Every parent wants their child to be good enough, and it is unacceptable for their child to fail and make mistakes.
When a child makes a mistake, many parents will start chattering, for example, when he is ready to start doing something, he can't help but tell the consequences quickly, such as "you hurry up and write homework, and then you can't finish it when you play"
When I can't finish writing, I will continue to say, "Look at it, you just asked you to write but you didn't write"
In fact, such a reaction, one is easy to let the child have rebellious behavior, the other is that they can never have self-control, it is better to be a lazy parent, do not remind at this time, let the child play, and bear the consequences yourself, we are giving advice.
There are also when the child makes a mistake and does not do well, directly for the child to do, when he sees that the child is not doing right, directly start to do it himself, although it saves a lot of things, but this matter the child still will not do, in the long run he will not be able to master this skill.
It's better to let go and let the child do it, this process also exercises the child's patience, and the summary through failure will always do better.
Psychologist Björk once said that true intellectual curiosity and profound learning are never smooth sailing, and setbacks are "necessary experiences". Compared with the knowledge that comes easily, the knowledge gained after experiencing some difficulties can be stored in the brain more effectively and persistently, and some small mistakes can promote the growth of emotional and cognitive abilities.
Moreover, the cost of making mistakes when children are young is still very low, and too many reminders, guidance and denials are a heavy burden for children. In the long run, the world is full of negative energy, the pattern cannot be broad, and it is easy to become timid, inferior, and lack a sense of value.
Only by allowing children to make a lot of trial and error within a reasonable range can children learn to summarize and grow.