Are you tired of the endless urging of your child?
Have you ever longed for a child who can take the initiative to learn and not procrastinate?
The book "Hold Back, Don't Meddle, Let Children Be Independent in Self-Management Lessons" is like a key that opens the door for us to help children manage themselves.
Imagine how easy it would be if children could take control of their time and organize their studies and entertainment reasonably.
So, how can we nurture our children's independence?
1. The first step is to make your child aware that he or she needs to learn to manage his or her time. If you want to make your time meaningful, you have to think about what you want to do. "What do you want to do?" "What do you like to do?" Knowing the answers to these questions is the first step to facing life positively.
2. Help your child make the first form: "Task Pyramid", write the necessary things such as waking up, going to bed, bathing, and helping with housework into the first level of the pyramid, write homework and its "do's" into the second level of the pyramid, and write the third level of the pyramid into the things that the child wants to try and challenge. Write leisure, relaxing activities into the fourth level of the pyramid. With this criterion, children can fill in the to-do tasks in turn according to the urgency of the matter. The child can then refer to the pyramid and fill in the calendar with various events.
3. Help your child make a second form: make a daily plan, fill in the form of a time to complete each thing, and parents can let your child fill in the smiling face that expresses his mood in the impression column. If the result is the same as the child expected, fill in a smiley face, and if it is different from the prediction, fill in a crying face. At the end of the day, parents can look at the form with their children and talk about their impressions.
4. If the child is unable to complete the plan within the specified time, parents and children agree that "no TV can be watched until the plan is completed", which will help the child improve his concentration.
5. When asking your child "why" and "how", parents can ask, "I guess there must be a reason why you can't finish it quickly, can you talk to your mom?" "I know the game is fun, but if I keep playing the game, will I not have time for anything else?"
6. Guide your child to "store time", which means "you can do it after you have done it××. For example, if the child completes the task at the scheduled time, the parent can give the child a "fulfillment certificate", and when the child collects 10, the child can do what he wants to do.
7. When a child does something wrong, parents should first look into their child's eyes and speak their thoughts in a language that the child can understand. After speaking, look at the child carefully and wait for the child to reply.
8. Make a promise with your child that "when mom sits on 'mom's chair', whether it's reading or watching the computer, it's mom's own time." So, whenever she sat in that chair, the children would not come and disturb her.
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Independence is not only an ability, but also an attitude to life.
As the book says, "Letting go is my greatest fulfillment and deepest love for you." ”
When children learn to manage themselves, they can take better control of their lives and become their true selves.