Recently, my husband didn't know what was going on, and he wanted to bring his 87-year-old mother to live with him.
When I heard this, my face was full of disbelief.
Not to mention taking care of others, I take care of all the housework at home by myself.
If I really take my mother-in-law to live with us, I won't be able to take care of her life at all.
Faced with my husband's arrangement, I directly made it clear: I only cook by myself and don't care about other things.
Unexpectedly, after only half a month, my husband couldn't bear it anymore......
Contributor: Anonymous Lin Xiao (Disclaimer: This article is not my own experience, it is based on the narrator's words)
01
My husband and I moved to the city after we got married, and when we were younger, we thought about taking my mother-in-law over to live with us.
But the mother-in-law said that she was unwilling to leave her hometown for anything, and kept saying that life in the village was more suitable for her.
In the face of my mother-in-law's persistence, my husband and wife had no choice, and would go back and forth between the village and the city many times during our breaks.
My father-in-law passed away when my husband was young, and my mother-in-law could only raise three children by herself.
I admire my mother-in-law very much, a woman can pull three older children in the most difficult time, and I ask myself if I don't have such ability.
The mother-in-law has two sons and a daughter, and the sister-in-law married out of town and will only come back during the New Year's holidays.
The husband's brother stayed in his hometown and lived with his mother-in-law.
At that time, when my husband and I were talking about marriage, we discussed the maintenance of my mother-in-law.
As a daughter-in-law, I naturally understand that my husband wants to do his filial piety, and I don't have too much thought about the choice of living with my mother-in-law.
When I was young, I even discussed with my sister-in-law, and the two families took turns to take care of my mother-in-law, and after a while, I would take my mother-in-law to the city.
But I didn't expect that after my mother-in-law first came to my house, she said that she would go back to my eldest brother and sister-in-law.
"I can't get used to living here, I don't even have a vegetable patch, and I have to go to the vegetable market if I want any vegetables!"
The mother-in-law was accustomed to the carefree life in the village, and she was very uncomfortable with the life in the building, and in less than a week, she packed her belongings and said that she would go back to her eldest brother.
It was the first time my mother-in-law lived in our house and the only time she lived with us in decades.
When my husband knew about this, he always had an attitude of opposition, and he always let his mother live in the eldest brother's house, which was unreasonable.
At that time, the two brothers had a big quarrel over this matter, the eldest brother and her husband were not indifferent people, and they took the issue of mother-in-law's support to heart.
But after all, there are still some inconveniences, among which the eldest brother is sometimes not at home is the mother-in-law who helps take care of the mother-in-law, and I have not seen any traces of dirt on the clothes on the mother-in-law's body.
"Brother, you don't have to fight with me, it's my mother who doesn't want to go over to live, it's not that I won't let me!"
In the end, the two parties quarreled for a long time, and the mother-in-law said that she did not want to live in the city in the future.
"I'm doing well here, I can't worry about my chickens!"
In the end, my mother stayed at my eldest brother's house, and my husband and I would give my sister-in-law 5,000 yuan a month for living expenses.
"Brother and sister, what are you doing here, what money does the family want, you can take this money back!"
"Sister-in-law, this money is for you and your mother's living expenses, let's buy anything you want to eat when the time comes!"
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The eldest brother and sister-in-law are both loyal and honest people, and the cost of staying in the village as a family is not large.
Although the matter of supporting the mother-in-law fell on the head of the eldest brother and sister-in-law, the husband still had to pay part of the alimony after all.
At that time, my husband thought that my mother-in-law had no unnecessary expenses, so she could simply give one or two thousand for living expenses.
"There's nothing in the village, not to mention that our mother likes to dump some vegetable patches, and there is nothing to spend money on. ”
I don't agree with my husband's idea at all, although my mother-in-law doesn't have anything to consume, it doesn't mean that my eldest brother and sister-in-law don't either.
There are a lot of inconveniences in taking care of an elderly person who is slow, and there will definitely be a bit of friction when living together as a family.
"You take more when the time comes, now the life of the eldest brother is not easy, and the more money will be given to the sister-in-law!"
So maybe for the sake of living expenses, the sister-in-law doesn't have too many complaints about taking care of her mother-in-law.
In the decades that followed, our two families continued to get along in this way.
But just a month ago, my husband suddenly made a decision at dinner at night, that is, to take his mother-in-law to live with him.
When my husband said this decision, I was in a confused state and quickly asked my husband what had happened.
"It's nothing, it's just that my mother is getting older now, and life in the city is more convenient, so I can catch up when there is something. ”
My mother-in-law is now 87 years old, and although she is slow, her words are not confused at all, and she can even clearly express what she wants.
"Did you tell your sister-in-law about this? What did they say?"
"I will take my mother to the Holy Lake for a while, do you still need to discuss?"
After hearing my husband's answer, I was silent, this matter had already been decided in my husband's heart, even if I tried to persuade him in exchange for only quarrels.
My mother-in-law is very old, and she can't do without people around her, and no one is at home during the day, my husband and I have our own jobs, and our children have their own studies.
"When the time comes, who will take care of it, and we won't be at home during the day?"
"What are you doing in such a hurry, take it over when the time comes!"
My husband's answer made me a little angry, I started to implement it without preparation and no plan, and then I could only do nothing!
"These things have to be planned clearly, are we going to hire a nurse or let's draw out one person!"
"What kind of nurse please, my own mother can take care of it herself!"
"Okay, then listen to you, I'll only take care of the cooking, and you will be responsible for the rest!"
When I said this, I couldn't help but bring a trace of anger, most of the housework at home fell on my head, and my husband couldn't even help someone who couldn't even help an oil bottle when it was poured.
Now he is thinking of a trick, in this case, I don't need to interfere too much in family affairs.
When it was time to pick up his mother-in-law, her husband's behavior was naturally criticized and scolded by her eldest brother and mother-in-law.
"I live here well, why do I want to go to you, whoever likes to go, I won't go anyway. ”
The 87-year-old mother-in-law was very resistant to this matter, and she refuted it clearly when her husband talked about it.
"Brother, what are you doing here, why do you suddenly want to pick up your mother!"
"The city's resources are better, and it will be more convenient for me to take my mother to see a doctor at that time. ”
In the end, neither my mother-in-law nor my eldest brother had the determination to stop my husband, so I packed my luggage and took my mother-in-law to our house.
03
When my mother-in-law first arrived, I felt like I had gone back decades, when my mother-in-law was as impatient as she is now.
"Tell me about you! I live well at home, you let me come here, there is no one to talk to!"
"Mom, the city is no better than the village, why can't you buy it!"
"What about my vegetable patch! What about my chickens!"
I felt a burst of amuse when I watched the scene of my mother-in-law accusing her husband, don't look at my mother-in-law is already a seventy-old or eighty-year-old person, but teach people a lesson, the voice is loud and powerful!
I have already arranged things with my husband, I am responsible for the three meals at home, and the job of taking care of my mother-in-law belongs to my husband.
But unexpectedly, on the first day, her husband couldn't help but complain.
"Mom, I still have to go to work, don't call me all the time! Xiaoxiao will come back soon at noon to cook for you!"
The old man couldn't be hungry, so when it was time for lunch, I hurried home to cook for my mother-in-law.
But after all, it is not a solution, and my mother-in-law is alone at home and has no one to talk to, so she can only call her husband.
But both of us have our own jobs to do, and we can't stay on the phone at all.
Even if I asked my mother-in-law to go downstairs to walk around the small park, my husband and I were very worried, after all, we couldn't be too far away from home at such an old age.
After this life lasted for a few days, not only the husband, but even the mother-in-law couldn't bear it, and said that she had to go back to her eldest brother.
My husband is now a head or two, and she was the one who said that he wanted to take his mother-in-law over at the beginning, and he was the one who couldn't stand it.
Seeing that my husband was getting more and more haggard, and he looked weak every day when he went to work, I still called my eldest brother and sister-in-law.
"I just said that my little brother doesn't think about the consequences before doing things, and my mother is so happy every day when she lives with me!"
My sister-in-law is also a reasonable person, and after I explained the cause and effect, my sister-in-law agreed to send our mother-in-law back.
At this time, my mother-in-law had only lived in our house for less than half a month, and I was worried that my husband would not let go, so I thought about waiting a few more days.
But what I didn't expect was that my husband took the initiative to talk about it in the evening!
"Daughter-in-law, I think let's send my mother back, my mother is not happy living with us these days!"
After hearing my husband's words, I couldn't help but feel funny, I understood my husband's filial piety, but he used the wrong method.
"Don't worry, I'll tell my eldest brother and sister-in-law about this, you can tell your mother the news. ”
When I woke up the next morning, my mother-in-law was already dressed and sitting on the couch, and I always felt that this scene was exactly the same as the scene when my mother-in-law first lived in my house decades ago.
Mother-in-law really doesn't like to live in our house, not only depressed but also no one to talk to, even do what you want to do, when you live in the eldest brother's house, there is also the company of the sister-in-law, and the daily life is to walk and feed the chickens.
On the way back after sending his mother-in-law, her husband kept feeling that he was really kind to do bad things, and he tossed for so long in vain.