In today's society, "Dink" has become the choice of many couples. But behind every choice, there will be some hidden pain, hiding the side of human nature that is good at disguise. The husband and wife who originally decided to dink together after marriage, with the passage of time and the subtle change of traditional concepts, the unwavering promise of the past has now evolved into a hidden pain in the heart of a woman.
Dink from a Male Perspective – A "White Will" Lie?
A 44-year-old female executive has had her eggs retrieved three times, and her marriage will fall apart if she no longer cares about her physical condition in order to have a child. The reason is that her husband wants to have children, and he also gave her an ultimatum to divorce if she doesn't have children. At this moment, the child is the guarantee of her marriage. So in order to have children and stabilize the marriage and family, I endured physical and mental pain.
When it comes to the issue of childbearing, some men will put forward the idea of "agreeing with Dink", or even package it as a "white and thoughtful" lie full of love and consideration. Such a decision can give the partner a freer lifestyle and reduce the stress of parenting. In fact, when they regret it, how much pain it will bring to women.
Men and women who got married and didn't have children thought that Dink was their best choice, but the tradition engraved in their bones would more or less make those men who chose Dink regret it first!
Somewhere, I saw a topic like this: "Is there a Dink over forty years old, tell me that you regret it now?"
Many couples who decide to dink are already on the road to regret it if they don't survive to the age of 40. Some can't stand the loneliness of the family, and the man is no longer crazy at the age of 40. Friends are gradually socializing, and most of the people who ask friends to go out are rejected. Looking at the children of friends around me, it is inevitable that I will feel a little depressed and regretful.
The pain and anxiety that a woman endures
In a marriage where the husband and wife have been together for decades, the man still has a choice, but the woman has almost no capital, and she needs to pay more effort and suffer more physically if she wants to have a child.
There is such an example around her, a woman is 58 years old, and she chose to give up having children for work, and her husband also agreed with her idea, understood her, and comforted her. The two of them have been working hard in the south, earning tens of millions of family properties, and there are two villas.
But the woman can no longer change the heart of a man, and every day she goes home to guard the empty house, waiting for her husband to come home. She knew that her husband had a home outside, but she had nothing to do. She had a miscarriage for the sake of her career, and her body never got better.
Now she is very close to her mother's family, and has close contacts with her brother's nephews and nieces, she said: "Even if I really can't walk one day, my brother's family will not ignore me for the sake of my loneliness." ”
She didn't seem to have enough confidence in saying these words, knowing that her nephews and nieces were very good to her, but who knew how to do it until the moment when she couldn't walk?
Some people persuaded her to leave and live on her own, but she had a stubborn temper and would rather keep an empty house than let other women live in with children.
There are many such situations in reality, women need to be cautious and cautious before deciding to "Dink", time passes, and the other party regrets it decades after marriage, and the woman's pain cannot be told, and it may only be pity that can no longer be redeemed from reality.
Of course, we can't deny that dink is a lifestyle choice, and everyone has the right to make decisions based on their own circumstances. However, before making this decision, women need to be cautious and cautious. Because once the man regrets it, the pain and helplessness that the woman has to endure will be unspeakable.