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Unique arrangement
The sun is setting, and the sun is shining. Outside the window is a bright starry sky, spread out like a curtain. Zheng Yuling sat by the window, her eyes slightly closed, as if she was listening intently to the whispers of the starry sky.
Her countenance was calm and serene, and there was no sign that she was about to enter her seventies and eighties.
As an elderly woman who is nearly 70 years old, many people may feel sorry and uneasy about the imminent end of her life. But for Cheng Yuling, death is not a terrible thing, but a new stage of life that she has long been ready to meet.
"My dear, please don't feel sad for me," she often said to her friends, "and whenever I am in a moment of endless darkness, I recall those carefree childhood days, and my heart is full of gratitude and happiness."
For the end of her life, Zheng Yuling not only has no fear, but has a strange expectation and calmness. In her meticulous plan, the funeral would not be too solemn and mourning, and former friends and relatives would not have to come to see them off.
She hopes to leave this world in the simplest and simplest way, alone and peacefully.
This choice may seem a bit alternative and withdrawn in the eyes of others, but for Zheng Yuling, this loneliness is her greatest freedom and relief. Working alone all her life, relying on her own hands to earn money to support herself, she has found inner peace in the last days of her life.
"There is no marriage, no children, nothing but money, this is the real sobriety in the world. Zheng Yuling muttered softly. She seems to have seen through the essence of life, no longer obsessed with fame, fortune and wealth, and the only thing she hopes for is to leave safely.
She once told reporters sincerely: "Resolutely not getting married and not having children, these are the two life principles that I have always adhered to." And for such a choice, perhaps only she knows best.
Fear of marriage
Zheng Yuling's fear of marriage stems from the shadow of her childhood family.
Her parents quarreled constantly due to personality differences, and finally chose to divorce and divorce. This is undoubtedly a heavy blow for a child. Since then, Cheng Yuling can only rely on her mother for her life, and in the social environment of Hong Kong at that time, it was extremely difficult for a single mother to raise her children.
Poverty, lack of love, and the breakdown of her family all left indelible scars on Zheng Yuling's young heart. She was acutely aware of how unreliable and fragile it was to rely on men to sustain the family.
The departure of her father made her deeply afraid and distrustful of marriage.
This fear was like a deep-rooted seed that grew wildly in her heart. It has been with her all her life, even if she has a successful career and financial freedom, she has never been able to get rid of this shadow.
In the face of the persuasion of her friends, Zheng Yuling once said sincerely: "Resolutely not to enter into a marriage relationship with the opposite sex and never want to have children, these are the two life principles that I have always adhered to."
The tone was full of determination and unwaveringness.
This persistence stems from a deep fear of trauma in the family of origin. She would rather be alone than repeat the mistakes of the past and experience the disintegration of her family again.
Celibacy seemed to her as the only option, a way for her to protect herself.
A new star shines
In 1978, the great director Tsui Hark decided to start filming his debut film "Golden Knife Lover". With infinite hopes for his career, he made up his mind to carefully cast the film.
At that time, the film and television industry was full of stars and stars. In such an environment, Tsui Hark unexpectedly chose an unknown girl, Zheng Yuling, to play the role of the heroine Yu An'an.
In fact, Zheng Yuling at that time didn't know anything about acting, she was just a small host of Golden Harvest TV, and occasionally ran tricks in the crew. Tsui Hark's bold choice undoubtedly reflects his enterprising and innovative spirit.
Sure enough, one stone stirred up a thousand waves, and the film received unprecedented popularity and praise as soon as it was released. Zheng Yuling also officially entered the film and television industry and started her brilliant acting career.
Recalling that scene, Zheng Yuling often smiled. Although she has no foundation in acting, with her innocence and passion, she quickly integrated into this circle.
The seniors in the crew also paid great attention to and took care of this newcomer.
However, just when her career was in full swing, Golden Harvest TV suddenly closed down, and Zheng Yuling fell into confusion and helplessness. Fortunately, she was quickly "fished" back by Hong Kong TVB, and collaborated with the equally unknown Chow Yun-fat to shoot the classic film "Man in the Net".
The two newcomers emerged together, and a hot kiss in the play became famous in one fell swoop. The subsequent publicity strategy undoubtedly pushed the popularity of the two to a higher level, and their careers were booming.
Some media even rumored that the two fell in love because of the play.
Rise and fall
Although her career is getting better, Zheng Yuling's love life has never been calm. She and TVB screenwriter Gan Guoyang have been in a relationship for 10 years, but finally broke up because they insisted on the principle of "resolutely opposing premarital sex".
Recalling the love time with Gan Guoliang, Zheng Yuling always has a happy look on her face. In 1979, the two got married because of a drama and fell in love with each other at first sight.
Gan Guoliang is not only talented, as one of the pillars of the entire TVB, his temperament and insight also fascinate Zheng Yuling.
At the beginning of their relationship, the two couldn't wait to be inseparable. In public, Zheng Yuling always unabashedly kisses and shows her love with Gan Guoliang. And in private, they are even more glue-like, sweet and affectionate.
It's a pity that this seemingly inseparable love has finally come to an end.
Adhering to the principle of "resolutely opposing premarital sex" is the most fundamental reason for the two to break up. In fact, Gan Guoliang is not unacceptable to this bottom-line problem, on the contrary, he believes that only women who really pay attention to self-esteem and self-love can win his respect and cherishment.
But after 10 years of long-distance love, it seems that they gradually lose sight of the possibility of the future. After all, a life of only love without responsibility and commitment makes people feel at a loss.
"Zheng Yuling is a very good woman, but unfortunately we can't work after all. After the breakup, Gan Guoliang said sincerely. From these words, it can be seen that there was no substantial betrayal or harm between the two, but the difference in values eventually widened the distance between the two.
The pain of the breakup didn't seem to last long, because a year later, Zheng Yuling followed the rhythm of life and locked in a new emotional sustenance - singer Lu Fang.
At the age of 34, she accepted Lu Fang's pursuit without reservation.
The Hong Kong media affectionately described the pair of "long-legged lovers" as: "Lu Fang is just a small person, except for the popular "Friends Don't Cry", no more classic works have come out.
Zheng Yuling not only tried her best to support his career, but even willingly supported this 'good baby' and let him lie under her wing carefree.
This relationship lasted for 16 years, and it was not until Lu Fang publicly said that "being with Zheng Yuling is like going to prison" after the breakup that Zheng Yuling completely pulled him into the blacklist.
Faced with this cruel sentence, Zheng Yuling's heart was once again deeply stabbed.
This undoubtedly deepened her distrust of men again, and also strengthened her determination to "resolutely not enter into a marriage relationship with the opposite sex". For an independent and self-reliant woman, it is really a torturous thing to be entangled with a scumbag for too long.
Unique view
In the eyes of outsiders, Zheng Yuling's attitude towards marriage and childbirth is really unique. But she has her own deep reasons and unique insights into this.
"Resolutely not to get married and not to have children", these are the two life principles that Zheng Yuling has always adhered to. And the reason why she has such a firm negative attitude towards marriage and childbirth is buried deep in her traumatic memories of her parents' divorce.
Since she was a child, Zheng Yuling has witnessed the process of her parents arguing and eventually divorced due to personality discord. As a child, this was undoubtedly one of the most painful experiences of her life.
Since then, she has developed a deep fear and distrust of marriage.
Being alone is lonely, but it's always much better than following the mistakes of your parents. Cheng Yuling said sincerely to her friends: "Whenever I am in the endless dark moments, I will recall those carefree childhood days, and my heart is full of gratitude and happiness.
Celibacy seemed to her as the only option, a way to protect herself with the greatest freedom and self-protection. It is precisely because of this that she has so much fear and resistance to marriage and childbirth.
Zheng Yuling's life philosophy seems unique, but it is actually not unreasonable. After all, who can fully understand the hardships and struggles of a person's life? Some people think that she is too complacent, but she is just living her own way of understanding life.