humanity will naturally return. ”
Recently, an aunt took a video on the train and complained that the young man hung a curtain on the lower bunk to prevent the elderly from sitting, and the two opposite lower bunks that her camera was aimed at were all hung with simple curtains, and the young man who was angrily reprimanded by her sat with his head bowed behind the curtain.
ignored and accosted the whole process, and let the aunt who stood on the moral high ground shoot and condemn.
The aunt who held up her mobile phone high thought that everyone could sit on the lower bunk on the train, and the elderly with inconvenient legs and feet should sit even more, she thought that she was acting chivalrous and speaking for the 70-year-old man who had no place to sit, so she confidently called on netizens to judge.
I have seen cyberbullying others, but I have never seen cyberbullying my own.
Let's say that she understands the Internet, she can't distinguish the mainstream voice in today's Internet era, and under the trend of public opinion that young people are becoming more and more disgusted with being kidnapped by morality, she still holds up her mobile phone justifiably, seemingly cyberbullying young people, but in fact cyberbullying herself.
said that she didn't understand the Internet, the young people hadn't spoken yet, she directly and skillfully set up her mobile phone and took a picture, and it was even on the hot search list of major platforms on the Internet, which directly set off a stormy wave, and the Internet played more slippery than many young people.
Netizens shouted angrily: "It's not who shoots the video who is justified, it's the lower bunk that people have spent more money to book, it's love to let you sit, and it's your duty not to let you sit, so righteous, I don't know that young people take up the lower bunk you bought." ”
There are also many netizens who shook their wit and said: "Some elderly people have so much money in their cards and set up passwords, why don't they take it out and let young people use it." Between the lines, it is full of dissatisfaction and sarcasm about the aunt's forcible moral kidnapping.
In this regard, the customer service of China Railway 12306 responded that there is no clear provision that passengers in the lower berth cannot use the curtain fence, and it can be used without affecting other passengers, but it needs to be negotiated with passengers.
The implication is that when a passenger buys a berth in the lower berth, he or she has the right to use the berth for a certain period of time, and it is the passenger's freedom to use it without a curtain, and it is also the passenger's freedom not to let outsiders sit, and no one can interfere and demand.
There is another meaning, if you are good at talking to others, normal people are likely to open the curtain and let you sit down, if you exit it is a moral kidnapping condemnation, holding a mobile phone and thinking that it is reasonable to take a random shot, no matter how good-tempered people are, they can't help you to provoke like this? Originally, there was still the idea of giving up your seat, but now I wish you were standing the whole time.
I remember that some time ago, many netizens signed a particularly warm agreement on the Internet, called "Mutual Aid Agreement for Parents of Strangers".
They are full of sincere mutual agreement, they meet the elderly in need of help outside, and they will do their best to help the elderly, because this time I helped your parents, next time you may help my parents.
All just so that when the middle-aged and elderly parents go out, they are no longer embarrassed, helpless, overwhelmed, and confused like children as abandoned by the times.
It can be seen that most young people are kind enough, and they are well versed in the truth that the young and the young, the old and the old, but the premise is that they are willing and the other party deserves to be treated kindly, rather than being pointed at by the other party and asked to give up their seats in the name of morality.
Mutual respect and mutual understanding will make giving up seats a good interaction and mutual assistance in an ideal state.
I believe that the aunt who is aggressive with her mobile phone, but if she can politely say "The old man has bad legs and feet, is it convenient for the young man to open the curtain for the old man to do", it will not fall to the point that the thousand people pointed out.
There is a good saying:
Morality is like underwear, it can only be used to restrain oneself, not to judge others, and a person who only knows that under the guise of morality and seeks benefits for himself, is the most immoral.
With the rapid development of the times, people are paying more and more attention to their own feelings and boundaries, and young passengers use curtains to enclose their berths, which is intended to refuse the prying eyes and use of others, and create a relatively private space for themselves.
The aunt who took the video for moral kidnapping, her ideology has probably not kept up with the rhythm and changes of the current era, and regards the sense of boundary that young people value as selfishness, and forces young people to serve her ideological value system on the grounds of moral kidnapping.
As everyone knows, what young people pursue today is that everyone is a stranger who meets in Pingshui, and there will be no intersection in the future, I don't take advantage of you, and you don't take advantage of me, and you can't deprive me of the right to lie down comfortably just because you want to sit, unless you politely take out the due attitude to ask for my wishes.
Therefore, the aunt who opened her mouth was moral, but she became the most immoral one.
In fact, this is not the first time that "sleeper curtains" have rushed to the hot search, everyone has discussed this many times before, and there are countless related posts on major platforms, and the response of each railway 12306 customer service is also very clear:
After the passenger buys the ticket, the right to use the corresponding position is limited to the ticket purchaser, and the ticket buyer buys the lower berth, and the right to use the lower berth is owned by the ticket buyer, and naturally there is also the freedom to isolate this small space from the curtain.
But ask yourself, is it really just the lower bunk that makes most people uncomfortable or even annoying?
No, people are really tired of people who are neither polite nor measured, and who make simple things complicated and contradictory.
Obviously, talking well can solve the problem, she has to hold up her mobile phone and slap it in the face of others for moral kidnapping, obviously let it be her duty not to let it, she just takes it for granted, as if others naturally owe her.
The greatest evil of human nature is double standards and moral kidnapping, treating oneself with tolerance and treating others harshly, and is destined to be unpopular wherever you are.
Again:
Whether it is respecting the old and loving the young, or showing hands, it can only be the humility of the helper, not the rhetoric used by the recipient to morally kidnap.