In the standard of a man's blind date, is it really not important to have a degree of education? Marrying a highly educated woman back home will result in endless quarrels. Without exception, a high degree of education does not equal a high level of cognition. A high degree probably means that she argues with you at home every day, and she has to fight for a win or lose.
For many people, the three views > personality> family> appearance> age> job> education. This woman won't understand that it is better to marry a woman with three positive views than a woman with a high degree of education.
There are more people with high education and poor character, and high education is not beneficial to marriage, but it raises the standard of mate selection.
Absolute optimal sorting, I don't have money, will I say no money? No. If I have money, I will say that it is good to be rich! I will say that it is good to be married, and if I am not married, I will say that it is good not to get married! I will only say that I am good! Because I have experienced it!
I don't have it, I haven't experienced it, I can only hope that many people don't get married and don't defile people's thoughts, you can feel that you are right.
Because the consequences of right and wrong are borne by you, if you transmit your ideas to others, others will have to bear their own fruits for your causes, and as for good and bad, they will bear the responsibility of others!
For example, a lawyer, highly educated, he will get you out of the house. For example, finance, don't think you can achieve financial freedom. She will make you feel like you only need to spend 300 a month, and you have to keep an account for 1 cent.
For example, if my monthly income is only 5,000 yuan, will a girl with a high degree of education look up to me?
said that the education is high, at least you have to graduate from a bachelor's degree, a bachelor's degree, Ruyilang in the eyes of people requires a monthly salary of at least 20,000 yuan, so I have a monthly salary of 5,000.
Even if I am willing to accept a high degree of education, will other girls with a high degree of education be willing to accept me? So why do I ask girls to have a high degree of education? Besides, according to the thinking of these girls who have drunk enough poisonous chicken soup today, the boys' money is the whole family, if not all of them are girls'.
And no matter how much a girl earns, it is the girl's own and has nothing to do with the man, so what does it have to do with the man who earns more than a highly educated girl?
A man's high education is a plus, and an older woman's high education is a minus in the eyes of most men. Which one should you choose, a young woman with a low education or an older leftover girl with a high education?
If you choose the latter, if you are over 35 years old and you can't conceive it, you can say otherwise. Even if you can conceive, the percentage of deformities is 5 times that of the former.
In fact, until now, many older leftover women have not figured out what men pay attention to when choosing a wife. Many men choose a partner who really doesn't pay attention to your master's degree, two apartments, and a car.
These men can't enjoy it, but because of your external conditions, the cost of marriage increases. Men pay attention to appearance, gentle and kind character, and the most important thing is to know cold and hot, don't wear hats!
Don't you see: The high school teacher's two husbands and wives have children's grades in their twenties? A woman's academic qualifications are not directly related to the child's IQ, and academic qualifications only mean that they will be able to take exams, not that they have a wide range of knowledge, solid learning, high IQ, and good character!
In fact, the higher the educational background, the weakness of a woman, and the lower the educational background, the early start of a family, why is this? Whether a family is happy or not does not depend on academic qualifications and work ability, but on the ability to get along with each other.
If you are better, but you look down on men and look down on those who are lower than you, and you can't be compatible with the following, then you can only live by yourself.
She is highly educated, makes a lot of money, is good, but she looks down on you, she doesn't give you money, and most importantly, she still dislikes you, so what mood is there to live? A man with a monthly income of 5,000 and a mortgage are you willing to marry him?
It's not that you don't value academic qualifications, but it's even better to have academic qualifications. For a man with an annual income of more than three or four hundred thousand, it doesn't matter whether a woman can make money or not.
The so-called academic qualifications in marriage are just the beauty that girls expect in their hearts, and they are imagined by themselves. Back to reality, there are many uncontrollable variables, and being too idealistic is just drawing a big pie for yourself.
From the standpoint of a person who is still on the blind date, there is nothing wrong with it, but from the standpoint of a man, in fact, the inner character is the most important.
A high degree of education does not mean a good character, a high IQ does not necessarily lead to a high income, and a high income does not mean that it will be the standard of a happy family. Pretty and academic qualifications are more important than pretty, and IQ and EQ are more important than EQ. You can't rely on rhetoric, depending on the reality, whether there are more people chased by highly educated girls, or more people chased by girls of the rich second generation.
My friend's wife, who has a master's degree and a junior college, has endless quarrels every day because of the disagreement between the three views, and the two daughters are even more inherited from their mother's hard-mouthed and unreasonable style, and the scores in 6 subjects during middle school are not as many as others' one subject.
The poor grades have been called by the head teacher to talk a few times, and the eldest daughter's high school grades are not good, and she is ready to ask her younger brother to take him to learn a trade.
Parents who graduated from primary school 30 years ago, there are not a few children who were admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University, and the children whose parents graduated from Fudan scored 14 points in the English test, how do you explain it?
A male doctor married a wife with a secondary school degree, the wife admires her husband very much, she has food when she gets home from work and doesn't have to do housework, and after eating with the child to do homework, she goes back to the study to play games, and the wife also tells the child not to quarrel with the father to work, which you don't envy?
Education can not be inherited, knowledge can not be inherited, many poor parents of the same children are admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University, moreover, a lot of knowledge is learned in school, many parents do not have time to teach, you can hire a teacher if you have money. She will only look for girls with high education who are higher than her, and they really don't consider it when they are generally there.
I don't care about academic qualifications, it means that it is okay to have a college diploma or even a little lower, mainly depending on the woman's personality and way of doing things.
A high degree of education is more of a crutch, because a high degree does not mean a high emotional intelligence, I have a Ph.D. from the University of Hong Kong downstairs, tell him a simple question, and he will give you a bunch of theories.
It is certain that those with high education have a higher IQ than ordinary people, but when they get married and live, their EQ is far ahead of their IQ. I found that the proportion of people with high IQ who also have high emotional intelligence is not too high, and more importantly, it is not easy to chase.
Children's IQ is random, it does not mean that the IQ of parents is high, the IQ of children is high, and the high IQ of children does not mean that children are good at learning. Giving birth to a worry-free angel baby is all luck, the kind of green smoke from the ancestral tomb.
The most important thing in marrying a wife is the emotional intelligence of the other party, and education only represents IQ, not emotional intelligence. My friend's wife, a graduate student, earns a lot, but she doesn't care about the big and small things at home, and she only spends the money she earns, and the family doesn't get a penny, what's so good about that?
To marry a daughter-in-law, you must marry someone who is gentle and considerate, sensible and filial, and you don't need that kind of princess disease, or a high degree of education, read a lot of books, and have a high realm, and you are tired when you marry back.
There is a diminishing effect on women's academic qualifications, and if they want to achieve a bachelor's degree, they will continue to decline above the bachelor's degree, and the doctoral degree will basically be equal to zero or negative points. It is indeed a good thing for women to have a high degree of education, but they must have a virtuous inner quality, otherwise men will be under pressure, and men will choose those who have the ability under themselves for inner happiness!
Having an academic background does not mean having a culture! Academic qualifications cannot replace the problem of IQ, whether it is in family life or in society, emotional intelligence is more needed, and high emotional intelligence is the guarantee of family happiness! There is no emotional intelligence with IQ.
If you add that the character is not good, such as impatience, irritability, self-esteem, viciousness, and unfilial piety...... Such a person is basically a "scourge" in a family!
As the old saying goes: From another point of view, the advantages are also disadvantages!